Doug NollI'm called in when human dynamics are getting in the way of strategic leadership execution.

Good Man vs Nice Guy: The Hard Truth

26 Nov 2025 · 0 min

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A good man has firm ideals and stands by them even when unpopular. A nice guy just wants approval and avoids conflict. Being good is harder because it means saying no based on what you believe, not what makes people like you.

A good man has ideals that they stand for and they'll stand against. And when they're tested, a good man is not a nice guy. Being a good man's a lot harder, for good reason. I'm not going to be most popular. I'm not going to be always most affable. It also doesn't mean you got to be a dick. It means sometimes you got to go, I believe in this, is this for me? This is for me. And that is not for me.

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