How to Professionally Say "Don't Talk to Me Like That"

When someone speaks disrespectfully, first name their feeling:
How to professionally say, "Don't talk to me like that." If you get an urge to defend yourself or walk away, don't do it. Instead, say this: "You feel disrespected and ignored?" You see, when you label someone's emotions, their brain immediately begins to calm down. When they calm down, ask, "How can we continue with mutual respect?" This tells them you are open to the dialogue but also sets healthy boundaries in the process. Share this video with someone who needs to see it.
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