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Why Do I Keep Attracting the Same Things?

12 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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Dr. Don Wood explains why people keep attracting the same (often unhelpful) situations: the brain favors continuity and runs habitual "code" that feels safe because it is known, even when objectively dangerous. He uses an extended analogy (dangerous two-mile food trip vs. safer nearby store) to show why intentional, repeated changes are required to alter that internal "code."

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If you find yourself constantly in the same situations over and over, even if they're not positive for you, why does that happen? The reason we get into habits and behaviors is because our mind likes continuity. It creates a sense of safety, even if it's not safe. Now that sounds counterintuitive, but it's actually true. I always use the example. If I walked every day to get food and I had to walk two miles and on that trip I had to navigate through snipers and landmines. But every day I got there and back and then somebody says to me, why are you taking that two mile trip? It's really dangerous. There's a really big food store down this road. It's only about 100 yards, it's well lit and there's tons of security. Why won't my mind want to do that? Because it doesn't know it's true. It's going to go with what it knows. So the key is when you want to change a situation, you have to intentionally make the change. Your brain builds a code, it going to run that code until you change the code. That's why we get stuck in the same kind of situations over and over again.