Therapists are trained to say
Therapists are taught to tell their patients what they think about their feelings, but neuroscience shows it actually makes matters worse. You see, when a therapist uses "I" or "me," the brain of the listener feels judged instead of understood. What works better is focusing completely on the other person, because when you recognize what someone is feeling and name it accurately, their brain relaxes. It's called affect labeling. This simple shift changes everything. It builds safety, connection, and calm faster than any technique, and that's why so many therapists today are unlearning what they were taught. If you you know a therapist or coach who needs to hear this, share this video with them.
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