Dr. Betty Murray explains why women lose sexual desire during menopause: hormonal changes, not personal failure. The mismatch can strain marriages when partners don't understand what's happening. Over 21 years of practice, she's seen this pattern repeatedly cause distress in couples.
in that perimenopause and menopause transition. It's not just a sex talk. It's about the biochemistry, really. And it's also about preserving marriage and preserving couples and partnership. And, you know, it's a "you're not broken" talk, right? I'm going to borrow those words from Dr. Kelly Casperson in her fabulous book, You're Not Broken. We're going to talk about today is, is what's really happening in your body. And because the reality is most women experience a loss of of sexual desire during the perimenopause and menopause transition. And they often think something's wrong with them and the relationship. And even more importantly, their partners may not understand what they're going through. And, you know, if they have a good partner that is aware, that helps. But a lot of, a lot of partners, particularly if you're in a heterosexual relationship, they just don't understand. And, you know, Kelly Casperson says this all the time, but I would say this is true too. You know, what was the golden moment for her is she's a urologist and she was prescribing testosterone for men all the time. And there was a woman that showed up in her office and her husband had just been given testosterone therapy. And she's like, what am I supposed to do? My husband has the desire of an 18-year-old and she's crying. Right? She's crying. So here's the thing. Kelly Casperson experienced that. All of our practitioners for the last 21 years have experienced that. All of our practitioners online. For a lot of women, this is the quiet thing we say in the room right before we walk out the door. It's when we put our hand on the, on the handle and we're like, oh, and I need to say this.
