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Become a Great Dad Don't Be Your Dad

20 Feb 2017 · 1 min

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In this brief spoken monologue, mediator and peacemaker Doug Noll introduces his mission to help fathers become emotionally available to their children. He shares his personal experience of being raised by a loving yet emotionally distant father, explaining how that lack of connection left his mother as the primary nurturer and caused lasting hurt for children when dads cannot engage emotionally. Noll argues that many men unconsciously repeat the patterns of their own fathers, perpetuating a cycle of emotional disconnect. To break this cycle, he has created a concise program called “How to Become a Great Dad in 90 Seconds,” which teaches a set of skills designed to foster emotional engagement with children while preserving a sense of traditional masculinity. He invites listeners to explore the program as a way to become a better dad without replicating the shortcomings of their own fathers.

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Hi, I'm Doug Noll. You know, I work with a lot of dads helping them to become emotionally available for their children. I'm a mediator and a peacemaker, and I'm interested in this because I'm really trying to help people have deeper, more engaged lives. And one of the things that I hear a lot is how men who are raising children, they're fathers themselves, really don't want to raise their children the way that they were raised by their father. And the question is, why is that? Well, I don't know about you, but I had the experience of being raised by a father who deeply loved me, but was emotionally unable to connect with me, for a whole bunch of different reasons, none of which was his fault. Of course, as a child, I didn't know any better, and so the nurturing was left up to Mom. The problem with that is that children are hurt when their dads can't connect with them. And the other problem is that if dads don't learn a different way of being, they're going to copy and imitate unconsciously the behaviors that they experienced as children with their father. So, I have devoted myself to helping dads become great dads in 90 seconds by learning a set of skills that will help them become emotionally engaged with their children while maintaining everything that means to be a real man. So check out How to Become a Great Dad in 90 Seconds and see if it's something that might interest you.