Dr. Don WoodResolving Your Trauma-Based Challenges So You Can Unlock Peak Performance

"You Must Be Out of Your Mind" Podcast Ep6 clip1

31 Aug 2022 · 1 min

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Shannon reflects that family counseling felt unsafe to her, so she avoided participation and instead coped by overperforming—serving as swim team captain, debate team captain, and leading the literary magazine. She notes her father died in an accident 17 years prior and that his journals described her as "doing great," though she concealed her struggles and sought validation through achievement.

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But, yeah, I think it led to me feeling like that it wasn't safe. I didn't want to be part of the family counseling sessions. I had zero interest in that because I think I probably didn't feel safe. And I had. I haven't really thought of it in that way before, but that's likely the case. And so what that led me to do was to over perform. So I basically, I, you know, I was on. I was swim team captain, I was the debate team captain, I led the literary magazine. And so my father passed away now 17 years ago in an accident. And I think we're likely to talk about that as well. And when I found his, his journals, he writes, you know, Shannon's doing great. She's involved in all these things. And I was thinking I was not doing great, but I wasn't about to let anybody know that. And so I found a way to over perform, in a sense. And, and, and I get, I get joy out of that as well. Like, I love that sense, but I think I needed that sense of validation, really, that of sense.