Anne Truong MD explains how to ask your partner what they actually want in bed. Ask directly what they like and dislike, which specific things to do less of, and get clear guidance. Most men don't know what works unless you ask.
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One of the things that once your communication gets to a certain point as well, the opposite of that question comes in. As long as you have the trust in your relationship to ask this question is like, which part did you not like so much? Or what can I do less of? And then if the person's comfortable enough and it's a safe space, then they can share that as well. Because you want to know what you're doing wrong. Like, I don't want to be in the bedroom thinking, oh, man, I'm doing this awesome right now. Meanwhile, she's thinking, kay, you need to stop that, because that doesn't feel good. But we won't know unless we're told that. Because, guys, we're clueless in bed, for the most part, we're clueless. We need direction, but that direction is on us. We need to ask those questions to get that direction. Because, trust me, if your partner understands that your goal in the conversation and in the bedroom is to have a better experience and have her have a better experience, she's going to be more than willing to share what works as long as you ask the right one.