Time to Grow | Angela Pferdt

The future is how. Have you asked yourself today, what's next for me? You're not alone. We've all felt that way at some point. My name is Frederik Pferdt, and for years I've helped the brightest minds at Google and Stanford and people around the world shape their futures. Now I want to help you to do the same. Because the future isn't just something that happens. It's something you can create. Starting right now. From within. Instead of waiting to see what happens next, let's explore how you can make it happen. Each episode dives into one key area. Like sleep, nutrition, relationships, creativity, storytelling, mindfulness, beauty, movement, or purpose, and brings you real stories and practical tools you can use to shape a better future for yourself. So what's one step you can take today to create what's next? Let's dive in and explore how to build a better tomorrow, starting right now. Hello friends, and, uh, welcome to The Future Is How, the podcast where we don't just ask what's next, we explore how we create it. I'm your host, Frederik Pferdt. Today's episode is deeply personal and very special. I'm joined by someone who's shaped my life and my future more than anyone else. She's a healing artist, a Reiki master, a master gardener. She's my wife, my partner, and probably one of my greatest teachers on this planet. Angela, welcome.

Thanks for the warm welcome here. Looking forward to our conversation.

Yes, yes, we're basically just about 10 meters away. You're in your Reiki studio here in our little forest, but we've spent decades together being very close. So this is probably something like we're going on an extended walk just with a microphone on. And others can listen to our conversation. So I'm really looking forward to it. Full transparency, this is our third attempt. We had to redo this a couple of times for various reasons. So, um, let's give that another try. As always in this show, we begin with what I call a future bio. So we wanna know not who you've been, but who you're becoming. Angela, would you share your future bio with us?

So yeah, first of all, thanks for having me here and talking about the work I do, explaining more about Reiki, energy work, plant medicine. And before I tell you who I wanna become, I probably tell you a little bit more about me. Most of my adulthood, I've been working in the banking sector and finances. I worked at investment banks in Germany as well as in the US. Then we have our 3 wonderful children. So I'm a mother, I'm David's wife, as he explained. And now I am a Reiki master, which is energy work. I am a Master Gardener. I am part of a group, Feeding the Soil. We can also talk about that later. I am a certified microdosing facilitator from the first cohort, as well as a journey guide. So that's about me, what I am right now with all the stickers on me, but if I want to take off all those stickers and look at the future, who I want to become. I would say I, I want to become a better version of myself. Not that there's anything completely wrong with it. It's more like understanding myself better, seeing myself in situations better as a wife, as a mother, as a friend. As a daughter, as a sister, as a neighbor. For me, it's learning how to become like every day a better version of it by pausing, by listening, maybe by slowing down and understanding and being more present.

Wonderful. Thanks for sharing that. Yes. And I think many of us want to You know, become better, right? Be better human beings, just as you said, with our neighbors, in our communities, as mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, sisters, brothers, whatever role you are playing. How do we do that, Angela? And you mentioned something interesting right at the end, which is being present. So tell us a little bit more about that.

Yeah. So being more present is what I learned by doing Reiki. So I explain to you a little bit about Reiki. People keep asking me, what is it?

Yes, what is it?

So in the most basic words, It is a form of natural healing that promotes and supports your body's healing process. So it's coming from Japan. It's a Japanese word that you can break down in Rei, which means universal, and Ki, which is the life force, the life energy. So put together, Reiki. Again, a really traditional old Japanese healing method. But if you want to go to Tokyo and talk about Reiki, don't expect that everyone knows what it is. So it's still in its niche, but it's made its way around the globe. Yeah. Found its way into my home and into my heart. So that's what I'm offering here in Santa Cruz, in our A-frame studio that you probably can see a little bit in the background if you watch the video to it. Otherwise, I'll just give give you a little bit more information about what it is and how it works. Again, it is a non-invasive healing method. It's non-religious also, and it works by placing the practitioner's hands on several head positions all the way down the body and promoting a well-being. In basic words, like at the least it's a form of wellbeing. Again, because of the hand positioning, a few minutes on each, it gives you a chance to relax, to calm down, to slow down, and basically allowing the body for this hour that we spend together to rest, to reset, and allowing itself to heal consciously. Or unconsciously, big or small, whatever comes up comes up in this very moment that we spend together working with the energies in your bodies.

