Anne Truong MDMen's Sexual Health Doctor

Taught an 85-year-old to pick up men. Age is just a number. #charisma #confidence #datingadvice

4 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this concise coaching segment, the speaker argues that charisma and sexual confidence are skills that can be taught rather than innate traits. Citing research, she claims that first impressions are formed in just seven seconds and that non‑verbal cues and "style intelligence"—the way one presents oneself visually—are critical for creating that impression. To illustrate that age is irrelevant, she recounts teaching an 85‑year‑old woman how to approach men in a bar, emphasizing that anyone can develop the confidence needed to attract partners if they focus on these principles.

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Man convey sexual, sexy confidence. It's everything that we're talking about. And the reason why I love the word charisma is because it's something that is taught and learned, not something that people are born with. This is what research says. So I have taught an 85 year old woman to go to a bar and pick up a man. Like the age does not discriminate with this stuff. It only takes seven seconds to make a first impression. That's all you got now that's what research says. That's why I start with the style intelligence, because like I said, you can do all this work on yourself, but if you're not focusing on your first impression non verbal stuff and the style intelligence, it doesn't matter because then opportunities start passing you by. So like we're wired differently. But I always tell men if you can tap into that part of our brain, you got us. You got it.