Doug NollI'm called in when human dynamics are getting in the way of strategic leadership execution.

When Arguments Really Start

30 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Arguments don't start with yelling. They start earlier, when your brain picks up a tiny shift in tone or a pause. Once you notice that micro-cue, you switch from listening to protecting yourself. Catching it early lets you slow down and stop the fight before it happens.

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The moment you think the argument started isn't when it actually began. See, it actually started way earlier than you think, not with yelling or harsh words. Instead, it starts with a small shift, a change in tone, or a pause that feels off, which your brain instantly notices. And once it does, you stop listening to understand and start listening to protect yourself. That's the invisible moment a conversation becomes unsafe. If you can notice that moment, you can slow things down before the argument takes over. Follow to learn how to stay calm when conversations get hard.