Anne Truong MDMen's Sexual Health Doctor

The exact words to start "the talk" about your sexless relationship. #difficultconversation

31 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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A short guidance piece by Anne Truong MD on how to initiate the first direct conversation about a sexless relationship. Emphasizes choosing timing, scripting the request for a dedicated conversation, using emotionally descriptive language (e.g., 'I feel rejected and distant') instead of accusations, and offers example lines to lead with impact.

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The first direct conversation about a sexless relationship is often the hardest. So script it. Think about it, all right? Pick the right moment. Not in bed, not right after a rejection, and definitely not during a fight. You can say this. Hey, can we set aside, like, 30 minutes sometime this week to talk about us? It's important to me, and I want to understand you better. And I want you to lead with impact, not with accusation. When the time comes, try something like, I want to talk about our s life. When we go months without, I start to feel rejected and distant from you. I miss feeling close to you as a couple. Notice. No. You never. No. What's wrong with you? You're describing your emotional reality, not attacking their character.