Why Blame Makes You Doubt Yourself

This is the exact reason why blame hits you harder than it should. Because when someone hurts you and then blames you for it, it messes with your head. You don't just feel pain, but instead you start doubting yourself. And if you're emotionally intelligent, your first instinct is to make sense of things, to understand where you went wrong. But here's what you need to know: when they hurt you, they're avoiding responsibility. So instead, they shift the blame onto you, because if you become the problem, they don't have to face what they did. But you need to know that you can understand why they're blaming you without accepting the blame, because emotional intelligence isn't about absorbing everything. It's knowing what's yours to hold and what isn't. If this resonates with you, comment "blame." I'll share a deeper breakdown on how to stop carrying it.