In this solo episode of the Overgivers Anonymous podcast, host Angela Mondor (the Geeky Girl) explores how entrepreneurs and solopreneurs can fall back in love with their businesses. She frames the relationship with a business as a romantic partnership, using a "date your business" metaphor to illustrate how to nurture, set boundaries, and provide self‑care for the venture. Angela discusses practical strategies such as establishing clear client‑booking windows, defining personal and business boundaries, outsourcing tasks that fall outside one’s strengths, and using metrics and goal‑tracking as a form of communication with the business itself. She emphasizes aligning business goals with personal passions and committing to a sustainable rhythm that fuels enthusiasm rather than burnout. Throughout, she offers actionable tips, reflective questions, and encouragement to experiment with new routines, ultimately urging listeners to treat their business with the same intentional love and care they would a romantic partner. The episode closes with calls to visit the show notes, join the Overgivers Anonymous Facebook group, and continue the journey of rediscovering business passion.
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Welcome to the Overgivers Anonymous podcast. My name is Angela Mondor, also known as the Geeky Girl. In this podcast, we're going to be talking about some amazing things to help you get over overgiving. Hi and welcome to this episode of the Overgivers Anonymous podcast. It's February, which means it's the month of love. We have Valentine's Day. I'm gonna take you a little bit of a tour of this one. Maybe we can talk about this in terms of our businesses. How can we fall in love with our businesses again? And I say again, because we started our businesses probably with one idea and then maybe it, you know, morphed into something else. Maybe you haven't morphed the business, but maybe you aren't still loving what you're up to. On the other hand, maybe you're still in a place or are in a place where you still love your business, and that's awesome. You can take some of these ideas to make it even better. But if you're looking to bring some love back into your everyday, we can dig into those things too. When we're thinking about love, the emotion, the idea, think about if you think about even early love, we are filled with this feeling inside us that is exciting. There's a lot of energy there. There's passion and we can't wait to see this person again. We look forward to being part of this person's day. And so I want you to think about that in terms of your business. Let's talk about kind of How can we bring this back to where we are at in our businesses? So recovering that passion or reigniting a spark in your business or even finding it. Sometimes we've started a business just because somebody else said we should do something because we're really good at it and we do it. We don't find that spark or that igniting of energy that we need in order to keep us going on the everyday. So when you're looking for that, exploring how you can reignite this passion is going to be different from everybody regardless of where you are in terms of your brain. everybody's brain is going to see this a little differently. Our experiences in life are going to bring this a little bit different to how you feel about the love that you've had in your life, whether it's love of family, love of, you know, person that is maybe not your family that you're in love with, relationships that you've had, those kinds of ideas. It can change the way you see the love inside your business. So we want to find enthusiasm and a renewed sense of purpose inside of business. There's lots of different ways that you can do this in terms of finding the way to that, to get to that fruition. When we're thinking about that love and that energy and reigniting it, some people say, oh, I, I am driven to do, or I'm passionate about, or I'm finding my why. Sometimes it works for people. It didn't work for me. Finding my why was not my answer, but it is something that's talked about a lot. So instead of thinking about how other people see this, think about how you transition. How do you get from where you are now and into this feeling of love and emotion that you want to bring, the excitement in your business. This is important because when you love your business, when you are on track and loving what you're doing inside your business, that's going to show outwardly. People are going to see, oh, this person is passionate about what they do. This person knows what they're up to. The more passionate you are, the more conviction that you have behind what you're up to. And people see that conviction and that love and that passion and they say, oh, I want to be part of that. That is something I want as part of what I'm doing in my life and business. Now, when we're talking about the business and your life and, you know, finding that joy, basically, it's important for you to think about some self-care things, not just self-care for yourself, but self-care inside the business as well. So our daily routine can sometimes be heavy. Sometimes it can lead you to being unhappy with what's going on. And a lot of that can be brought down to some of the things that we do in terms of how we handle our business. Now, boundaries is one of my favorite words. And anybody who's part of the Rockstar Mastermind or the Rockstar Success Circle, they know boundaries are something we talk about a lot. And it becomes one of their favorite words too. When we put boundaries around things, it actually helps to support us. And when we are supported, our business is supported as well. So when you're looking at the self-care, looking at what is it that you do well, what is it that you need? From your business. Maybe your routine sucks on a daily basis simply because you take client calls mamby-pamby all day long, and you would— it would be much better service to you if you only took them in the afternoon, or if you only took them during the day, or if you only took them on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I don't know what works for you. Figure these things out by looking and introspectively seeing, like, what is it that I need from my business, and what does the business need? Obviously, you need to make sure that you have enough appointments available for the people that you speak with if you're doing appointments live or in person or using video, whatever the case may be, you need to have enough openings in your calendar to support the kind of clients that you have. But dictating when you see those clients can be very, very valuable to your boundaries and the way that you succeed