Dennis PragerFounder, PragerU · Founder of PragerU | NYT best-selling author

Is There an Ideal Family?

9 Apr 2025 · 3 min

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In this monologue, Dennis Prager argues that the optimal adoptive family is a married heterosexual couple—a mother and father—while acknowledging that gay parents, such as his friend Dave Rubin and Rubin’s spouse David, also have children (via surrogacy) and consider that arrangement ideal for them. Prager emphasizes that his primary preference is for opposite‑sex married couples, but he concedes that if no such couple is available to adopt a child—especially one with physical challenges—the child should not remain in foster care or an orphanage; instead, a caring adult, such as a single woman or a same‑sex couple, is a better alternative. He frames his stance as a value‑based hierarchy of choices, positioning the married mother‑father model as the first choice, with other arrangements as secondary but preferable to institutional care.

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I always look at things as what is better than the next choice. If there is— this is my position, and it is called hate-filled by the left— that adoption should always be by quality couples. Of mother and father, a married mother and father. That's my number one choice. By the way, my, my— I have gay friends who have children who say that is the first choice. I'll be open. Dave Rubin is an example. Dave Rubin and his wonderful partner, spouse, David. These are wonderful human beings. They do have kids. They used a surrogate. There's another issue which I won't get into now. And he said to me, and I said, can I quote you? He said, absolutely. He said, Dennis, the ideal is a mother and father. And he's two fathers. He is much closer to my value system than than heterosexuals who differ with me. Where married, a man or woman married to the opposite sex and have children who don't say that that's the ideal. They are my problem, not the gays who have children or who have adopted. My problem is, is we can't deny the ideal. The ideal is a mother and father. So let's say there is an adoption agency with a child, and let's say the child has physical problems. And there's no mom, married mom, dad, or married man and woman who want to adopt that child, or at least the agency can't find one. What is my choice? My choice is what? At an orphanage. I don't even know if we have orphanages today, but go from foster home to foster home, or to have, let's say, a woman like this woman adopt the child. In that case, it seems to me better that the child be adopted by a woman like this than not be— not have a family chance.