Thank you so much for introducing that Japanese healing tradition, I would even say, to us. So I know you're also a Reiki master, right? So, and I know that your journey was very personal coming to Reiki. So what brought you to Reiki and what opened up for you when you explored Reiki for yourself and for others too?

So the way it found me is, and you know the story, someone really close to our heart got very sick during the pandemic. And me being on a different continent, I was looking for ways to support her in this situation. While being away. And I quickly found about this traditional healing method that also works wonderfully over Zoom. So over the distance. So I found someone really close to where the person lives and offered her like, do you want to try it out? So I arranged a meeting with her and the Reiki master, and they had a meeting over Zoom and I think I was probably more nervous about it as they both were. And I asked her afterwards, like, how did it go? Like, what did you feel like? Anything? What came up? And she was pretty neutral about it saying, yeah, it was good. It was fine. It was great. But the real magic happened in my eyes. It's my opinion. The day after when she went back to see her doctor and the doctor noticed an improvement on not overall well-being, but also on the blood work they took. So I'm like, maybe it is related. So if it helps her in this situation, it can help so many other people too. So that's when I started to get interested for myself, as well as offering it then to other people.

Thanks for sharing that. So why are people coming to you when you say, you know, you're sharing this practice with so many people? Like, why do they show up?

People come from all sorts of different backgrounds and stages in their lives. And the most basic, I would say they come for some sort of healing. Healing is such a big word. It doesn't have to be those big traumas that we carry around. It can be like on a smaller scale. It can be like a situation that just keeps bothering you and you don't really have a chance to really sort it through. So people come here and you have to imagine it as some sort of massage setting. So you will lie on your back. And me as the Reiki master, I'm going to ask you for an intention for the next hour. So I want you to focus on some sort of attention you have for this time we've spent together, because wherever there's an intention, this is where the energy goes. So this is the first energy work. And then no one session is like the other. So it's completely personal and different. Most people though, they feel some sort of warmth. They feel some sort of tingly. They feel some sort of being held, being understood, feeling like a rush of energy coming out of the body or into the body. Some feel like, okay, today's the day I run for president. I can do anything. I can achieve whatever I want. They feel really energized because the energy was maybe just blocked at some stage, which just happens in our everyday busy life. Others, they feel like they want to just chill and relax and want to be by themselves and want to sort things out for themselves. And others, you know, they just break open in a way they wouldn't allow themselves to break open. And by just releasing some stuck-up emotions, some sort of whatever comes up for them. So yeah, people come for all sorts of reasons. And most basically, I would say to heal from stress, from trauma and relax, looking for relaxation and especially calmness, calmness in their lives by balancing those energies in the body. And yeah, by allowing themselves just to be.

So I understand that you provide a pretty safe space for people to open up, as you just mentioned, right? To share what's on their mind, what emotions they're feeling, what's going on in their lives. So what are some of these things that you noticed in people's lives that really cause them to be in probably crisis mode, right? Where they feel some sort of emotion like anxiety, or they feel lonely, or other things. Like, what are some of these things and stories people tell you.

Glad you're bringing up the loneliness. And also, this is part of the work where we go like deeper, a layer deeper in the body. And this is how I came across plant medicine, which is another really wonderful tool for people that just want to go deeper and want to go inwards. So here comes my second sticker that I put on myself as a journey guide.

What does that mean? Yes.

