Overcoming Insecurity About Appearance

So let me tell you a story about a lady that I met. When I sat down with her, she burst out crying. I'm so ugly. Everybody knows I'm ugly. And I'm like, wow, I don't think you're ugly. What makes you say that? She says, I've known it all my life. Now. She was in her 60s. She took me to her desk and says, let me show you the pictures. She was showing me pictures of even raising her own children. She would either be on the end or would be a family picture without her in it. She said, if I go into a public restroom, I have to avoid looking in the mirror because I just see that I'm ugly. What she's started to describe to me was a very abusive childhood. It was coming from the mother, who obviously had some mental health issues. She says, I remember my mother would sit there and brush our hair. And as she was brushing her hair, she would take the brush and hit us really hard on the head and say, you're ugly, you're stupid. All kinds of demeaning words. But she still managed to work, have a job. She got married three times. Her sister ended up becoming a prostitute, a drug addict, and actually OD'd. I took her through the TIP program. We resolved the trauma and what she was dealing with, what was really beautiful. As we finished, I was walking her out of the room, and as she walked by her manager, she goes, I'm not ugly. Her manager has no idea what she's talking about. And he goes, oh, okay. That trauma that she had as a child had affected pretty much 60 years of her life. Even after that, she could still heal. Everybody's capable of healing.