Emotional Intelligence Isn't About Feeling More — It's About This (The Part Nobody Teaches)

As you learn how to name the feelings of other people with precision, it helps to know that there are 7 basic layers. The layers are anger, disrespect, fear, disgust, shame, sadness, and abandonment. And each of these layers have subcategories of emotions. So for example, in anger you'll have frustration, irritation, annoyance, and rage. You'll have fear, worry, anxiety, overwhelm, and panic. You'll— in— with disrespect, you might have dismissal, invisible, undervalued, ignored, unappreciated, unsupported, not heard, being invisible. For disgust, contempt, Repulsion: you're appalled, nauseated, offended. Embarrassment: shame, guilt, humiliation. Sadness: disappointment, grief, hopelessness, misery, depressed, upset. And abandonment, which is the basis of almost all emotion: feeling abandoned, rejected, betrayed, unloved, unlovable, left out, excluded, irrelevant, and forgotten.