Angela MondorClickUp Verified Consultant, ClickUp · Operations consultant & ClickUp Verified Consultant for neurodivergent entrepreneurs

Stop Raising People-Pleasers: Teach Internal Pride Instead #Shorts

2 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief YouTube short, the speakers discuss the importance of helping children develop internal pride rather than seeking external approval. They emphasize the need to rewrite personal narratives, encouraging kids to ask themselves what story they want to tell about themselves. One speaker shares a practical approach: placing emotion posters throughout the home to regularly check in on feelings, and consistently asking the child if they feel proud of their actions. The goal is to teach children to recognize and value their own sense of pride, independent of parental validation, so they can sustain self‑esteem even when parents are not present.

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personal stories because you take them internally as a child, right? Yep, exactly. But what you're talking about is rebuilding your own story, choosing to believe different things about yourself. And I think that the one thing that I think is— I often will talk about, even my kids or like people around me, it's like, yeah, what story are you telling yourself? Oh gosh. And what story would you rather tell about yourself? And if that doesn't work, I say Would you like it if you were talking— if somebody talked about your friend like that?
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Exactly. Yeah, one of the things I'm really proud of with my son is that we anchor around feelings, right? So we have emotion posters on multiple levels of the house. We're constantly, how are we feeling? And when he does things— and gosh, we have him busy swimming, this, that, right? All the things. I always ask him, like, how did you feel about this? And are you proud of yourself, right? Because I want him to understand it doesn't matter if mommy and daddy are proud of you. Because A, we won't always be here. I need him to learn the language and the feelings and the experience of, Ari, what does it mean to be proud of yourself? I don't know what that is. I'm starting that now.