Doug NollI'm called in when human dynamics are getting in the way of strategic leadership execution.

Say This One Thing and Watch Their Brain Reset (Neuroscience Explained)

2 Jun 2026 · 0 min

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A child's meltdown over a grilled-cheese sandwich isn't about the sandwich. It's a dysregulation gap: their emotional load exceeds their ability to manage it. The trigger is just the surface. Parents can help kids build regulation skills, and the same pattern shows up in adults during high-stress moments.

It had nothing to do with their IQ. It had everything to do with this dysregulation gap. And that's why parenting is so important. Children are not being manipulative when they melt down over a grilled cheese sandwich cut the wrong way. They are showing you that their accumulated emotional load exceeded their current skill set. The grilled cheese is not the issue. The overflow is. And this matters for adults too, because the same dynamic plays out in boardrooms.