Unlock Your Best Year with TIPP: Resolutions That Stick, Results That Last

Yeah, John. Just saying, he's going the first couple weeks at the gym in January. Is that one of the resolutions?

There are any jokes if you go to the gym on a regular basis? Sorry to report this. There are a whole bunch of people that should have been in the gym for the last 20 years who suddenly wander into the gym in January through about March, and then, thank God, they go back home.

Yeah, we do these little sayings all the time. We have, like, a basket full of them. Everybody pulls them out and starts reading them. And one of them is, people are always saying they're worried about what they eat between Christmas and New Year's, but what they really should be worried about is what they eat between New Year's and Christmas.

We enjoyed our Christmas cookies, but Christmas is now over. Oh, my gosh, we got leftovers. We'll be eating them for a while.

So welcome, everybody. And I hope everybody's having a great holiday. So you must be having a great holiday. You wouldn't be here. So what I want you to do and just start giving some thought to it. You don't have to come up with it right now unless you already have it. I want you to come up with, because we're going to do a little exercise at the end to focus on it. Come up with a goal or a target of something that you want to reach. This could be a resolution, or it could be a goal or a target. Think of something that you want to accomplish, and I'm going to take you through a little exercise at the end and go ahead.

Sorry. Just a little reminder. You can send your questions in. This will be recorded, posted in our inner circle as all the previous webinars. So everybody, you know, TIP crew, you have access. But if you want to ask questions, you can ask them straight in the chat. You can raise your hand. Or if you would rather stay anonymous, you can send them to me in the chat and I'll read it on your behalf.

Very good. So the. The theme of this webinar was basically, are you tired of setting resolutions that fade by February? I think it was. Maya, you said, that's right. You're being generous. Sometimes they fade before February. So what is it? And why is it hard to sometimes stay on a task like that or stay.

You know, focused on your resolution? Well, a lot of you have already gone through the TIP program, so that should be one of the obstacles out of your way. So I'm going to talk to you about some of the other reasons why it happens. And this is a really A big one.

You can say, I'm going to make a resolution. People say, oh, I made a resolution. But think about the language that you just used. I made a resolution that's like saying, I made a cake. Right, but did you eat it? Did you do anything about it? The words that you use that you say, these things are really, really important because they will keep you on track subconsciously. Your mind is very focused on those kinds of words. So saying I'm going to do something or I'm making a resolution doesn't mean you're going to complete it. So what you want to do is you want to talk about in the positive, so you're going to finish it. Here's a resolution that I'm going to accomplish, Here's a resolution that I'm going to complete, or here's a goal I've set right to complete. So the biggest thing. So a lot of people say, well, is it discipline? You know, is discipline the key to it? But there's more to just discipline and willpower. So here's the number one.

Thing that I think why most people struggle when they have a resolution or they have something that they don't reach, number one thing is to find the why.

Why am I making this resolution? Because a lot of people will say, I want to do this. Let's use the obvious one. A lot of people use I want to lose 10 pounds or I want to lose weight or I want to exercise. So that sounds good. And you set your resolution. You set, that's what I'm going to do. But if you don't have a why, it's going to be very difficult to stay on, because that's just something pretty generic. So the reason why a lot of times discipline fails or feels hard is because your why is weak. So how strong is your why? And I'm going to share sort of an example of it of somebody that I worked with. But if you have a very, very strong why, it's going to be very easy to reach these goals and targets. If your why is weak, that's why it generally failed, because it's very hard to stay on something when it starts to hurt. So I'll give you an example. I worked with a young man. His name was Chris Nickic, and if you haven't heard of him, you can look him up. He's a young man with down syndrome, and his father decided that he wanted to get him to run in an Iron Man. Now, if you know anything about down syndrome, I mean, these people have difficulty with A lot of coordination. It's very difficult for them to even think of something like that is remarkable. But that's what he decided to do. So he said, I'm going to hire the, the coaches to teach him how to run, how to bike, how to swim and get him to be able to run in an Ironman. It's, it's a phenomenal task, especially if you know how difficult it is. You know, for the first time I, I met them, his dad was showing me what he was doing with his bike. He almost crashed into like three cars. And you have to bike quite a ways in a, in an ironman. So. But I was, you know, use as a coach to teach him on the mental side. And one of the things that I talked to him about is, Chris, you have to decide whether the pain is bigger than the goal or is the goal bigger than the pain? And what I meant by that is I was saying to him, if the pain is too big, right, that's when you quit. So you have to decide. And he set some pretty big goals. He really did. And, but his goal was to do that. And when he was actually, he actually was going, he trained for quite a while. I mean, it was amazing to see him do it. And when he ran in the Ironman, he was given no special exemptions. He had to run the same time, swim the same time, bike the same time. So when he was doing the biking, he actually fell off his bike and was a little injured. So his dad got to him and what his dad said to him was, do you remember what Dr. Wood said to you? Is the goal bigger than the pain or is the pain bigger than the goal? And he said to his dad, he goes, the goal's bigger. And he got up and continued riding and actually improved his time. The same thing. When he was running, he got, got injured again. He was standing in a, a fire ant pile, got bit as well. And so again his dad just said, goal or pain? And he goes, goal. His. Why was that big? That was why he was able to do it and he accomplished it. He's famous now around the world. He speaks all over the world. He's such a motivational speaker for a lot of people with down syndrome, telling them what they could do. So he had a massive why. And if you really want to, and if someone with down syndrome, right, can do that, you can imagine what you can do in your life if you have that kind of why, if he hadn't adopted that, he probably the pain would have been bigger and that would have stopped him.

