How to Think FAST and get to the POINT without OVERTHINKING [LIMITED TIME]
22 Sept 2026 · 49 min
Hadar Shemesh, a communication coach for non-native English speakers, breaks down why people overthink when speaking on the spot: too many mental tasks happening at once. Her three-step fix: get to your point first ("my point is"), say your honest first thought even if it's vague, then deepen it with questions like why or where. The real blocker isn't grammar—it's the inner critic that sabotages confidence.
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Hey everyone, thank you so much for joining me. What you're about to watch today is an edited version of a live training I recently taught called Get to the Point. We did it live and we had over 1,000 people join us on Zoom, which made me realize that this is actually and clearly something that a lot of people struggle with: knowing what you want to say, organizing your thoughts quickly, and actually getting to the point when you speak. So this is why I wanted to share some of the most important parts of that training with you right here. And as you watch, I'm going to teach you a few practical strategies for finding what you actually want to say, especially when you're put on the spot or when you feel stressed. And you'll also get a taste of the bigger framework I use around finding your thoughts, saying it clearly, and trusting yourself enough to actually say it. I'm not going to share the entire training here, but stay until the end because this is when I'll tell you how you can go deeper, get access to more of the training, and most importantly, how you get to practice all of this with me. Okay, let's get into it. Whenever you hear this question, a lot of things are happening, right? You need to think, you need to form an opinion, you need to read the other person, to organize it in your head, to say it, to respond properly. And as a non-native speaker, there is another layer 'Cause it's not just that. All of a sudden you need to also share or start thinking about the words and was that correct? Which tense should I use? Is my grammar okay? Is my pronunciation okay? Am I being understood? Did I even understand the other person and their question? Am I making sense? Am I right? Does that resonate with you? Yes, yes, yes. A lot of yeses here. And in our head, like, or in our vision, this is how we want to answer. We want it to come out clear, concise, straight to the point. But in actuality, because you have all these things happening, both in terms of forming an opinion and sharing it, but also the English element that goes into it, all of a sudden we go in all those different directions because we got stuck of thinking of the word and that reminded us of something. So we went on a tangent and started talking about something that wasn't even relevant to your main point. Now, whenever my students experience this, they say, oof, I need to work on my English more. So they learn more words and they practice more and they work on their pronunciation and they fix their grammar or work on their grammar. But the thing is that this is not the exact skill that you might want to work on because maybe it's not your English. Maybe the problem starts before you even speak. And while you speak, but it's not about the grammar, it's not about the vocabulary. Now, there are a lot of new people here that don't know me, so I just want to quickly tell you why I care about this so much. So my name is Hadar. This is me and my family, and this is me as an actress when I was in my 20s, because English is not my first language. I speak English as a second language, and when I was 20, I moved to New York to study acting. So this was the main passion that I had in my— between my 20s and my 30s, I was an actress. And as an actress, I was like really working on getting other people's words into my mouth, right? I was like really focusing on getting into character and knowing how to, you know, how to communicate other people's thoughts. And then after a few years, I had to move back home and I started teaching. Honestly, I did a whole bunch of things between being an actress and being a teacher, but on that journey, I had to discover my voice, and I was like, crap, I don't even trust what I'm saying. I don't like what I say. I don't like how I sound. I feel boring. I feel sometimes stupid. I had— and I started teaching because I started teaching pronunciation, and I had these like actors and public speakers coming to me, and they would talk to me about all their beautiful and amazing projects, and I was like, why are they even talking to me. I'm like, I would just respond, but I was just surprised why they would be interested in talking to me because I was in my head like, I have nothing interesting to say. But as a teacher, I wanted to reach more people, so I started creating content and I built my platform on YouTube. And as I was doing it, you know, like it's just you and the camera, so there's like one— if there is one thing you need to get better at is explaining things. And I've made hundreds and hundreds of videos, so I had a lot of opportunities to practice speaking and talking. And as I was doing that, and I was doing that for many, many years, and I was teaching, I started learning, first of all, that I'm not a boring person, that I have an opinion. I started trusting my voice. I saw the impact that I had, but also I learned how to freaking speak to the point