Valentine's Day reading for situationships - Don't be fooled by them! What are they feeling?

Hey, hey, hey, beautiful heart! What is vibing today? Dr. Denae Arias here to do today's reading. I am pulling on the Valentine's Day energy, um, and just know that this energy is fluid. You could already be feeling this. It may be on its way to you, or you have worked past this. But honestly, I feel like, um, this is an energy that has been building up to a pressure point. In other words, there feels like a lot of pressure and emphasis put on Valentine's Day and how somebody is treated versus, or not versus, but the way somebody is treated, whether they're acknowledged, given gifts, paid attention to, whatever, that determines somebody's value and worth. This has been a karmic cycle for a long, long time in your life. I do feel that with this lead-up, you have been given experiences and opportunities to really practice boundaries and self-love. So when I was meditating on this, this definitely feels like, um, not so much a disconnect versus a miscommunication going on, and miscommunication because communication isn't happening. Uh, this energy is very dualistic. So we've got the 3D human ego story going on, and then there's the 5D reality. And which one you're going to experience in your day-to-day is going to be the one that you're focused on and your feelings are on. So let's jump into this. We're starting out here with the Two of Wands. So I have the Two of Wands, the Devil, Tower in reverse, the Star, Two of Cups, Ace of Cups, the High Priestess in reverse, and then the Empress. So with this Two of Wands, I do feel there is a connection here, that there are deep feelings underneath the surface. There's a lot of stuff covering over that is representing this Devil energy. So in other words, feelings are being denied, um, repressed. There's this inner dialogue, there's a lot of fear. And resistance. That's what this Tower in reverse is about. Somebody is not allowing themselves to open up and feel the feelings out of doubt and fear because they are in that ego mindset. All they can see right now is their past, how that played out, their inadequacies— excuse excuse in an attempt to guard their heart. But here's the thing: when we repress, when we're not honest with ourselves because we don't want to feel the uncomfortable feelings and face those, we do go into resistance. We try to avoid this Tower moment. And you know, the Tower card gets a bad rap, up in tarot. Um, really, the bigger picture of the Tower is it's a change that needs to happen, so it comes in and shakes things up. When we're in resistance and not wanting to look at the feelings and so on and so forth, we push things down. What happens is we push it down for so long, at some point it is going to come up. Situations are going to happen, stop us in our tracks, and we have to look at it. So whoever this is trying to avoid this Tower moment, it's going to backfire. Um, for me, this— for me, this is a suitcase. I don't know for sure if it's a suitcase, but hey, This is my channel, my reading, what I'm picking up on today. That's a suitcase, and I'm using it in the metaphor of this person. And again, you could be doing this to a level, um, or it's the other person, but somebody here is putting all their stuff in this baggage, in this suitcase, and they don't want to look at it. And then they're putting roses on top of it as if everything is okay. Another way of saying that in the 3D, they're stuck in the suitcase, they can't find their own ass within a paper bag, they're sitting in their diaper, they're in this interesting inner dialogue, but on the surface they're trying to act like nothing bothers them, everything's hunky-dory, things are fine, It's all a lie, and this is going to catch up to them. And see, here's the thing, those of you in my collective, and I'm not talking about those of you who, who watch me, who really, well, you're more secret fans, you You don't like me on the outside, I really don't care. You're listening, hey, you know what, I send you love, more power to you. But anyways, my collective, um, you are in this healing energy. And see, this person is saying that's what they're doing. They're saying they're spending time alone focusing and healing when really they are spending time alone but they're in— they spend the time alone and hop in the suitcase and sit with all the stuff instead of working through it. You, on the other hand, are over here working through it. And I feel that, um, a lot of confusion has come in for you because again, you're relating more from a 5D heart space perspective ready to be vulnerable, speak your truth and your feelings, and allow this person in. But they are in that resistance. You, through what you've gone through just since— I'm gonna say December and January leading up into this February— this Ace of Cups, yeah, it's about feelings, but really what I'm picking up on is this is you knowing your worth. You're no longer opening and allowing this Devil type of energy. In other words, you're not letting stuff slide like you used to. You are really bossing up this connection. As up and down, as exciting and thrilling it is, it has those really deep lows to it. Through that, you are finding your worth. And how valuable, valuable you are, and on some level have come to this realization that not everybody is deserving of your energy. Yes, your desire is to have a loving, supportive relationship, but here's where this doubt comes in. The High Priestess in reverse. I feel like you are picking up on the other person's energy, that resistance. They're trying to avoid this Tower moment, so their words and their actions aren't aligning, and it's throwing you off guard. You're questioning everything. Allow this Valentine's Day to be about you and you choosing you, you loving you, because you are showing up as this Empress. You are very nurturing, very caring, very loving. This has taken you a while to get there, and you get thrown off if somebody puts resistance up towards that. That's when you start questioning your value, your worth, and who you are. That's just an old habit right now. It's not affecting you like it used to, but there is trepidation around this holiday. That is also a karmic cycle that you're letting go of. Oh, Spirit, let's check in and see what is going on with the person in resistance in this connection. All of you and none of me. Show me the cards I need to see. What did I say? Didn't I say you're in your healing, they're saying they're in their healing, but they're not? Look, the Star came out in reverse when I'm pulling on their energy. Validates what I was saying. Look at this, Seven of Cups and King of Pentacles in reverse. Yeah, this person is wallowing and sitting in their own stuff. You guys are marrying each other, so those, those negative, darker feelings, confusion, and question are absolutely coming from this