Yeah. So people may have heard about it. It's out there a lot. The word journey, journey guide, talking about plant medicine. I mean, there are so many big universities out there, like Johns Hopkins doing a fantastic job and offering this already in a contained setting. I know Stanford has a huge department researching about plant medicine and how it can help us with all sorts of mental illnesses, starting with depression, with loneliness, with any sorts of those big illnesses that humanity has to deal with. Talking about this plant medicine and how it can help so many people, is why I offer those journeys, which is, I would say, a 3-step process or program. It starts with the preparation phase, with a huge chunk of time focusing on the intention of it. So why do I want to work with plant medicine? What do I want to get out of it? What insights do I want to get? The second part of the The next step is the journey itself, which is a full day where we spend time together, also here in my A-frame studio, tucked away from the outside world, where we have time for you to look inwards, basically, and experience whatever is there, consciously or unconsciously, what comes up, what is there, which is which might not be bothering you, but still want some sort of attention. I call it, you know, using a flashlight. The plant medicine really helps. It's like a flashlight. You have a flashlight in your hand and it helps you just to spotlight things in your life that might be out of balance or might be perfect and you didn't really appreciate it the way it is. Anyway, this is the second part. The third step is the huge word that comes in is called integration. So whatever that came up, whatever vision or version of yourself you saw, how can you integrate it into your everyday life? How can you make good use of it? How can you overall make sense out of it. Yeah. So this medicine has, I call it, a built-in intelligence. So it knows exactly what it's doing with you. It knows exactly what you can handle in this very moment, in this very moment in your life. It really depends on what mind— here comes your word— mind state you are in. So this whole work doesn't just find you by advertising. This is a work that finds you because you want to do it. This is— you are in the right mind state or mindset, how people call it. It really, it really finds you when you need it the most, I would say. So yeah, this is the other part.

So thanks for sharing that and giving us a really great introduction and some insights into psychedelics and how they can not just heal ourselves, but show us probably a better version of ourselves. Right, and show us maybe a future version of ourselves that we haven't discovered yet. So you mentioned that the main part of the work happens afterwards in that integration phase where you try to really make sense of what you've discovered and trying to integrate that into your life. So what are some of the practices that you recommend people are doing after, you know, they go on a journey?

Well, again, there is So many different journeys and everything is so individualized. But my part is I want to make sure that you can make the most of what you experienced. So I want to give you tools. I want to give you, and again, this could be like some people want to do gardening. Some people want to draw what they experienced. It can also go like deeper into layers where you wanna do like meditation, where you wanna, you know, think of life completely different. You come out with different insights, with different ideas, which could be, I'm saying again, I have to say you could because everything is so individualized, but overall this is what people report back. They are more than happy to tell you all about their journey. Because it is, it's very special. It opens, you know, it opens you up in a way that you probably wouldn't think it would. And by doing this, which maybe sounds a bit creepy, but it's, it's not at all. It is a really gentle way of finding that sort of peace that many people are looking for. It also brings, again, people report and say like what they found is that a lot of answers are there already. It's all there. It's all within us. We as human beings need to find a way to access that by maybe slowing down and just listening and feeling and understanding and being more present.

Beautifully framed, as you said, that to all of the questions that we have as human beings that are on our minds throughout our days and nights, probably, that there's the answer already inside us, right? We just have to discover it and let it out. Right. And I think you mentioned that these journeys help you to really go deep and finding those answers, right, that you're looking for. And I think one word always comes up when I read the research or talking to people who have done this work, the word love, right? Love for yourself, love for others, love for all human beings. And I think that's very powerful if you discover that as one of the answers to some of those questions. That it lies in, in love and love to nature and other things as well. So I think a lot of people listening might feel curious about that and want to learn more. Right. But they also feel unsure. Right. Is that the right thing for me, or do I need to go and do that work? So, Angela, what would you say to someone who feels drawn to this kind of healing? And it doesn't have to be like you're suffering from a trauma or you're in a mental state that is unstable. It could be also like, you know, your relationship is somehow not working out or you're not happy with generally your life or you feel that the work that you're doing has no meaning. Some of these things might come up in people's lives. So what would you recommend to those people where to begin?

So I always say, like, do your research first. Like, you know, go online these days, of course, talk to people that have done it before, and I'm sure you'll find them out there. And again, they're more than happy to talk about their experience for sure. You can also call me. I'm happy to talk you through those different steps and also, you know, find your, the right research that you might be interested in. There is amazing research out there and it was about to get approved last year by the FDA, which didn't. Nevertheless, there is the research out there. There are like huge departments working on finding more out of this. What is it doing? How is it so powerful? How can it help so many people? And especially as you were saying, suffering from depression, from loneliness, the disconnection, the disconnection from oneself where your love comes in, disconnecting from other people, disconnected from the Earth. These are the first steps by just thinking, why do I want to do this? Why am I drawn to this? Why do I think this is the right thing in this very moment for me? Yeah. And then the journey starts by, again, preparing by the journey day itself, as well as the integration afterwards.