and even develop more complex ideas without being so afraid. Which helped me not just stay a pronunciation teacher, but what I do now, which is a communication coach. And I've had almost 20 years of working with non-native speakers, and this is the one thing that I see the most. So recently I developed this framework, this formula that I want to share with you on how to speak to the point. Um, and it goes like this: find it, What do I think? Say it. How do I say it clearly and trust it? Which is, can I let myself say it? Now, this specific lesson that I'm teaching you today is part of a larger training that I'm working on that I'm going to host at the beginning of October. So I'll tell you more about it at the end, but this is just one element of something a little bigger which is my Speaking Power Method, developing it. So I'll tell you more about it later, but for now we are going to focus mostly on the first 2, which is find it and say it. Okay, and we'll talk a little bit about trust it. What is find it? Are you good? Do you feel like you're in the right place? This is the training for you today. Yeah. All right. By the way, if you have any like distractions, just stay focused because we're gonna have to practice the things that I teach you, and I need you to be focused for that. And I'm going really quickly, so I'm gonna need you to— I mean, you can do whatever you want, but if you want to get the value, then, um, try to stay with me. Okay, so find it is what happens in your brain, right? What do I actually think? Because like I said at the beginning, it's easy to talk about speak to the point, and here's a formula, and here's how to pronounce it correctly, and here's the prosody and the sentence stress, but what if we don't have anything to say or we don't think that we have anything to say? So whenever you get a topic that you'd like to share your opinion on, let's say you're in a, in a gathering and someone talks about something and you're like, I really want to pitch in, but I don't know what to say. Or you're in a meeting at work and someone asks for your opinion, or you need to talk about something. In front of other people and you are on the spot, because it's easy when you need— you have time to prepare, right? The most important thing is what do— like, and, and as non-native speakers, I'm saying that it seems obvious, but I know, I know that this is what gets you guys. What do I want to say has to come before how do I say it, right? The how, the sentence structure how you're gonna organize it, which tense you're going to use, which words you're— that does not matter because that takes up space. So you need to think, what do I want to say before how do I say it? Technique number 1: get to the conclusion, right? So this is the technique when you are very connected to the topic and you have an immediate opinion that you know you can somewhat recognize what it is. Okay, so this technique, it's kind of like that's the, that's the foundation, that's the default. It is instead of starting to answer or anything like that, you just go, my point is, right? So you say that phrase in your head because your brain is like a little monkey that will go in all different directions and will run away and move around, and you need to Keep it like that, right? So sometimes we need guidance, and those formulas that I'm going to teach you and the sentences that I'm going to share with you are exactly the things that are going to help your brain focused. Okay, so my point is, you start with my point is. Say it with me now: my point is. And now you think it: my point is. Right? Your brain would want to follow it. You're not going to stay high and dry. So a lot of times when you hear something, you train your brain to say, my point is, just in your— you're just thinking right now what's actually happening. Like I said, all these things are going to come up: sentence structure, grammar, pronunciation, vocabulary. But all this thinking takes up time and space, and it deters you from your actual point. It confuses you. So your brain is going to be like, wait, but no, My point is, but what about my point is? Because it doesn't matter. Like you're not gonna be, you're not gonna solve all your grammar issues right now, right? It's not gonna happen. You're just gonna overwhelm yourself and confuse yourself, and you're gonna end up making a lot more mistakes because you're not thinking about the point and you're not thinking about grammar. You're neither here nor there. So my point is, my point is, my point is, for example. Good. Do you think working from home— and I want you to think quickly and answer it in the chat— do you think working from home is better than working in an office? My point is— what's your point? Say it to yourself out loud or just think it, right? My point is— my point is— write it in the chat. Do you think working from home is better than working in an office? Give me more than yes or no. Okay, my point is Yes. Okay, good. First of all, it's good that you have a clear yes or no, right? But that's not enough for an opinion. My point is, yes, it is, because— right? So this is what— because— yes, because— right? If, if the first thing that comes up is yes or no— yes, because— no, because— this is when technique number 1 is when you have a clear opinion About working from home or from whatever question you get asked. Technique number 2 is when there's no clarity. Okay, you're like, wait, I, I got caught off guard with that question. I'm not sure. And this is probably going to be the most valuable technique that I have to share with you. Do not look for the perfect answer. Catch the first thing that comes to mind. Okay, can you relate to I have something to say? