You think you're making logical choices, but your hidden beliefs are actually running the show. The speaker argues that real change requires a painful awakening: questioning everything you've been taught about pleasure, sex, and relationships, even though it means losing the illusion of control.
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We think we're very logical, that the conscious self is driving our life. This is a mistake. This is actually a lie. And it might feel more comfortable because we think we are in control, but we're not in control. What controls us is our belief. And I think it's like a step that is— that might be triggering for many of us. Because that's why I said at the beginning, like, life is not the way, you know, we think it is. And, and that's— this awakening is tough because it's— you challenge everything. You challenge your way of life. You challenge the way you've been maybe taught pleasure. You challenge how— what a healthy sexuality and relationship look like. Like, you know, like, it's, it's— it can be, like, quite unsettling.