Thanks for sharing that. One of your spirit mottos is time to grow. And I think there is so much that we could explore and the meaning of that, the time we need to take, but also what growth actually means. Let's start maybe where you always begin, which is in the soil, right? You say that healing and growing both begin beneath the surface. So what does that really mean to you?

Well, that brings me back to being a master gardener. And I think for me, this is my grounding. For me, this is where I release the energy to Mother Earth, but this is also where I get my energy from by feeding the soil that later feeds us. It all started by moving here to Santa Cruz where we have a little bit of space, land, and we started planting an orchard. We both never had trees to care about before. We never had any sort of— I don't think we ever had tomatoes before. But all of a sudden, I mean tomato plants, but all of a sudden now we have an orchard, we have an herb garden, we have the kitchen herbs. We experiment with all sorts of different growing, not just in the soil, but also hydroponic. How can we integrate like our ponds into the food chain by growing in the water? There are so many aspects. That come together and here in this space and in this place, it is a great honor for me to also offer my space to clients to experience what it really means to have soil in the hand again, soil under the fingernails again, and just having this experience again of planting plants, planting trees that will later be our nourishment.

So that brings me to a Mindstate moment that we probably could explore together. Next, let's take a moment to pause and reconnect. This is your Mindstate moment. A chance to reset and come back to yourself, wherever you are right now. These moments of presence are powerful. They remind us that the future starts from within, by shifting how we show up in this very moment. I want to guide you in this Mindstate moment, this short inner practice to invite in possibility. So if you're in a safe space, just gently close your eyes and take just a deep breath in. And imagine you're walking through a garden, maybe a garden that you just envisioned when Angela was talking about it. The path is soft beneath your feet. You feel the warmth of the sun on your skin. The air smells of maybe rosemary, lavender, or even maybe rain. You kneel down and scoop up a handful of soil. You bring it closer to your eyes and you hold it in your hands and you can feel the soil And ask yourself, what do you see? What life is hiding in this dirt? And as you look closer, you see maybe some ants, you see some bugs, just noticing that there is life in this soil. Different forms. And now I want you to open your other hand and just imagine that there's a small seed resting in your palm. You ask yourself, what do I want to plant? What feeling or habit or dream am I ready to grow? And place that seed into the soil in that garden that you stand. Cover it with some earth and just breathe in again. So what we plant with presence grows into our future. Thanks for pausing for a moment with that mind state moment. So let's talk a little bit more about that gardening and how you really see that helping you grow as an individual.

Yeah, for me, it's time to grow, which is kind of our motto. Time to grow is a double meaning saying, like, time to grow, grow, like growing the plants, growing the flowers, growing the trees, but also time for you personally to grow. I think it's really important for us to understand that there is a lifelong learning, not just about the plants that I barely had any idea about what to do, but it's also about being open to new ways of thinking, new ways of seeing yourself, like seeing yourself in your community. How can I grow my community? How can I grow within my community? How can I be of service? Like, not just to my community, but here comes it back. How can I be of service to the soil? How can I be like, How can I make good decisions today that will later feed not just the soil, but also— well, it also feeds the soul, but also becomes then our food and nourishment.

So let's talk about psychedelics again, as there's a huge growing interest, but also a lot of confusion. Maybe we can talk about some myths that are around psychedelics, and maybe you can unpack some of them as you're a certified microdosing facilitator. You are practicing with a lot of clients, but you also follow the research very closely. So one of the myths, I think, is that we can become addicted to psychedelics. Can you talk a little bit more about that?