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, it's not good. Wait, there is a better answer. Wait, there is a more sophisticated answer. Wait, maybe someone already said it. Wait, maybe it's not going to sound interesting. Wait, maybe this is not exactly what I think. No, it sounds too simple, right? So we have a thought. There's usually like an immediate thought And then we start doubting it, second-guessing, challenging, which is good. Like, listen, like, if you want to form a good opinion about something, it's okay to brainstorm with yourself, but it's great when you have time, right? When you don't have time and you start brainstorming and someone's waiting for you, you know what happens? It just creates stress. So many people just said stress as something that You know, like this is the first thing that you feel, right? So instead of stress, focus on the question. Be like, what is the first question first? When you're searching for a better answer or the perfect answer when you are on the spot— this is the main point— you are going into a loop that prevents you from clarity of thought. And you really need clarity of thought, okay? You need your brain to be focused on the here and now. You can't think of what happened yesterday, you can't think of your grammar, and you can start selecting opinions or ideas or, or trying to excavate the perfect idea when you don't have time. So remember that maybe you don't have an opinion, right? But you might have— and all of these things are valid that we want to catch— you might have an instinct. Oh, this doesn't feel right. Like, I, I want to say, I want to say that we need to try it next week. Instead, right? Like an instinct, trust it. A memory, ooh, like that, that is reminding me of something. An experience that you've had. A physical, emotional reaction to the question. Maybe it raises a question for you. Wait, but I have a follow-up. But what do you mean work from home? Is this the only option? Or maybe you have a tiny opinion. Right, not a big opinion, but a tiny opinion. And that is what you want to catch first, okay? You want to catch whatever it is, okay? The instinct, the reaction, the question, and work from that. And again, it's something that needs to be trained. We're going to practice it today here, but this is something that you need to build through practice and and repetition. Strategy is not enough. Now, I'll tell you how to practice it at the end, okay? But this is a skill that we're building. So for example, I'm going to give you an example. You can already do it with me. What do you think about AI being used in schools? Okay, do you have a clear opinion? Do you have a tiny opinion? Do you have a reaction? Do you feel like a vague— wait, I don't know how to respond to it yet. And then we want to think about all of those things. Does it remind you of something? Is it an experience, an instinct? So maybe you're doing something like, hmm, what do I think about AI being used in schools? Maybe my reaction is it makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't know why. It just like, I feel uncomfortable and there is more to it than just gaining the skill. Like, I think it's good, but I don't feel comfortable. And then maybe From that place, I can go ahead and start my response. I'm not sure. While there are advantages, I actually think it can sometimes have the opposite effect. Now remember that as you start outlining your thought, usually what happens is that your brain learns how to continue it. One of the biggest I think barriers for people that, that, you know, like this is why they don't start speaking is because they feel like they want to have it all figured out in their brain, right? Do you feel that sometimes where you're like, I'm not going to speak until I know exactly the beginning, middle, and end of what I want to say? Who here feels that? Always. Exactly. Yeah. Right. It's such a lie. It's— I never start talking knowing exactly what I want to say. I have an idea that is not fully realized, and I start and I say it. And again, I have a lot of experience speaking, and I'm telling you as someone who could not speak for her life, I would only respond in, in a very short— in very short sentences. Okay, and I didn't want to speak up. So I, I've been there. Don't— like, it's— I wasn't born with the ability to speak comfortably. So I know that this is the result of training and practice. So I'm telling you that this idea, this concept, this mindset of let me figure it out before is a lie. So the moment you have an instinct, you can get started and start the response. And now I want to teach you technique number 3, which will help you go a little deeper as you're speaking, right? So you started, you collected that first thought, you put it into words. It's, it's there already, right? You can't back out. I mean, of course you can, right? But let's say you're starting it, then you want to dig. And this is— I, I, when I was developing it, I took it from acting techniques. And in acting techniques, when you, when you think about a character and when they, when you work on a scene, you have to always ask questions like, what does this person