inside your business. So there's lots of different ways that we can look at these boundaries and supporting ourselves. And when you do provide yourself the self-care that you require, you will actually fall in love with your daily routine, which is part of, you know, falling in love with your business. So let's talk date night. When you take your business on a date, it's a little creepy, a little bit funny, whatever. But let's talk about date night. So you can enhance the strategy, your business strategy, by thinking about this from a date perspective. When you are in love with somebody or you are wanting to impress somebody, you think about the date from their perspective. What do they need? What is it that I can do? How can we work really well? What kinds of things can we do on the date. Like, you wouldn't want to take an introvert to like a packed concert hall maybe. But you might want to take them to a smaller venue but still with music. So, when you're looking at your business and you're thinking, how can I date my business? How can I find the things that work? What is it that my business requires? And how can I provide those needs? Can I provide those needs? Sometimes, we look at something that the business requires, whatever that may be, and say, that's not in my wheelhouse. That's not my circle of brilliance. Ah, but I can outsource those things. So when you're thinking about your business and the different pieces of your business that you have, in the beginning it's all you and there's nothing else you can do but you have to put the time and energy in. That's just part of growing that initial business. But once you start to see profit in the business and you start to think about the different ways that you can outsource, these are the things you want to outsource first. What are the things that you're not in love with and what are the things that can help you to grow your business in the way that you need to? This is how you enhance your business strategy by understanding what the business requires. What do you— what does your business need? And then what can you provide? You are not your business. Your business is not your baby. These are some really important lessons I learned. I'm going to pass them on to you. But when you are looking at the business, it isn't, do I suck or not? Can I, you know, am I good enough? That's not about it at all. It's what does the business require? And then can I provide it? If the answer is no and you can't outsource, then maybe you need to tweak what you're doing in the business, change the strategy. Okay, so innovate your date night with your business to change things up, move things around. You will be much happier and ultimately you will love your business more simply by making some changes in your strategy in your business. And of course, communication is important, not only communication with your business partners, maybe with your team, your clients. Marketing, of course, is, is important for our communication with people who aren't yet clients with us, but When we think about communicating with the business, I want you to just take a little segue with me. The business tells us things, not verbally obviously, not my business anyway, but the business tells you things such as, here's our profit, here's our profit margin, here's how much we made last year, here's how many clients we have. Those things. It can tell you the statistics of what's going on inside the business. But it can also tell you, If you set a goal and you provide yourself with a broken-down goal and you choose the action steps you're going to take, you can actually look and say, hey, did I take the action— actions? Yes or no? I mean, yes, I took the actions. Did I actually meet the goal? Yes or no? Right? You can look at it from a flowchart perspective. The business can tell you whether or not those actions actually got you to the goal you were looking for or not, which will allow you to make some decisions. And this is the communication with the business. How's the business doing? Is it successful? Is it breathing successfully, or is it hiccupping? And maybe it's not breathing some months and other months it's breathing a lot? What does that look like to you? Figuring out what's happening inside the business allows you to be able to see what's going on and make some adjustments. So of course, the other piece to a relationship is commitment. What's your commitment to your business? Making sure that you can align your business goals with your passions. Now, your passions can be personal or business-related. Maybe your passion is to make sure that you can see a million— you want a million people to hear your story or something. Well, how can you make that happen? What are the steps you need to make that Or maybe it's more of a philanthropic thing that you're thinking about. Maybe you want to help the homeless. How can you invest maybe some of your profits into a local charity? Or maybe you need to invest some of the time. Maybe you typically work Monday to Friday, 10 to 4, but on maybe Friday afternoons from 2 to 4, instead of working in the business, you're working in a homeless shelter. These are all different ways that you want to communicate and figure out what is that commitment check and does it match with my Passions? Is it going to support me? When our business supports us, when we support the business, it's a fantastic relationship. And sometimes we feel out of sync. It's not okay. It's, it's not every day you're going to wake up and go, woohoo, I'm going to work today. There's other things in our lives that slow us down that maybe make us think, maybe not. I'd rather do other things. Maybe you'd like to curl up on the couch with a really good book, or maybe you would rather go and hang out with your friends, or maybe you want to take your husband or your spouse out on a date. Who knows? There's lots of different things that can come up that can make you think, I don't want to work today. However, if you can overall look at the whole business and say, yes, I'm moving in the right direction. Yes, this business fuels me. I feel great when I'm speaking to my clients and I love providing the services I do. That's what I'm looking for when I'm talking about falling in love with your business again. I hope you have a fantastic week. I hope you find ways to fall in love with your business so that next week, of course, that's when Valentine's Day is, that you will be in love with your business by then. I hope you have a fantastic day. Talk to you next time. Thank you so much for listening to the Overgivers Anonymous podcast. Your support means the world to me. 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