Doug NollI'm called in when human dynamics are getting in the way of strategic leadership execution.

Why People Keep Crossing Your Boundaries And How to Stop It

26 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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Doug Noll explains why people keep crossing your boundaries: you're teaching them to by not enforcing limits. When you overextend and say yes too often, others learn they can push further. Stop the pattern by actually saying no.

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Most of you don't realize this, but the way you handle small moments is teaching people to cross your limits. And it usually happens when you're already exhausted and someone asks for your time, but because you feel uncomfortable saying no, you end up saying yes anyway. But the other person doesn't see your hesitation, they just see availability, and your body learns that your needs come after everyone else's. So when a similar situation repeats, you feel drained and resentful. See, when you don't set a boundary, you're not being generous. Instead, you're teaching people that your limits don't matter. Save this If you're trying to stop overgiving without feeling guilty.