want? Where are they coming from? Why do they do what they do? So I took that idea and I brought it into thinking, because the moment you have a mini thought, a mini opinion, a reaction, you can start going a little deeper. with a 5W questions, the 5 W's: what, why, who, where, when. Again, it's a skill that you want to practice. For example, why? I'm going to open the door of why. Going back to the question, what do you think about AI being used in schools? I have a reaction. I don't know, it feels there's something there. Then I want to ask myself, why? Why do I have this reaction? Well, I have this reaction because that they might stop thinking for themselves if they only use AI, right? It's not my full answer. I have more things to say. When I say it, I'm already forming an opinion. And now I can say, okay, but I can also agree that maybe if they teach— it's an— it's a, it's a useful skill, but it needs to be taught with, you know, being mindful about Helping them develop their own thinking. So what, what concerns me about this? Why, why do I react this way? Who, who have I seen being affected by it? Maybe I'm thinking about my, my niece. I was like, oh, they started with AI in schools and all of that came up, right? Like, and then maybe there is an idea there that I want to grab onto. And all of this can happen quickly. It's like a split of a second. Where, where have I seen this? Where have I heard about it? When, when did it happen? When is it relevant for? So these questions, they might trigger something, they might not trigger something, right? But usually this is how our brain works. It works faster than we think. We just need questions, and the brain really likes to answer questions. So if one topic did not trigger you to think, then you need to catch up, right? Or to fill in the gaps for forming an idea. Okay? Good. Now what happens, right? These are 3 techniques where we're kind of like pulling ideas, pulling thoughts out of your brain. What happens if there is nothing? Go to the next best thing. I call it the association game. What does it remind me of? Right? Like, do you remember like when I was a kid in school, there was The teacher would put a word on the whiteboard, chalkboard back in the day. I'm an '80s girl. And you would have to say all those words that this word reminds you of. So you want to do that. Like, what is the next thing that it reminds you of? For example, do you think cities should have fewer cars? Let's say you don't drive a car, you don't live in a city, you don't care, you don't know, you have no opinions whatsoever, right? Nothing. Or you draw a blank. You got scared. You got stressed out. Your brain is empty. The next thing is like, what does this remind me of? Like a memory of something unrelated. Okay. How loud, like how noisy cars can get, right? That's what I'm thinking. Unrelated. This is not relevant. Maybe it is, right? Maybe it is. This is why I'm saying don't dis— because once you start having this conversation in your brain, it's not good. Yes, it is. Let's do this. Let's— okay. This reminds me when my kids were younger and I was always worried about them crossing busy streets, right? Because I was worried about the traffic and I was worried about, you know, having a lot of cars. So maybe having a lot of cars can be more dangerous for kids. It changes our childhood, right? Because you start with something and your brain loves to finish it, but if you don't start, you will never know where to go. Again, a skill that you can develop. What did you think of the movie? Maybe you don't have an idea, you don't have an opinion, um, but maybe it reminded you of something. The story actually reminded me of a friend who moved to another country and had to start over, right? Maybe you're not answering to the point, but you are responding. You're not stuck. You're not, oh, I don't know. Oh yeah, it was great. Let's let's cut the thumbs up. It was great. All good, right? Like we want to be able to go beyond. Okay, and once you have a direction, that starts a conversation, and more importantly, that leads your brain into thinking about other things. Now let's put it to practice, right? Remember that we are still at the point where we are just. Collecting ideas, thinking ideas, triggering the thought. Okay, I'm going to pose a question. I'm going to give you 20 seconds, and within those 20 seconds, you need to use one of these 3 frameworks. My point is, right? You start with, my point is. Let's say that doesn't work. What's my first honest thought that is not a point? And then after that, or in addition to that, What? Why? Who? When? Where? See if one of those questions trigger an answer. Get ready. Question is, do you think social media makes our lives better or worse? My point is, my first honest thought is— think about it. Then we gotta say it, right? So now we're writing it. There is time to write it, or you're You don't have to communicate it, but let's say you need to communicate it. And let's say we're aiming for more than one simple word or sentence to respond with, right? Like here we're talking about not yes, no, not like something a bit more elaborate. Maybe, maybe you have to give an impromptu speech about a specific topic and you want to get better at it. Maybe you need to present something at work or so. For this, I have 3 frameworks that I use: the opinion framework, the balance framework, and the solution framework. Okay, I'm going to interrupt