Validate your partner's feelings without agreeing with them. Most people confuse validation with concession, but acknowledging how someone feels calms their emotional brain and makes space for rational conversation later.
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This one simple truth will save your dying relationship. You see, most people think validating and acknowledging someone's feelings means you're agreeing with them or giving in, but that's not true. Just because you are validating your partner's emotional experience does not mean that you are agreeing with the cause of the feelings. Think about it this way: if your partner shuts down because you disagreed with them, saying you feel dismissed, disrespected, and unappreciated, doesn't mean you agree that you were actually being dismissive. You're just recognizing how they feel at the moment, and that's important because it calms the emotional brain so you can actually have a reasonable conversation about the facts later. Have you ever struggled with acknowledging your partner's emotions? Tell me in the comments now.