So how do we uncover that strong why, Doctor?

You have to go deep inside yourself and really find out what it is. What are you trying to accomplish? Why is this important to you? This takes some self reflection. Why do I really want to do this?

You were mentioning the five levels of why, right? I wanna lose weight. Why? So I can look better. Why? Yep, there we go. Five levels in.

Yep. It's. It's the same thing as, as a scientist, right? So I was just out at the University of Oklahoma and talking to them about our program and them doing research with us. And the thing that they we talked about was because these are all scientists, immunologists, psychologists. I talked to him about that why that was how I developed this program. As everybody sort of knows the story, if you've gone through the program, you certainly know it is that I really developed this program, right. To save our daughter. My wife and I, you know, were very focused, had a very big why that if we didn't come up with a reason why we could solve this, we probably wouldn't have our daughter. So that was a pretty big why. That's an easy why to figure out. But it wasn't just the why of why I was doing was the why when people would come in and say, I have anxiety, right? I go, why?

Well, I don't know. I have anxiety. Well, it's got to be a why. Your mind doesn't do anything unless it has a purpose. So keep asking why. And that was how I came up with the program. Why would your mind be anxious? Why would your mind be depressed? Something created it. Your mind doesn't do anything unless it's to your advantage. Everything it does is focused on your survival and to your benefit. And you've heard me say a number of times before, it's impossible to sabotage yourself. Your mind will never do that. It will keep you alive and it will keep you moving towards your goals and targets. So sabotage is not sabotage. Sabotage is protection. So your mind is trying to move into another direction to stop you from being hurt. Because it may see a similar pattern to how you got hurt before. And your mind uses that in order to protect you. So the number one thing to think about is whatever you're attempting to do in your life, you have to create the why. And it has to be so strong that nothing wants to get in the way of it. And then, as you know, after going through tip a lot of times, why the why is interrupted is because there's some pain experienced from that. And your mind will Protect you from the pain. So number one, why. Number two is because once you have your why, now you have to set the next target, which is how, how are you going to do it? Because if you don't know how you're going to do it. So imagine that you're running in a race, but nobody told you whether it was a 3K, a 5K, a marathon or an ironman. Like, you just wouldn't know where you were in the race. You wouldn't know how fast you should be running or how you should be pacing yourself. And then how easy is it going to be to quit?

So you really have to focus really hard and drill down on the how you're going to do it. And it has to be very the more specific you are. If you've gone through the audios, how many times have you heard me be specific? And once you think you're specific, be even more specific. And then again, be more specific. Because our minds don't like vague. It likes very strong, purposeful, driven messages and vague that just doesn't respond to because it doesn't sound important enough. Because the mind, which is what creates this, is survival based.

So anything that's a survival threat is important. Anything that isn't a survival threat and becomes vague, your mind's not going to really pay attention to that. So the third thing, if you want to reach these, you got your why, you've got your how. The next thing to do is to write your goals down. Be very specific with your goals and write them down. And then here's another key. Tell everyone, tell everybody what you're going to do. Don't hide it, because if you keep it to yourself, it's easy to let yourself down. So what you want to do is you want to put it on your fridge, put it on your phone, in your office. Accountability. It keeps you accountable because you're going to want to continue to tell people how you're doing on your goal, where you are in your goal. So write them down, put them everywhere, talk to everybody about it. The next fourth step is to make it a routine. So it's the key to success. You have to create certainty. Because if you remember I've said many, many times, what's the number one fear of the human mind? Uncertainty. It doesn't like things that are vague, things that aren't specific. It's very focused. So uncertainty brings doubt and certainty creates safety. So when you're working really hard and you're going to get tired at times, you're going to be Exhausted at times when it's really easy to sort of quit. Then if you have a routine, it's going to be very easy to stick to the routine. So habits are basically unconscious.

Is the unconscious mind creating certainty? So your subconscious mind likes certainty. So if you repeat something over and over, what are you telling your mind that this is important. And so you consciously have to have the intent to do it. And the conscious intent will then bring in the habit or behavior because if you keep repeating it, your mind says this must be important to us and it will take it over. And now you don't have to consciously do it anymore. It becomes unconscious, subconscious. So it's a real key routines and habits. I've said this so many times and think, keep thinking of it this way. Repetition is research the mind.

You have to convince your mind that this is that important to you.

So and yes, somebody just wrote in there, intentionally speaks to your why exactly you're telling your mind this is so important, I want you to make sure that I don't forget it and then your subconscious will take it over and keep it as a priority. Now that can work for us beneficially. It can also work for us on the opposite side too. So if you repeat something that isn't beneficial to you, it will also build that habit. Your survival brain, your subconscious mind doesn't think of things as good or bad, right or wrong. It's literal. Your subconscious mind is literal. So whatever you tell it, it is going to do it. So subconscious is literal. Your conscious mind can use reason and logic. So you have to use your conscious mind to create a habit and then your subconscious will pick it up.

So just think of it that way. Repetition.

We gotta, we keep getting questions in and thank you everyone for sending. I'm kind of giving you a heart and everything you send me as, as a signal of Reddit. We'll ask them. We got a great one that I think plays very well into what you're saying now. And.