myself here for just a second. At this point in the training, I moved from find it, which is what you just learned, into say it. Once you know what you think or what you wanna say, how do you actually organize it into one thought and communicate it clearly with a clear beginning, middle, and end without circling around and just getting to the point? I teach 3 different frameworks for doing that, and in the live training, I went into one of them in detail, but I'm actually going to skip that part because this is something that we're going to do in a much deeper way and actually practice it a lot inside the Show Up and Speak Up Challenge that starts October 1st, and I'll tell you more about that at the end. But if you're really curious and you cannot wait, there is a link waiting for you in the description. But there is one more part of the training that I really want you to not miss, and that's the part we're going to watch now. Because finding your thought and knowing how to organize it is one thing. Trusting yourself enough to actually say it is something completely different. So I wanna skip ahead a little bit to the trusted part of the training where I talk about something that I call the speaking police, and I think you're going to relate. Let's watch. The speaking police. The voice of the speaking police. You can call it the bully, the editor, the censor, the inner critic, the speaking police. The speaking police is that voice, or the speaking police are, right, like the speaking— the police itself in your head saying, is it correct? That sounds stupid. Right? Like, that's not right. You are not smart, right? Like all those things that you might hear, right? Why are you saying this? And the thing I want to say about this is that this is one of the struggles that not only as non-native speakers but as human beings, one of the struggles that we need to constantly manage. And the good and bad news is that you can't just learn more English to lose that voice. The good part about it is that you can change it with the way you think. The bad part is that you can change it with the way you think, and our thoughts are habitual, and it's hard, and there is resistance, and you need to work at it, and you need to acknowledge it, right? And not just say, well, no, well, if I, if I pass the C2 exam, then it's gonna be fine, or the B1 or whatever exam it is that you are saying to yourself that you need to pass. If I get that job, then it's gonna be fine, because the speaking police are gonna be there in your head no matter what unless you learn how to quiet, quiet it down and to manage it, right? And when it comes to speaking English as a second language, so the speaking police are very loud because of your grammar, vocabulary, clarity, pronunciation, comprehension, all of those things. But also, as human beings— and this is not just about, um, how it is in our first language, in our second language, it could also be in our first language— sometimes you're not just looking to share an opinion, you're looking to share a Safe opinion, right? Especially when the stakes are high, especially when you feel stressed or evaluated, especially when the question is charged. Practice changes everything because when you practice, you suck and you fail, and then you do it again, and then you suck a little less, and then You might slightly succeed, and then you do it again, and then you should, and then once you do it and it's okay, right? It's not horrible, and then you're like, okay, maybe, maybe I can do it. Maybe it doesn't have to be awful. Maybe I'm capable of saying something and getting to the point. Maybe I'm capable of getting stuck and starting over, and it's not the end of the world. Maybe, and the act of doing, you're normalizing speaking, you're normalizing making mistakes. You're nor— and you're training your brain to think fast and to speak clearly. To think fast and to speak clearly. Now, how would you like to practice it a lot more? To take that one thing that you've learned and to practice it, right? Do you feel like you need to practice it more? Or do you feel like you, you're good and that you'll be able to do it? So the first thing that I want to recommend for you to do to practice is just do it. You can do it on your own. You can generate a list of things, of questions, of topics, and every single day you can either record a video or record an audio and speak for yourself. But here's the thing that I know for sure: when we're doing it on our own and when we're doing it in front of other people, these are totally 2 different experiences. And because of that, when I was thinking of, okay, how I'm going to help my students and my followers to really, really, to take that part in their English and their communication skills and really, and really change it. So I figured that you just need a, like a very intensive container to put this exact thing and more into practice. So I told you at the beginning what I have coming up, which is a speaking challenge, and it's like a speaking power challenge that the element that I taught you today is just a small— not a small part, a significant part, but is the core of the entire challenge that is going to be about speaking to the point, developing an opinion, sharing it in front of people, and managing the speaking police. It's going to be a 7-day speaking power challenge And honestly, I cannot tell you how excited I am about this. And I want to invite you today