Dr Frederik G. PferdtFrom Stanford & Google — To You

Why “going somewhere else” rarely fixes your life

21 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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Dr. Frederik G. Pferdt notices his coaching clients often want to move somewhere else, but that desire usually masks a need to change their inner state, not their location. Real transformation comes from how you relate to yourself, not where you are. The question: if you stayed put, how would you live differently?

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Over the past week alone, I had 12 future coaching conversations. Different people, different lives, different locations. And yet the same sentence kept showing up. Sometimes quietly, sometimes with this sigh, like, ugh. It said, I just want to go somewhere else. And honestly, I get it. I live close to the ocean. The light is just generous here. And nature makes breathing easier. What we're usually looking for isn't a new location. It's a different inner climate, a different way of being with ourselves. That's the real insight I want to share today. So here's a question for you. If you didn't change your location at all, how could you change the way you live where you are?