The question is I desperately want to lose weight every year and every year it's on my list. I go all in, start the gym, start walking, start the diet. But soon I quit. What's your advice?

So why do you want to lose weight?

Because that sounds like what everybody wants to do, right? We all have that. But why? What is the purpose? Is it to be healthier then this, what we're going to talk about? A little bit more will help with this. You have to have a very strong why? So you could sort of look at it and say, oh, I Look at myself in the mirror and I think, if I lose £10 or £15, I'm going to feel better. Why do you want to feel better? What's the purpose of it? Is it to improve.

Relationships? Is it to be more healthy, to live longer? Drill down, keep drilling down.

So if you don't really drill down into it, it's going to be very hard to stay on track.

Do you think there's some merit to that? We want. We do too much at once and our brain is like, we don't like this. Too much of a change.

Yeah, our minds don't like change. It's very, very resistant to change. That's why you have to be very careful what you set as a habit, because your mind's not going to let it go very easily. If you remember, if your subconscious mind is literal. And every day I'm drinking, what am I telling? My mind's important, it's drinking. And then all of a sudden you say, oh, no, you can't do that. Then your conscious mind says, this is really bad for us. We've got to stop it. Who's going to run the show? The subconscious mind, until you teach it and practice and repeat it until you show that there's something better. I have a bigger why than that. And so then your mind, your mind's not going to care what, what you're doing. It's just going to. It's going to follow it, and it's going to follow it. The only thing that will resist it is if you've got a lot of experience in an area that has been painful and you start saying, so, for example, whoever asked about the weight. So if you had a lot of experience with pain about making these kinds of commitments, your mind will resist making that change about the weight again. Your mind doesn't see you as skinny or fat or overweight or unhealthy. It just sees you as you are. That's your image. So whatever the image you are right now is the image that it likes.

So how do you change that? So you imagine if your mind is thinking, I like me, I like the way I am. And then you say, well, no, I want to change it. Why? No, I'm not changing this unless you give me a good reason to change it. You have to give your mind a good reason to make a change. So your why has to be that strong. So go deeper. The same way I talked about as, as researchers, as scientists, we do keep asking the whys. Why, why, why, why, why? Right. Just like when we Were little kids, we kept asking why. That's how we learned, right? Until we drove our parents crazy with the whys.

Maya can relate.

Oh, God, yes. My four year old would. Would verify.

Yep. Is there another question?

Yes, there was a question regarding sharing your goals. So what if you have such a history of not meeting your goals that other talk about you over time you found that not telling people helps you reach your goal better. Is it that I have the wrong people in my circle or do I put myself out there again and tell them no?

Well, they're holding you accountable. It's not a bad thing, right? So if you're not reaching your goals, right, the people that you're. That's why you want to tell people is to make them keeping you accountable. That's painful because if you don't follow up on what you said you're going to do, right, it doesn't mean you failed. It just means that you didn't have a strong enough why or you needed a better plan. So either your why was not strong enough or your how was not complete. So you could say, I want to do this and I really mean it. This is my why. And my why is strong. But then I don't have a good how. And then all of a sudden I'm not staying on target because I didn't have a good enough how. So your why and your how are critical to that.

And don't just pick something that you think they would like to hear or that you think would look good. Be really sincere about what your why is and then you'll reach the target. But dig deeper. Right?

The other thing is, number five that I want to talk about is language. If you use words like I think, I hope, I'll try, right? Those are subconsciously, you're creating escape hatches for your mind. Your mind will use that escape hatch because as soon as you say, I'm going to try to do this right, or I hope I reach this goal, as soon as you get to that, then you're in trouble. So, yeah, maybe if any of those kinds of things, your mind doesn't like that you have to be so certain and convince your mind.

Otherwise, it'll be very difficult to reach that target.

Celebrate small wins. So sometimes we make it so big, our target is so big that it's very hard to stay on. Because when you get really, really tired, then it's easy to quit. Like, oh, I'm going to lose. People say, oh, I'm going to lose £50. And then, you know, they get to 10, 15, 20, and they're exhausted and then they quit. But if they had a said, every time you reach a goal, reach another goal. So the ultimate goal could be £50 or £25, break it into chunks.

So make it smaller, easier to attain. And every time, Grant Cardone, I heard one time say this, somebody said, do you ever set goals? And he goes, yes, I set them all the time. And they said, so how do you feel when you reach a goal? He goes, I've never reached a single goal in my life because as soon as I get close to my goal, I increase my goal and it keeps pushing them. So that's what you want to do. So if the goal is to lose 25 pounds, the goal right now is to lose 5. And then when you get to 3 and 4, well, I think I can reach 10. So now I'm going to go after 10. So now my goal is 10. And then when you get to 8, now my goal is 15. And so you keep getting rewarded. Our minds love rewards, so the more you can reward it, the more it's going to stay on that task. And the rewards could be small. You could have a reward where you know, okay, I'm going to have a Starbucks coffee or I'm going to have whatever sort of you like, as long as it's not in contradiction to your goal, right? But as long as you reward yourself, your mind loves rewards, even small rewards, and then you can have a bigger reward. So if I reach this right, then I'm going to have a massage when I get to this goal, and then I'm going to do this right. So be very careful that you pick the right words. The ifs, maybes, hopes are all not words that are going to help you reach that. It's the win. When I do this, I get this. When I do this, I get this. Not if I get here, I get this. So really very, very careful about.