to join me because it starts on October 1st. And, um, and this is exactly how you're going to get the opportunity to put it into practice and to get the container. Because I know, I know people, and once we kind of like leave the Zoom room, we're like, okay, nice to have, and then we forget about it. And then life happens, and then we're like, "Oh, what about that training that Hadar did?" No. So I want us to put it into practice, and I want to invite you to do it in this challenge. It's not seven days of learning how to speak up; it's seven days of actually speaking up. Practice, practice, practice. It's going to be seven days. Within that, we're going to have five trainings, five live trainings, just like this one. The first one is how to shut. The speaking police up. Shut up, speaking police. How to know what you want to say and say it. So I'm going to talk about the things that I talked about today but elaborate more. I'm going to teach you all the frameworks and go even deeper. Um, I'm going to help you understand how to bring more of yourself— your humor, your charm, your charisma, your personality, and your voice— to English because when you speak, you don't want to sound robotic. You want to sound engaging. You want to sound persuasive. So that is an important element. It includes working on your voice. It includes understanding tone of voice and practicing compassion, all of that. And then a training that is really like the summary of the work that I've done in 20 years, which is How to Close the Gaps. I've never taught it the way I'm teaching it in this training. And it's going to be the 4th training, and after that, how to go beyond the English that you already know without necessarily learning. So how to expand within English. So the idea is for you to speak more in one week than you have in months, even if you live in English and work in English, because it's going to challenge you to speak about English in a whole bunch of different ways, a whole bunch of different topics. The idea is that we're going to have the live trainings, speaking missions, practice groups, video challenges, speaking marathons, and repeat. The most important thing is the commitment for that one week at the beginning of October. You'll have daily live trainings with me, practice groups, daily sprints. There's going to be a speaking marathon throughout the entire weekend, video challenges. You're going to get access to Hadar AI, which is trained on all of my content. You can get coached on your confidence and practice speaking. You're gonna be a part of an inspiring community, and you're gonna get a workbook. So everything that I taught you today and so much more is going to be listed there for you to keep and to keep coming back to it. So the value is over $600, but the challenge itself is only $17 for the entire week and everything that I shared. Okay, so it's an easy ask. I don't want to make, make it complicated. But the big commitment is showing up. This is why the challenge is called Show Up and Speak Up. Okay, quick interruption again. The Show Up and Speak Up Challenge that you just heard me talk about is happening on October 1st, and registration is open right now. You can also still get the early bird price. So if you've been watching this thinking, yes, this is exactly what I need to learn and to practice, don't just leave this as another video that you just watched and learned something from. But then you forget all about it the next day. Come practice it with us. We're going to go so much deeper into everything that you just started learning here, but more importantly, you're going to speak a lot because learning it is one thing and implementing it is a totally different thing. This is what builds the skill. You'll practice thinking on your feet, getting to the point, managing your speaking police, and showing up more fully in English. So you can click the link below to read everything about the challenge, and I hope you decide to join us. Okay, let's get back to the training and get into some of the Q&A. Thank you so much for being here, and I hope to see you inside of the Speaking Challenge. We have 5 live trainings with me just like that on Zoom, practice groups with coaches throughout the entire weekend. We have 14 different conversation groups at different time zones. And the conversation groups are high level, right? You get a topic, you speak, it changes. There are like a lot of different types of practice that, um, that you're going to encounter there. So it's not like any live session, uh, live event that we've done in the past. You also get daily sprints, which is a 10-minute drill that you get to practice pronunciation, grammar, and vocabulary with me. So you get that, you get access to Hadar AI, which is It's not like this chat. It's really like you can have a phone call and a conversation, actually speak with an AI agent that sounds like me, trained on all of my content. So you can get mindset and confidence coaching and just like brainstorm ideas on how to help you specifically. So it's way beyond just speaking to the point. So there are 3 sessions a day. Isabella, yes, there's like live training 2 practice groups. Um, so it's around 3 sessions a day. You do not need to join all of them. We have a lot of sessions, a lot of sessions just to allow you to have access to whatever is possible for you in terms of your, um, your time zone and your schedule. Okay, so, and the live