Anne Truong MDMen's Sexual Health Doctor

Breaking Barriers: Building Stronger Connections Through Curiosity

18 May 2023 · 1 min

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Anne Truong MD explains why accusatory questions like "Why won't you have sex with me?" backfire in relationships. Instead, use neutral invitations like "Babe, what's happening?" to reduce defensiveness and encourage your partner to actually talk.

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Just. We take why the question why out of our interaction. So I don't approach Glenn and say, why won't you have sex with me? Or why aren't you talking to me? Or, why are you avoiding me? That only puts him on the defense, and he feels accused, and he thinks I can't come up with the answer that you're looking for. But if I come to him and I say, babe, what's happening? It opens the door. It's like an invitation instead of an accusation. So. So we take that why question completely out of our relationship.