Rewards and targets. So I want to. I want to show you.

A video. Video number one, if you could show Maya. This is something that I saw in hockey. As everybody knows, I love hockey. And this reminded me of what we used to do when we playing hockey, trying to make teams and move up in the rankings. So let's just show video number.

I was pushing the pace, and I knew that I was better conditioned because I trained harder than them. And I just kept pushing and pushing and pushing, and eventually my gap started to get bigger and bigger, and it was obvious how. How much better conditioned I was than these other four guys. And Kept pushing and I thought my legs were going to fall off. And I'm like, okay, look, it can't go longer than an hour, so, like, let's just give it all I got for an hour and we'll see what happens tomorrow.

So I'm skating, skating, skating fine. After 45 minutes, guys are barely moving. Their legs are seized up. My legs are seizing up. Coach goes, that's it, boys, off the ice. So everyone goes off the ice. And then coach comes and puts his arm around me. He goes, you're playing tonight. And I'm like, what? I'm like, I can't play tonight. Like, I just, I was thinking it. I go, I can't play tonight. I just gave you everything I had. So luckily I played on the fourth line and I didn't see a lot of ice time, but. And it was my first game in the Western Hockey League, so I was super. The adrenaline carried me through. But when I look back on that day, that I really, really, really think that that was a test for that team. And it wasn't long before those other three or four guys were gone. They were sent back to Canada or sent back to wherever they came from. And they didn't make the team. And I made the team. That one bag skate that I had, that hurt probably more than almost any skate that I've ever done.

I believe showed the management I didn't even know. Like, the general manager, Ken Hodge, is sitting up in the stands, like, watching, and I didn't know that the coach that I thought was in the dressing room was sitting up in the stands with Ken Hodge watching and the assistant coach was running the bag skate. I didn't know any of those people who were even paying attention to what was going on. But I was willing to.

Push harder than I thought I could push because I knew that it was the right thing to do and that that turned out to be.

Another tipping point in my career where if I didn't do that, I could have been on the bus with those guys heading back to Canada, playing for my small town or playing Junior B or tier 2 or whatever. But that one skate could have been an identity shift for me, could have helped me propel me with the rest of my career. So it's pretty wild to know that somebody can push beyond what they even think is capable because we can always go a little bit harder than we really think that we can when we think we can't go anymore.

So that remind, the reason I used a hockey guys, because that reminded me of what it was like when we played hockey. I mean, you're up against, you know, the best of the best. You know, I played in Toronto, and Toronto is the capital of the world for the best hockey players, and you're competing against the best of the best. What was the difference? Right? And it was like, who was going to go that extra mile, who was going to take that extra hit, you know, who's not going to quit? And we all have that in us. I believe everybody has that potential. I don't think that was what he did, was he capitalized on it. But if you looked at the talent, the four guys that he said got sent down, I'll bet you were as talented as he was. The difference was, is that he just outworked them. When you get to that certain level, you have to outwork them. It's not about talent anymore. My daughter's a phenomenal actress. When she moved out to la, I said, you're in the major leagues now. The talent is all over the place. The difference isn't going to be the talent. The difference is going to be who can get up and go to that next audition after getting turned down five straight times, who can keep going. And that's really the difference. The talent is pretty much equal when you get to a certain level. The difference then is mindset. It's all in the mind at that point.

There was a study done on the top tennis players in the world, and so this study was done and they said, what separates the top 25 people in the world? And then they said, what separates the top five from those 25? And it was really interesting. It wasn't talented at that point, because when you're at that level and you're at the top of the world, it came down to mindset. What they said. The difference was is that the top five, right? Never let the setbacks get carried to the next point. They were able to handle the bad things better than the guys that couldn't. And the reason those guys were in the top five is after they lost a point, they just accepted it and moved on, as opposed to the guy that's still carrying it. How could I be so stupid? How could I make that mistake? They had that kind of a mindset. And I've shared this about, you know, when I was learning how to play tennis and I really wanted to be a great tennis player, the tennis pro who taught me gave me the best life secret I could have. He said, if you really want to be a great tennis player, lose a lot of and what he meant by that was don't be afraid to lose, challenge yourself, play at higher levels. So I'm in the, I was 13 years old when he gave me that, that tip and he said, play in the 14, 15 year old divisions or the 15, 16 year old divisions. Like playing higher divisions, you're going to get beat because they're bigger, stronger and faster. But you have to be willing to lose. And that was a great life experience. A lot of you people are business owners or running your own businesses, right? Don't be afraid to challenge yourself. I just had a lady in.