Okay, maybe I break it down into answers. The first answer is a personal one. Working with psychedelics, I see it as a way of of cleansing. It's a way of resetting your status quo, resetting, you know, it's just like people did before Easter in the time of Lent when they do not eat some sort of things or do not drink some coffee or alcohol or whatever. So I personally, I see it as some sort of cleansing because of the power of it. It gives you time to integrate. And then you do not want to do it like on a Friday evening going out. This is not how it's supposed to be happening in an intentional setting. So again, for me, it is, I see it as something that you can do, say, once a year or Whenever you feel ready. Personally, I do not see it as something that you want to do, like, often, simply because it takes time to integrate and to understand. And so this is the first part of my answer. The second part of my answer is pointing to the research and pointing to the scientists and all those great people out there doing the work on the research side that we heavily rely on. And they say it's quite the opposite. So it actually helps getting off of addictions. So the psychedelics, the plant medicine that we are using does help getting off of some sort of addictions, again, in an intentional setting.

Very interesting that it's actually opposite, right? That it breaks addictions. And would you say that psychedelics are only for people with trauma, right, that suffer from trauma or have like some mental health condition?

People come from all sorts of different backgrounds and want to, you know, experience it for themselves. If they have that huge intention, they are already saying, okay, I know where this is going to take me. I know what is not going the way I wanted in life, then this is the sort of medicine that can help you break those patterns that you have, behavior patterns or patterns in your brain, like the brainwaves that usually just shoot the way they used to. And this plant medicine gives, in fact, your brain a chance to think out of the box, if you wanted it in basic words.

Great. And maybe the third myth is around, is it only to like see specific visions, right? Or colors or shapes?

No, no two journeys are the same. And what people say is, well, you don't do it for the visions. That's not the point. You do it because again, you want to understand yourself better. You want to close those chapters in life that might be still open. You want to access the unconscious that might be there still bothering you. You want to understand what's going on. Why do I behave in this situation? Why do I not behave the way I wanted? What is hindering me? What is holding me back from living the life I want?

As you know, I'm your biggest fan and admirer in not just the work you do, but the human being you are. And I benefit a lot of all the things that you do. So how would you say our kids are benefiting from, like, the gardening that you do, right? The Reiki, the energy work, and so forth.

Thanks for your kind words. Brings up a little bit of tears in my eyes. I don't know, do we have to cut this out later? Anyway, so how I think the kids will benefit from it, me doing the work, basically working on myself, being calmer. I think this is what most parents struggle with, just being more calm and being more present. And this work is only, just to be clear here, this is only for 21 and up. So the kids are not in the picture. They will benefit in a way, as I was saying, because it centers me. It centers me as a human being by being more appreciative, by being calm, appreciable-eclipse, being relaxed. I think there are a lot of benefits to it that I just have not found in any other sort of natural healing.

Yeah, I definitely can say the patience and the presence, right, are very powerful in ways we help our kids grow. And I see that in you every time you're facing a challenge, you know, you're things go sideways, right? Like just the patience and the presence you bring to these situations is just incredible. And I think our kids definitely benefit from that. And I think you're making a great point, right? Invest in yourself, right? Invest in your own growth, invest in your own healing, invest in time to really grow. I think that spirit motto really works here quite beautifully. Is there anything else that you want to share with our listeners? Anything that's on your mind, your heart? That you feel like the world needs to hear?

Thanks for this question. This is off script, but what I have right here under my computer is some words of encouragement. I'm just going to read it out to you, to those of you who need to hear it. So it starts, if you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.

Wow. That's powerful. Thank you for sharing that. And thank you for sharing all your wisdom, your experience with people. Thank you for trying to make yourself better and trying to make other people better in ways that is just driven by care and by support and by nourishment and by deep love, right? I think that's what I can feel every time we have a chance to be together. So thank you for this conversation. Thank you for your presence, for your way of reminding us that the future begins not in a calendar or somewhere, but in your soul. And to our listeners, what seed are you planting today? What part of you is asking to be nurtured? Because the future isn't something we wait for. It's something we grow. And we've learned that today, we can grow it in many different ways. So until next time, stay curious, stay kind, and keep shaping what's next. Thank you. That's a wrap for today's episode of The Future Is How. Remember. The future isn't something we wait for. It's something we create with every choice, every breath, and every step we take. If this episode sparked something in you, share it with someone who's ready to shape what's next. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. Your next chapter begins now. So what will you create today? I'll see you in your future.