Jaya heals her relationship wth her body | DFC Quantum Ep 13

Have you been struggling with relationships with your own body? Because, because you've just gained weight, because you've just, you, because you feel that you're not in love with yourself. Well, welcome back to my channel. And if you guys are here on my channel and as part of the DFC community, we have an amazing story of a Quantum member who joined the Quantum membership because she wanted to lose weight. But while everybody, a lot of people struggle with weight loss, the main reason is because they are not accepting, because you guys are not accepting your body the way it is. You don't accept every part of you, and if you don't accept your part, every part of you, then you don't get results. Here we have an amazing story of Jaya Lakshmi, who has joined the Quantum membership not once but twice. And this is her second year, and in her second year she's going to be sharing her story about how she felt before joining Quantum and how she now has healed her relationship with her body. So welcome to our channel, Jaya. Thank you so much for giving me this opportunity to talk to you, and the fact that you're going to come out in the open and tell the viewers about what you went through, because your story will inspire a lot of other women out there. So welcome, Jaya, and tell us, where are you from?

Thank you, thank you so much. I am from Coimbatore, Tamil Nadu. At present, I'm working here in Mumbai. I work for a bank.

And how was your life before you came to Quantum?

I had a lot of self-doubt in myself because I had a feel that I'm dark-skinned. So I was conditioned from the beginning being dark-skinned was not the thing to be. And that had created a lot of things in my mind that, okay, like, you're not worthy of things. But now I'm a different person.

So when you joined Quantum, you had all these, and this, this preconceived notion of your body, of your, the skin color, and the way you looked, how did it affect your other relationships in your own life?

I did feel that in a lot of places I was not worthy of being in that place, even though I had the capability in all the other things. I was feeling that I was not worthy of being there where I am. I used to feel like everybody around me is like— I used to feel conscious. Maybe somebody, if somebody's discussing, looking at me, I would be conscious telling that they're talking about me, They're talking about my color. They're talking about my weight. I had gained weight over years because I had started falling back and telling that you're ugly. You're, what to say, you're not fair-skinned like what others be, what is being projected in the society. So that had like spoiled my relationship with a lot of other people and even with my own self because I started having a lot of self-pity. Oh, I was, I'm dark, so I'm not this, I'm not that. That was why, like, I had spoiled my relationship with others as well as with my own self. To be the most— very important thing was I spoiled my relationship with my own self.

And did that cause a lot of irritability within you?

Yes, yes, I used to be— I used to, like, it would be like always a storm churning inside you. I used to feel, like, irritated. I used to feel more like, like a bomb waiting to explode at any time. It was like that.

And then came Quantum in your life.

Yes, yes.

So in the first year of Quantum, what did you go through?

In the first year of Quantum was mainly about my weight loss. But I slowly started feeling that I should go somewhere beyond my weight loss as well. It is then I started, after your one-to-ones and everything, I started feeling that, no, I am worthy. I am a worthy person. And the skin or the color or something is just— it's just skin deep. After that, everybody is the flesh, which is same for everybody else as well. So that transformation of loving your own self had started in my first year of Quantum, and it became more elevated, like, to be like, uh, it had become more and more in the second year of my Quantum. And the people who saw me in the retreat in the first year and the second year, they told me literally, like, you're bubbling now. Yes, that was a very big change that Quantum had brought in me.

And the life coaching, the one-to-one coaching that we do together where we cry, we laugh, we transform. Tell us a little bit more about that, because for you that has been very, very transformative.

Yes, I can tell you that one-to-ones, one word that you've told me is get up in the morning, hug your own self, and tell you that you are a worthy person. That has changed a lot in me. And that has helped me heal my relationship with everybody around me, especially with my spouse. I used to feel I was not worthy. We had a lot of turmoils in our relationship, but now, no, everything— I've started accepting myself and everything, my spouse, my kid, my in-laws, my parents, and everybody around me. So like, I don't have any words to explain how this One thought has transformed my own self. Every day when I'm feeling sad or dejected, I feel like I hug myself around telling that you are all right, you can do it, you are worthy of everything. So this is a very big thing for me in my life. Thank you so much for that.

And how is it impacting you to become a better version of yourself?

Uh, I do feel that in everything I just take a pause. And I sometimes do step into other shoes. Okay, they would have been like this. Okay, let it go. Don't— like, you had this, maybe somebody, somebody else is also going through that. Don't worry about it. Take it easy. Give them a chance. I've become such a sort of a person these days. So this is really great for me.

What do your colleagues have to say about when they see you? They've seen you for years, but do they find any difference in you? We are not talking about a physical difference. We are talking about an inner version.

Yes, like after 2 years of Quantum, a lot of my friends have started commenting that you are easy in handling a lot of situations. You are like, even in the toughest times, you're telling, okay, it's okay to be like this. Don't get tensed. I usually tell them, sir, it's easy, sir, take it easy. Don't get tensed about these trivial matters. Okay, think positive, everything will come out positive to ourselves. Maybe there is something that we have to learn from this. So they are telling that, how can you be like this? So this Quantum is a game changer or a life changer or a lifesaver for me. Else I would have buried myself in my own self-pity and I would have been nowhere.

Yeah, so really, as we, uh, see the— so those of you who are watching this interview, and a lot of you are maybe some members of DFC and some of you are not members of DFC, I just want you all to know that you have to work on your inner self. While I get it that health and weight loss and everything is important, But those things are a byproduct of your inner being. When you start loving yourself, when you fall in love with every cell, every body, every piece of skin in your own— on your own self, that's when you'll start taking massive action, and that's when you'll start staying very consistent. So Lakshmi, jaya, I really, uh, I'm very grateful to you because it's a very touchy topic for a lot of women. Women don't come out and say how they feel about their body and how they feel about their color. And I'm very certain that this message that you have shared is going to, is going to, is going to start getting a lot of women thinking about their own self and about their own bodies. And as we part ways, Jaya, I want you to give one strong message to our viewers today.

Love your own self. It changes everything around you.

Lovely. Thank you so much, and thank you so much to all of you watching this video. Let me know in the comments below how this video has inspired you. And if you're brand new, you can come to the description box, click on the link, join the masterclass, and I can't wait to see you in the community. For those of you who are DFC members and watching this, I can't wait to work with you one-to-one in Quantum. On that positive note, see you guys in Quantum.