About a week, a week or so ago, and she just bought her new building, right? A two, two million dollar purchase, right. I don't know how I'm going to fill it up, right, but she'll fill it up because she just kept on growing. And so that was that mindset to be able to see past that. Which gives me to the seventh point that I want to talk about is visualize. So you have to see it in your own mind because if you don't see it, it's going to be very, very hard for you to stay on track. So visualize yourself reaching this and I want you to visualize it in as much detail as possible. I'm talking about if you're going to grow your business, I want you to say, okay, I want to have 50 employees, 100 employees. I want you to go to the visualization of seeing the building, seeing the people, what you'll be doing every day, all the interactions. The more you can see it, the easier it is for you to get there. Because then your mind doesn't have what uncertainty. The more you visualize, the more you create certainty. And so just keep focusing on that. So imagine an actor going out to perform. What do they do? They rehearse over and over and over. The greatest actors in the world were just not just don't take a script and walk on stage or walk on in front of a camera. They've rehearsed it, they visualized it. They see themselves as the character, they become the character. So think of yourself as you're putting on a play and you have to become the character in the play. What are you going to look like? How are you going to do it? You want to see it. So when I work with the golfers in particular, I love talking to about this because I always, I tell them all, you actually hit too many balls. You do not need to hit that many balls, right? The physical repetition that you're you, that you're doing over and over and over is. Doesn't have to be repeated as many times as physically if you can visually do it. And I really believe they could save themselves a tremendous amount of injuries if they could practice in their mind. See yourself winning. See yourself hitting the shots for the people who've gone through the program. We did the banking process, if you remember what was the banking was visualize yourself winning. Visualize yourself accomplishing those things that you were going. And then visualize your goals and targets. There's another level. You've got to even take that visualization that we did in banking to another level, push it even further, see it even bigger, and that will help you get there. So use visualization.

As an example. Well, it was more of when I did the program and developed the program. When I was first starting out, I visualized myself going through sessions with. With. With people, because the more I visualized it, the more comfortable I became with it. And I started making little tweaks and changes to it in the visualization. And so then it just became natural. So it's the same thing. So sometimes people will say, well, why did you say that thing at that particular point? And I'll go, I don't know. I had rehearsed it so many times in my mind that my mind had an answer to a question automatically. I just had to relax my mind. So when I do a session with people, my goal is to be an alpha state with you so that I'm in a flow state. And so then the right answer just flows to me. And that's where you want to be. So that's what visualization does for you, teaches you that. And then the eighth principle is to never quit and don't be afraid to reset. So what happens if you miss a task? So you say, I'm going to do this, this, and this every day, and then you miss a day. Well, you don't quit, right? How are you going to reset? Okay, so the day that I normally take off for rest, I'm going to then put my exercise back into that day, figure out a way to reset, right?

So again, that's where the plan and the how comes in. So as long as your how is really good on how you're going to do it, you'll be able to make little adjustments to it. And don't be afraid to make an adjustment. If you need to make an adjustment, it doesn't mean you're failing at something. So discipline is about flow. It's natural, easy. It's never forced discipline should be not forced. If you feel like you're. You're having to work so hard at discipline, then you haven't, you haven't got there yet. You're not going to get to the success you're going to get until discipline becomes easy and flows. You just do it. So create a mindset that setbacks are lessons and vision that is clear and focused. And then your mind will be set up. And then the second thing is, which a lot of you have already gone through, is to get anything that's going to interfere with making those changes, which is what the trauma does. So once you clear the trauma, you've got the biggest obstacle out of your way. Now it's going to be very easy to set this and then stay disciplined. So it's the way you think. So we're going to do a little test here. And this is going to be the nine dots.

So if anybody's ever seen this before, just continue to go along. So, Maya, if you can bring up the nine dots, this is going to teach you to think differently. You've got to figure out how to accomplish what I'm going to ask you to accomplish. So we've got nine dots.

You have. You can make four straight lines and only four without lifting your pen off the paper. Four straight lines. But connect every single dot with four straight lines. And you can start on one of the dots and then make a line and when you stop, go in another direction. Go in another direction. Go in another direction and make sure all nine dots are connected. So write down the nine dots for yourself right now. And I want you to see how you. What was your first attempt? What would you do on this first attempt?

So that is four straight lines without lifting your pen. Lifting your pen.

And you have to cross all the dots. Yep.

So if anybody's been able to do it, just put in the chat that you. You did it.

And is it possible to do. Yes, it is absolutely possible to make four straight lines.

Connect all the do.

Give you a couple more minutes.

And.

If you've done it, then just let us know. Has anybody done it yet? Maya, that you can see.

I can't see one screen sharing. I can't see the chat, but we'll learn very fast.

Okay. If you did it, congratulations.

If you did it, feel free to unmute and just tell us no one.

Has typed anything in the chat.

Okay.

Yes. Keep making a few more dots. We'll give you a couple more minutes.

How about four straight lines in a diagonal?

Good try.

You're going to Be showing all your friends how to do this afterwards.

Oh, there we go. Mary did it.

All right, now that we got somebody who did it, we're going to show you. All right, so, Maya, just show them how to do it.

Okay, here we go.

1, 2, 3, 4.

You have to think outside the box.

That's the message.

So you listen to the instructions perfectly. But we have to think differently.

So don't be afraid to start thinking outside the box. That's how you get to success. You got to think differently. What are you going to do differently to succeed? What are you going to do that most people wouldn't do? Most people wouldn't think to go outside the box, but it stayed within the rules. It's just one line.

Now.

You can see it.

Right?

Very good.

One of those things. It's like, how did I not think of this?

Yep.

So whatever you're trying to accomplish in your life, change your mindset and think outside the box.

So again, thank you for sending the questions. I keep monitoring everything. We have an exercise for everyone coming up, and then we'll reserve a few minutes at the end to respond to all that.

So, okay, so we're going to do the exercise here in a minute. But first, I want to share a couple of quotes that I thought were really good for this, for this session as well. Is from Albert Einstein. Right. You have to learn the rules of the game, and then you have to play better than anyone else. I love that. Abraham Lincoln. Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.

