142. Recovering from Trauma and Learning to Triumph with Joe Smarro

That one of the statements I make in training is, and again from myself, is no amount of trauma coming up is ever going to excuse, like, knowing right from wrong, right? Like, I knew the things I was doing was wrong. But here's the thing I want people to know is when you have a lot of trauma growing up, you develop apathy towards consequence. Because why? Because of confirmation bias, right? We're only going to surround ourself with a reality that. That, like, reinforces what we believe about ourselves. And so I knew that the things I was doing was wrong. But if I could have an affair, get caught, and then my wife leave me, that validates the belief I have, which is like, see, marriage doesn't work, love isn't real, everyone leaves. It just reinforces my abandonment, stuff that I was creating, right? And so it's not about knowing right and wrong, but when we develop apathy towards consequence, that's when problems really start to persist. Because I expect to get in trouble, I expect to interface with law enforcement, I expect to get caught. I expect to have these terrible things keep happening in my life because I'm going to ensure that they do. And not enough people have had that realization yet, sadly.