trainings are going to be recorded. Now, of course, it's going to be great If you join me, um, if you're able to join me, it's going to be great if you can join me live. But if you can't, that is fine too because everything is going to be recorded. And then on the weekend, we have 7 sessions a day. Okay, 7 sessions a day, 7 different conversation groups on Saturday, 7 different conversation groups on Sunday. How much time per day do I need for the challenge? So it really depends on you. It depends on your Schedule. If you can devote one hour a day, that's amazing. If you can't, every single day you can just do a daily sprint. On the weekend, the more you join conversation groups, you do it. Here's the the good thing about it: it's just one week, right? It's just one week, and it's going to be a reset for your English. I call it like the electrical. Reset that your English needs. So if you feel stuck, if you feel like you, you've been on a plat— stuck on a plateau, you don't know how to get motivation, you feel like you've been, you know, like you, you, you feel like a limited version of yourself, like you are not able to use your thoughts and to express yourself and only a fraction of who you are comes out, This is one week that you can say, I'm going to clear out some of my schedule, I'm going to commit to 1 hour a day, or, you know, 5 hours throughout the entire challenge, and make sure that I'm implementing it, right? Like, that is what we're looking for. That is the thing that could actually make a difference. And because we're limiting it to one week, we're making it possible. And one week can make a huge impact on your English and your, and your confidence and your ability to say to yourself, I can be consistent, I can do this, right? It's possible for me. It's not the end of the world if I make a mistake. And that is the purpose of this training. More questions. What time are the meetings in the challenge? So My trainings are at 3 PM, and team, correct me if I get it wrong because I'm very good at the big picture, not so good at the small details. 3 PM Barcelona time, European time zone, and that means 9 AM EST, New York time. So you can do that calculation. Everything— you have a link to sign up. Svetlana, I'm glad that you joined us. Who joined? Let me know. Put me in the comments. I just want to see how many people of you joined. Yay! That is great, Charles. Welcome, Crystal, Camilla, Anna, Sheila, Monique. Good, Rosa. Good, good, good, good, good, Sissy. Amazing, Fernando. Look at you, you guys. You're not playing. You're doing the work. Good. I'm like, I just want you to feel that it's possible. Really, I want you to feel, I want you to make that commitment, right? It's a small financial commitment, it's a time investment, but most importantly, or most significantly, it's an emotional investment because you're gonna put yourself out there and you're gonna get uncomfortable and you're going to talk about things that you've never talked about before. And you are going to listen to people that you may not fully understand at the beginning, and you're going to train yourself to listen and to respond, right? Like, that is the skill of communication, and that is a skill that you probably don't get a lot of opportunities to do. If you are a person who has not a lot of access to English, you need this challenge. If you are a person who lives in an English-speaking country, but you do the bare minimum. What does that mean? It means that when people ask you questions, you respond. When there is someone else around you, they do the talking, not you. When someone asks for an opinion in the room, you are the last one to raise your hand. That's the bare minimum. You are telling the short version of the story instead of the long version. You are not saying that joke that is kind of like Circling in your head because you don't know how to say it or how it's going to be perceived, and maybe it's not culturally appropriate, and maybe it's just not going to come out right and cringe. If that is you, right, this challenge is for you. You need to go beyond. You need to get uncomfortable. You need to put yourself in a place where you build consistency and confidence. Share the link again. Yes, we can share the link again. And if you join while on the call, you get the best of everything. So like, if you're hesitating, honestly, just do it. Is our English not really good? Can we still join Super? Listen, I don't know what not really good is. It's a very, very subjective experience. If you can hold a conversation, if you can share an opinion, but you're making mistakes or you get stuck or sometimes you don't understand, yes, it's absolutely for you. You need to be able to speak English, right? So it's not— if you need to translate everything, use Google Translate, then, then it's going to make it difficult for you. If you have a very hard time understanding my videos or speaking, you know, like sharing an opinion, then it might be challenging for you because the idea is to be in a group where you speak. But just make— be mindful that we welcome mistakes. No one needs to be perfect. You don't need to have perfect grammar, perfect vocabulary. You can get stuck. We welcome this experience because you need to feel comfortable speaking and making mistakes. So you want to make sure that everyone feels comfortable. This is a safe and supportive environment, and that is like the, the one foundation of, of our community