That's a really good one. Thomas Edison. This is. I love this one. Vision without execution is hallucination.

Mark Twain. Continuous improvement is better than delayed perfection.

And then Benjamin Franklin said, tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.

And then the other one was, and this is a famous one from Albert Einstein, a person who never made a mistake, never tried anything new.

So here's some of the things that you just start to think about are pretty interesting. It would take you 84 years to sleep in every bed at Disney World.

Just think about. So if your goal was, I'm going to sleep in every bed in Disney World, but you didn't have the how.

How long would it take you to figure out you're not going to make it right? So that's why the why could be really good. That's, I'm going to do this. I don't care what anybody says, I'm going to do it right. But you didn't figure out the how you're not going to do it. So that's why. The why and the how are important. And the other one that I thought was really good was 1 million seconds totals up to 11 days. 1 billion seconds is 31 years.

So when you talk about these billionaires in our country and Elon Musk having 450 billion compared to the millionaires, you can see the gap. It's pretty outstanding. Right? All right, so.

So any, let me just. Okay, so we've got that done. So what we're going to do now is we're going to get to the exercise. And so if you remember when we first started, I asked you anybody who maybe didn't make it on, right at the very beginning, I asked everybody to come up with a goal or a target of something they want to accomplish. And this could be something. It doesn't have to be a long term goal, doesn't have to be a year long goal or whatever the goal is. Whatever the target is. I want to take you through an exercise. I haven't recorded this audio, but I will record it if people would like it and then that can make it available to them. But this is really basically a performance type of an audio to listen to and it's going to be focused on a goal. So I want you to just give a minute here, come up with what your goal is, even write it down just really quickly of what you're, you're planning on doing in this goal. So take a second, make sure you have your goal. And I want you to be focusing on this goal. As I take you through this audio. You're going to have your eyes closed. I'm just going to guide you all the way through it.

So write your goal down.

And Maya, just let me know when you're ready.

You ready?

Music on.

Music's on. So everybody, as you're listening now, I want you just to close your eyes.

And now focus your mind on your breath.

Just allow the air as it goes in and follow it as it goes out. Feel the air come in.

And with each exhalation, you release all the air from your lungs.

Breathe in through your nose.

And breathe out through your mouth.

Relaxing with each breath.

With each breath, you feel a soothing sensation, taking in clean, fresh air.

With each breath, your body begins to heal itself, calming your nervous system and relaxing your muscles.

As you breathe in again.

Fully and completely, you take in what you need.

Oxygen is entering your bloodstream, nourishing your organs and cells, protecting you.

Now imagine inhaling clarity.

And as you exhale Feel your mind clearing.

Imagine inhaling peace.

And as you exhale, feel calmness.

Imagine inhaling courage.

And as you exhale, feel strength.

Imagine inhaling, understanding.

And as you exhale, feel a healing light traveling throughout your body.

Each time you exhale, allow yourself to feel clear, calm, strong and a healing light reaching every cell of your body.

If your mind wanders, bring it back to your breath. Feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, alert and fully alive.

A short time ago, you were standing at a crossroads in your life. You'd come to a turning point.

You asked yourself, should I continue to do what I have been doing with regards to my performance?

Think about all the good positive changes that have come from breaking old habits.

The feeling of really being in control.

As you relax even more.

Just see yourself now taking a walk through the woods.

Take a look around.

There are a lot of tall green trees towering above you.

As you walk, you think about all the things that you're working on now.

And now think about a specific project or goal that you you've been working on or would like to work on.

You really expect to accomplish this project.

The resources to complete it are within you.

All your successes have been banked and you easily draw upon them whenever you need them.

Your belief in yourself soars as you recall the successes and victories throughout your life.

Your vision and thinking ability are clear.

You see that you're in a wonderful place where no distractions exist and you have everything you need to brainstorm. This is a perfect place for you to develop your creativity.

You're able to think clearly and intelligently.

Every possible detail comes easy to you.

With each detail that comes to mind, you're able to think of many more ideas.

You are soon filled with ideas.

And there are people to help you.

There are never ending boards to write on and brainstorm on.

You have an amazing machine, your mind, that comes up with every answer to every question you have.

You are full of energy.

Time does not exist. While you're in this special place.

You take all the time you need. You keep thinking of more ideas until finally you have everything you need in order to accomplish a goal.

Your mind is capable of so many things. It is your most powerful tool. Your mind produces thoughts that are beneficial, appealing and possible.

Now let me tell you a story that I call out of Thin Air.

In the year 1640, John Battista von Helmont, a physician and chemist, carried out an experiment.

He took a pot of soil and a willow sapling and he weighed both.

He planted the little tree in the soil and carefully watered it for five years.

At the end of five years, he then again weighed the willow tree and the soil.

The tree had increased in weight by 164 pounds, but the soil had decreased in weight by less than 2 ounces.

Where had the material of the tree come from?

Out of thin air.

At that time, nobody understood that plants take oxygen and carbon from the air to build their leaves and stems and flowers.

Just because we don't understand a process doesn't mean it isn't happening.

Every time you look at a tree, you might like to remember that is actually made out of thin air. And maybe also wonder about what invisible processes might be going on in you right now.

And now.

Next time, since each time is further, deeper, stronger, better.

