Emily McDonald suggests examining whether you embody the qualities you want in a partner. She proposes "dating yourself" by meeting your own love-language needs: quality time alone, acts of service, gifts. When you consistently treat yourself the way you'd want a soulmate to, you become a healthier, more attractive partner.
would that person want to date you? The values that you're saying you want in a person, do you have those values? If you're saying that you want someone who is fit and healthy, are you fit and healthy? You want someone that will believe in you. Do you believe in you? You want someone that's going to make you feel loved. Do you make yourself feel loved? And so this brings me to an amazing tip, which is to date yourself. I mean this in a deep way. For example, Do you know what your love languages are? There are a bunch of them. Personally, mine are quality time and physical touch. So quality time is something that is really important to me. And I say this not to be like, oh, this is what I was looking for in a person, but to say this is what I needed to give to myself. If quality time is one of my love languages, then I need to be spending quality time with myself. If acts of service is one of my love languages, then I need to be going and doing things for me. If gifts is one of my love languages, then like, let me go buy myself some flowers. Dating yourself quite literally means showing up for you. How do you want your potential soulmate or partner to treat you? And you need to treat yourself like that.