person. They, they are confused. They don't know what to choose. They don't know what to do. And so what's happening is they are acting out of habit. Meaning, you know how I was saying you doubt yourself, your value, your worth, and something will come up and you'll focus on the past and how it was and then go into this whole dialogue of that's not what you want? They're doing the same thing. They do not feel adequate enough for you, worthy of you, and it's creating a lot of fear within them. All right, for a small portion of you, and guys, you're going to already know that this part is for you that I'm about to say. And again, it's for a very small number. It is not for the majority of you. So if you're right now, as you're listening to this, sitting there going, does this person have somebody else? Are they seeing somebody else? You know, what's going on? To where you already suspect that, um, yes, that is going on. There is other people in their energy creating a distraction. These other people are more aligned with that Devil energy. Again, for those of you that have no proof, no facts, no anything but just hearsay that they have somebody else, no, this is not for you. This is for the person who right now is going, oh my gosh, is she talking to me? Does this mean, you know, they, they don't know to choose me, blah blah blah. Okay, and what I want to say about that is this person is running scared. There's a lot of overwhelming thoughts and feelings. They are trying to distract themselves. The more they try to distract themselves, and again doesn't have to be sexual energy. I honestly, what I'm really picking up on is more of the, this codependency attachment type of ties. Um, so again, that is for a small portion of you, and when I say small portion, I mean a small portion. For the majority of you, it really is they are trying to figure out themselves, their own stuff. But yeah, see, they are— they can't see their way out of this paper bag. They're not looking at things as they should. Their heart space is closed off because they are in this big doubt and fear energy. Yeah, Justice in reverse. Definitely this, this person, whatever is going on in their life— so this is for all of you. Remember how I said there's dual energy going on? Uh, on the surface they're trying to act calm, cool, collected. Nothing's wrong, everything's hunky story. They don't have a care in the world. Um, you may feel like out of sight, out of mind, that they're not even thinking about you. This whole thing is a facade. They are so much in this Devil energy. I mean, look, I've got the Devil here, I've got the King of Pentacles in reverse, and the Emperor in reverse. These two cards in reverse are not a good energy. It's And I know this word since 2020 has really been thrown around so much, um, but what I'm about to say is it is narcissistic tendencies and energies. They may not be a full-blown narcissist, and here's the thing, we all have narcissistic tendencies and characteristics. Why? Altered ego was born out of this type of narcissistic tendency and energy. It's a lower vibration, fear-based energy. So that's going on. This is what is pulling them backwards because they already know this is what they're trying to get out of. But right now they're just wanting to plant a rose garden in their BS instead of looking at it Head on. Yep. Regain balance. Heartbreak. So you, watcher, you're feeling a heartbreak, but I want to ask you, is that really the truth of this situation? I feel like this heartbreak is really being triggered because of the current energy of who you're connecting with. It is triggering this energy from your childhood, from your past, that is very uncomfortable, very scary, um, and throws you out of balance. But it is a big karmic cycle coming to, to an end, and you are in the process of regaining this balance. And here's the thing with this Financial loss. Love and money are of the same vibration, two sides of the same coin. How you think and feel about yourself, about money, and about love is all coming up. And this feels like you are breaking your own heart when you forget who you are forget all the healing that you've done because this person isn't on your vibration yet, and you already know that. Overall, what I do have to say, this connection is far from over. Right now, this other person is more in 3D energy. When somebody is coming from 3D energy, doubt and fear, guess what's gonna happen? 3D energy. Altered ego takes the main stage. The past seems so real, but that's the illusion right now. This energy is going to shift. You will hear from this person under this energy. This is about you finding your way through this, not allowing other people's actions or inactions rock you or knock you off of balance. This is, this is what you're learning. You're learning to stand firm in your knowing of who you are and in your love, because you are a person who has a big heart. You do things for others. And you do things for others literally out of the genuine goodness of your heart, but you expect that in return, as you should. But here's the thing, you can't expect others who have not met themselves and started healing themselves at the level you have to be able to show you that, because they— it's so far out of their reach and realm because they haven't had that personal experience yet. That's why the more you give this to yourself, you set up that energetic boundary so that others can come to you in that same way. In wrapping this up, um, Archangel Chamuel, number 1, light green, happiness, vibrancy, energy, and hope. Number 19, divine magic, Wishes, goals, dreams, and accomplishment. Keep your eyes on what you desire, not what you don't have, especially in the now moment when it doesn't appear like it's going to come to fruition. Hold that hope. Hope turns into that faith, turns into that belief, and allows it to come in. All right, beautiful heart. As I said, this connection's not over. Get out of the stinking thinking. There's some inner dialogue going on and it's very self-defeating for you. That's what you need to get away from. And I know it's not easy to go from all those thick, heavy thoughts into lighter thoughts. So here's the thing, here's, here's the secret sauce. In doing this. Get out— to get out of your head, because your head is just going to keep you circling. You want to focus on the feelings, and when you're feeling something that is heavier or denser, choose a different thought that lightens that energy. Keep choosing a different thought in the positive direction, or choosing a different feeling in a positive direction. This is— can be where affirmations start coming in, but keep choosing that until this energy shifts. You can't shift this energy from thoughts alone. It's the feelings that magnetize. All right, I hope this helped. As always, I am sending you oceans and oceans of love from my heart to yours. Aloha, aloha, aloha.