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How Much Time Couples Need Together Weekly

17 Dec 2025 · 0 min

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Relationship advisor Doug Noll says couples need at least 90 minutes a week of focused conversation about their lives and logistics. He recommends one date night weekly as a minimum, with two providing better protection against decline.

For a couple to maintain their relationship without it deteriorating, they have to spend 90 minutes a week together talking about their lives, about how the house is run, about what they've all been doing to keep their stories caught up, right? And then they need to spend at least one time having a date, and two is better. One is necessary, two is better. And so that's sort of your minimal commitment level if you don't want things to deteriorate.

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