Name What People Feel to Earn Real Respect

So respect doesn't come from dominance, it comes from presence. And when you're seeing people and you're naming what they're feeling, you're not being soft with them or weak. You're not agreeing with them, you're not fixing, you're just naming what's there. You're frustrated, you feel disrespected, you're really pissed off, you're angry. Just naming the emotions, that's it. When you do that, people stop defending, they stop posturing, they stop becoming reactive because for the first time they feel like somebody really gets them and they are deeply grateful for And the other part, as you learn how to name what other people are feeling, you learn to feel your own feelings. You become emotionally self-aware. And that lowers your reactivity because you know that if you're reacting from your own unprocessed emotions, you're not present with another person. You're just defending yourself. And that's how fights and arguments continue on and on and on and on.