Doug NollI'm called in when human dynamics are getting in the way of strategic leadership execution.

You Don't Have an Anger Problem, You Have a Perception Problem

11 Jun 2026 · 0 min

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Anger isn't the problem. It's a signal that one of seven deeper emotions is triggered: disrespect, fear, abandonment, embarrassment, disgust, or sadness. Most people treat the alarm as the fire and never address what's actually burning underneath.

Here's the thing: Anger is not the problem. Most people think they have an anger problem. They do not. They have a perception problem. Anger is not a primary emotion. It's a signal that something underneath has been activated. When someone triggers you, what is actually firing is one of 7 core emotional layers: Anger, Disrespect, Fear, Abandonment, Embarrassment, Disgust, or Sadness. The reason you cannot stop getting angry is because you're treating the alarm as the fire.