Take your own time, and when you're ready.

Find your way back up until your eyes once again.

Can open.

And there it is.

All right, very good.

Hope everybody enjoyed that. The idea is to get your mind starting to think that way. What invisible processes are working inside you that you may not even be aware of? Got to feed them, right? And you feed them by the way you think, by the way you train your mind to think. And the more you can train your mind to think that way, the stronger and faster and better you're going to respond and the more success you'll have. So I hope this is being enjoyable. I can't tell you how much I appreciate you guys coming in here right after Christmas. That was amazing. Thank you. And Maya, what do we have in terms of anybody? We're just about finished on time, but we'll stay along until we answer the questions.

Absolutely. And this was a wonderful exercise. Thank you, doc. I love when I get to piggyback.

On all of it.

Okay, we got a bunch. And like we said, we're on time. So if you have things you have to do. We know it's day after Christmas. We totally understand. Thank you for being here. If you have questions, you can raise your hand, ask them. You can stand, text me, or just put them in the chat. I'll go through what we already have here. So we had a question that said.

I say I want to lose weight, but I have sexual assault in my background. And I think there is some fear wrapped up in that. Although logically I know that being thin doesn't make me more likely to be assaulted again. Something about being thin makes me feel afraid.

That's a great question. It's something I hear a lot, so consciously, you know that, right? That what you just said is, I know that I shouldn't feel that way that it's not connected. But we have to convince your subconscious of that because your subconscious is where all the decisions are going to be made to respond. So. And I've seen this. I'm not saying this is the case in this case, but here's. I'll give you an example of what I have seen is if I become thinner, I become more attractive. If I become more attractive, I'm more susceptible to an attack. That is not uncommon for women to have that feeling. So subconsciously, will your mind let you lose the weight? It doesn't want you to because it puts you more vulnerable. So that could be one of the things. I'm just using that as an example. Another example could be you had unwanted sexual attention. So it could have been something where, oh, you look so good and you look so thin and so. And then you got sexually assaulted, right, by that person that was talking that way. Now your mind's going to say, well, I want to make sure that doesn't happen again. So I've got to get away from that. What they were admiring. So the subconscious is very powerful. It will have its reason for doing that. And so if anybody here who's gone through the tip program had any kind of sexual assault, I'm pretty sure that that would be cleared because I've worked with a lot of people who have had sexual assault. And that clears up when we get the trauma, because the trauma runs in the background and is going to be constantly getting your mind to produce thoughts. And if that trauma is being filtered through, the thought that it's going to produce is going to be about protecting you from getting hurt again. And so it'll try to figure out how to do that.

Is that. Hopefully that answers the question.

Makes perfect sense. Okay, here's the next one. How do I get my body not to have panic attacks? I also have high anxiety, so I've.

Talked about this a lot. A panic attack is a combination of physical and psychological. It's both. So the physical is basically oxygen, CO2, things like that. The psychological could be you're in a particular place, for example, that you may not recognize as being dangerous, but there's something about it. Could be a sound, a smell or whatever. So subconsciously your mind is going to start looking for where's the danger? Where's. I use lion as a metaphor. Where's the lion in the room? I've got to be on guard for the lion, but you can't see a lion. So on a very, very low level, it starts to prepare the body physically for running into the lion. So you're not aware of it, but physiologically you're starting to change. So the mind then starts to say, we need to prepare for this. The body then starts to burn oxygen from the muscle groups, right at the same time, slowly starting to increase heart rate, lungs, things like that, but you're not aware of it. So what happens is that when the mind is looking for the lion starts to physically start to make some changes. The physical changes come back in as a message to the mind or to the brain, whichever way you want to use. So now the brain gets a message that we're running low on oxygen, which is now another indicator that we're in danger. There must be a lion, right? We're changing. Something's happening. So then that then starts to push the psychological, which then pushes the physical. So it's a double loop. And every time it gets another message from the body, that change, it becomes more confirmation that we're in danger. So. So then it pushes more on the physical side, which pushes the psychological side. And then because it can't find the danger, because there is no danger, it panics. So the key is to get to the why. Why is your mind looping through some old information, activating the nervous system, which activates the physiological changes? A lot of people who have gone through our program who had panic attacks don't have panic attacks because we got to the why. So the answer to your question is we've got to find out what is creating the mind to start looking for the danger. And that's psychological. That's below your conscious awareness. There's a trauma somewhere that your mind is connecting up to.

Because your mind is always looking for same or similar.

So it could be something similar, sounds like something, smells like something, looks like something. Your mind goes into memory, something starts pulling up old traumatic memory, activates and turns on the nervous system. That's really how it happens.

Great. We have a question from Sandra. It says, I have a question about selecting the memories to deescalate trauma. When asked during exercises or meditations to do that, I often go blank and can't think of anything. Or I select something that feels. Feels like a mixture of stories I heard from my parents or seen in photo albums. How do you select the right memory when doing the program?

So what I do with TIP is I'm not worried about the memory. Whatever memory comes to mind, your mind's going to bring in what when it gets into a very relaxed, focused state, into an alpha state, your mind knows exactly what it wants to work on. So a lot of times I get that people are saying before we start the session, well, what if I can't come up with a memory? Or what if I choose the wrong memory? You really can't, because once we get the process started, you'll be surprised at what will come up. And I've had people say, gee, I didn't even remember some of these things that I had had from before. But your mind wants a resolution to it. And the way we work with TIP is we come up with two or three of those and whatever shows up, shows up. But your mind's going to bring to you what it needs to be resolved. And that's the whole purpose of our program. So unless you're talking about some other program, what TIP is designed to do is to get you into that very relaxed alpha brainwave state that your mind will then start releasing whatever it needs to get resolved.

