Ekemba Sooh argues that real change comes from deciding who you want to become, not from fear-driven reactions. Most goals fail because they're based on accumulated fears masquerading as instinct. He recommends journaling, walking, and meditation to answer: who do I want to be and why?
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Deciding who you want to be instead of reacting from fear and things you don't want in your life or that you want in your life is a much better way of going about things. So right now, at the time it's filming, it's the end of the year 2023, and most people are taking stock in what has happened in the previous year or years and what they want to happen in the next year. But unfortunately a lot of that comes from fear. And that fear leads to lack of appreciation or gratitude as to the journey they just went through, and then a knee jerk reaction based on conditioned fears and responses into what they want in their life. So I'm Akimbisso, the owner of Soul Core Fitness, and I use a holistic model here for training and therapy. And holistic means, part of it is mental, emotional. You want to really connect to mentally, emotionally what you want in life so that you're not just going out and doing a random exercise because of whatever you think is going to happen or going to do some random treatment or whatever because you want somebody to fix you, because you still want to feel the way you're feeling. So I'm going to talk about deciding who you want to be today. Now, it's much more effective than reacting from fear. Most people go about setting goals or intentions or resolutions, if you want to call them that, from a place of conditioned fear. They think they're operating from themselves, but they're not. They're being driven by a conditioned response. That conditioned response is an accumulation of thoughts and feelings that's happening over your life that you now believe is you. And so they may think that, oh, I'm operating from instinct, but that's generally not the case. Most people think instinct is the same as reacting from emotions and they're totally opposite because an emotion is a conditioned existence. It's who you think you are, not who you truly are at your core. So when you go about making these resolutions, you're going from one fear state to another, oh, I don't like my body because of this. So I want to go over here and do this with no reason why or where it's coming from. And no examination that's going to lead you to this yo yo existence. And actually not moving forward very much at all. Because you haven't learned your lesson to move, to move forward. But by deciding who you want to be, you've taken that time to think about, okay, what is it I want in my life? And then when something comes up, you examine it, okay, why do I want that. Why do I want to have xyz? Why do I want to do that? Where's that coming from? Because now if you examine it one, you can get to more the true idea of what it is you're feeling and you can take steps to move towards an outcome that's more holistic, not just a knee jerk reaction. By deciding who you want to be, you're not being proactive, you're being an active participant in your life. You're not waiting around and stuck in a conditioned emotional mental response paradigm. You're not going along. Life just reacting to things by being proactive, in my humble opinion, is more where you want to be in this life. We're not here to just find some track that we think we should be on and then have people tell us what to do and just react as we go along. We're here to open ourselves up to who we want to be, into what we want to do, into a space of learning. And as we continue along that journey, then those things that we want in our life will come about, not the reverse. You don't look at, hey, I want this in my life and then have no process of learning. You go, I want to be this person. And those things start to come about. This is life, this is the process we're on. I know that everybody has the potential to do this. And I know because you're still watching and if you feel any sort of pang of resonating to this that you can start doing this now. Take some time with this, go out and journal, walk in nature, meditate, commune with nature, all the above and more. And then really try to connect to who do I want to be and also why. And then write it down and don't second guess yourself because it's not a right or wrong answer. You're not being tested, you're just starting this process or continuing this process. I don't know where you are, but now you're writing these things down. Who would I want to be and why? And then you're going to go forth now and you can try and find solutions which from this place, not the other way around. Not searching on the Internet and just connecting to whatever marketing message or personality that you see on the Internet and going, oh yeah, they're going to save me and this is going to get me. No, no, no, you're coming from a place of like, this is where I want to be, this is why. And then when you go to the search, you go, hey, this looks like it might help me on my journey. This looks like a good avenue. Again, it might not be right, but it's right in the process of learning. So always be right in the process of learning. You may just have to adjust as you go, but again, that's life. If you want to have a little more support on this and you're not too afraid, write what you found down in the comments below. I have no judgment towards it and don't worry about other people. Think about it as me and you talking. Put it down there. I'll be there to support you because I know you can do it and I want to see you succeed. Why don't you have a great new year or whenever you're watching this and I'll talk to you next week. Take care.
