This Question Will Change How You See Your Future

Dan tells Dr. Frederik G. Pferdt that the feeling he wants in his future is more kindness in the world. He models it daily with his children, peers, and community. Turning an abstract future into one feeling you can act on today is how you actually shape what comes next.
But when we really think about the future on an individual level, personal level, we rarely ask ourselves, how do I want to feel in the future? So if I were to ask you, Dan, how do you want to feel in the future? What would be that one feeling that you can imagine right now?
I want to feel more kindness in the world. I think that would be the— if there was one hallmark that I think keeps me up at night and I think is increasingly a scarce resource, it's a world where I can be kind, but also kindness is reflected back. Love that.
So if you want to feel more kindness in the future, right, what are you doing today to create that future?
I'm trying to role model that with every interaction that I have with my kids, with my peers, with bringing ideas around kindness to the world. Amazing. I think that's probably the big one. Just walk the talk on that, you know. As you said, shape the future that, you know, be the change that I want to to be.
Absolutely, yes. And I think that's so powerful because now we took that concept of the future, which is out there, and we just made it personal. We made it actionable. We made it shapeable. And that is something that I want to remind everyone here. If you thought about your one word, your one feeling, ask yourself, what are you doing today to influence that future? And there's a lot you can do. As you said, you can role model it with the people you're surrounded by, with your family, your children, your boss, right? Everyone. Because when we do that, we now take the future in our own hands, right? And we are shaping it in a way that we want to see it happening.
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