And then once we teach your mind how to do that, the mind is going to continue clearing and updating in following 30 days as you're doing your TIOs.

Yes. And quite often I have people say afterwards.

You know, that they had no idea that the traumas that we were working on, the memories were the ones that they came up with in the beginning. They thought they'd have totally different ones. But then when they got into that very relaxed state, their mind was like, oh, wow, this is coming up. And then we'd work on that.

Don says, do you have program for people to join to learn this technique?

It is something that we're working on, not to train in the technique, but to train in the online program on how to facilitate.

Yes. And you can dawn, you can do a TIP program if you haven't already. You can do the program online. And it is as if you were working with Dr. Wood in person. So in this four hours of uninterrupted four hours, you will go through first educational piece and then the clearing techniques where he will reboot and refresh your mind.

Great. Now back to goals. Question is, Eric was asking Dr. Wood, what is your thinking around having a timeline associated with your goals?

Again, that's in terms I think you need to have a short term. It's not bad to have a short term goal and a longer term goal.

So when I say goals and targets, I'm talking about sometimes it could be something fairly short term that you know, you can accomplish and then also having some long term goals. I think you should have more than just, you know, short term or long term. I think you should have both because if you can see, it's sort of like a road map, right? So you want to then say, okay, what I'm going to travel from, I'm in Orlando. If I'm going to travel from Orlando to California, right. My short term goal would be where do I want to end up at the end of the night? Where do I want to be by tonight? Where's. Where's my stop point tonight? I have other goal. My goal, like long term goal is to get to California, but my short term goal is I got to get to, you know, Birmingham, Alabama on the first night, you know, whatever it is. So have both short term and long term. And again, once you get your mind starting to. Once you learn how to produce really good thoughts, right. Beneficial, appealing and possible thoughts, your mind will create some amazing goals for you. So I wouldn't worry about. Let your mind come up with a goal. Just get into a relaxed state, get into that flow state.

What happens with the traumas that have not been resolved or came up to memory a year or so after the program? How can I process those?

So if something has still come up right afterwards, use some of the same techniques to sort of go through. If you need help, maybe just get the digital program again to sort of go through it, take you through a refresher course. But in most cases those traumas should resolve.

If. Unless it's completely disconnected from anything else. Because a lot of times.

Traumas come down to themes like not feeling safe, not feeling loved, those kinds of things. So if it comes outside that something completely different, then it may need to be addressed individually. But I would either redo it on your own. If you need more help, do the online program. If you need more help, come in and will take you through it one on one.

Wonderful.

I think that covers almost all questions. Everything is kind of similar. A lot of questions about anxiety, why we're experiencing that. I think we covered that. That is a symptom of a deeper issue that you. We can help you resolve that through our program that like docs that you can do either digitally or in person with him in Orlando. All the information is on our site and all of you are on our email list. I'm sure you got all the messages. If you have any specific questions and you would like to talk to us in more detail about the program. Brandon is here and he is more than happy to talk to any of you also. Am I.

So someone just asked about the online program. It's. It's a. Do you Want to explain it?

Oh, sure. The online program is. It takes four hours. So it is equally effective as seeing Dr. Wood in person. It's just a little more convenient. My husband just did it straight from Montenegro and had an absolutely wonderful experience. It is pre recorded for our program that you need to complete in one uninterrupted sitting. Now, this is very important because we want you to be in the right brain state so that the clearing techniques can work properly. There's some pauses built into it, but basically you want to bank on four hours where you want to be in peaceful environment, have good Internet connection and just not be interrupted. The first two hours are us explaining well, Dr. Wood explaining how your mind works, how your subconscious works, how we store memories, and why memories activate our central nervous system the way we do and why that causes us to experience symptoms like anxiety, depression, sometimes addiction, ptsd. And then the following two hours are his proprietary scientific clearing techniques where he will help you and guide you through rebooting these memories or resetting it so that we can explain to your subconscious that this happened a long time ago and that now you're safe.

Brandon's also, if you want to check into, you can reach Brandon. He can guide you all the way through the different options so you can reach out to Brandon.

It's very important not to have any distractions. So you don't want to have your cell phone on you, you don't want to check emails. I tell people, don't even go get the Amazon package that just showed up at your door. If you want to have the ultimate experience with this, it's four hours uninterrupted, followed up by the 30 days of audios. So many times people feel so good after the four hours, they don't think they need the audios. And I always say if you think you feel good after four hours, just wait to see how good you feel after the 30 days. Now, when you do that, you get lifetime access to all the audios. There's over a hundred audios in that library. All kinds of other stuff that you could do in addition to your 30 days. Or again, you have lifetime access to them. So you can do them anytime. And then you get to join this inner circle that we have for free. So again, you get lifetime access to that. That's where a live webinar the last Thursday of every month. Except for this month.

Exactly. Yeah, this month and the previous month. It was Thanksgiving, right?

Yeah. Next year is going to be a little difficult too. But I didn't think about that ahead of time.

Right. And then with the inner circle.