and of our company. Okay, let me see if we have any more questions. Temitope is asking, I joined the class a little late, so I just wanted to clarify something. I'm a native English speaker, so my challenge isn't really grammar, pronunciation, or understanding the language. What I struggle with more is articulation, especially organizing my thoughts quickly when I'm speaking, expressing myself clearly and concisely, and sometimes finding the right words in the moment. I also tend to over-explain or repeat myself when I'm trying to make a point. And even I know Even when I know what I want to say. This is exactly what I was talking about at the beginning. So it's like it's something that can happen in our first language, second language. And I said that when you speak in a second language, there is the additional layer of, in addition to everything that you're experiencing, 'cause a lot of people experience that in their first language as well. In addition to that, there is also the layer of, well, what about the English? And do I have the right infrastructure for that? Which needs to be addressed as well. But I said that that is not the work, because in like working on the language is not the work that we need to do. We need to really make sure that we learn how to identify the thoughts, clarify it, and say it. So if you are thinking with those kinds of goals, absolutely, because at the end of the day it is speaking to the point. So if this is because the training is I will be talking about the experience of the non-native speaker a lot, so it's up to you if you want to be a part of this and to, to understand, because all of these things, they could be, you know, reflected in other areas, like not feeling good enough and not feeling like my opinions are strong enough and not feeling like I have, you know, something to say. So whether we think that because English is our second language or whether it's just something that We were conditioned to think, right, as, as women, as people in the world, right? Like all the messages that we get. At the end of the day, this is something that we experience. So however we translate the intrusive thoughts or that thinking, this is something that can be managed. So all of the tools are tools that are going to be relevant when we talk about mindset, when we talk about thinking quickly, forming an opinion, formulating it without having to use AI for everything or taking the time to think about it and making— getting to the point. So all the trainings, maybe the— all the trainings are going to be relevant because it's the skill of thinking and speaking to the point. Let me take you on a quick tour. If you have more questions, great. And in the meantime, let me take you on a quick tour into— okay. This is the— when you join, you get access to my app, the Influency Academy, and this is how it's going to look like. So you have all these 3 spaces as soon as you unlock it, so you'll get access to it right now. And you have the Start Here section where you'll learn how the challenge works and what every day you will get— the live access to the live training, daily sprint, and a speaking mission. So you have a specific mission that you need to complete that is related to the training and develops the skill. So even if you don't join any of the live sessions, this is going to help you implement what you learn. And, um, what else did I want to say? And we encourage people to post videos, to make videos and post videos on their feed. Then community feed, right? Okay. Hey, Elena already joined and already posted. So I'm inviting people to introduce themselves. So welcome, Elena. And all the live events are here, so you can click on it. You can see that you already have access. This is on Monday. On Monday, we're starting with a meet and speak, right? Just like introductions where you get, um, you get to sit and, and join a conversation group and connect with people and practice. I want to end by saying this. This is not just a communication training. This is a training that is designed to remind you how important your voice is. And I know it sounds like a, like, you know, it's a cliché, and your voice is so important. And speaking up is already hard for people in any language. Especially people who have received messages that they should keep quiet and they're not important or it's not good enough. And that feeling of never being good enough, especially in situations where we feel stressed or evaluated or under pressure, this is where we shut down, we dial down, we make ourselves a lot smaller, and we show up like a shadow of who we are rather than who we really are and how we would want to visualize ourselves when we think about our full selves. In working on speaking up and working on saying your opinion, sharing your opinion even if you don't get asked, disagreeing even though it's a little scary, right? Telling the full story, being expressive, being quirky and funny and cringe the way you are in your first language, in any language, in any situation. The way you are in front of the mirror, the way you are with your best friend. Like, we want to be able to bring that part in us to any room that we are in. And this is something that need— like, it doesn't happen just through as time passes, right? You don't get older and become more confident. You build confidence. You don't wait for, for something to happen, for your English to get better, to build confidence. Okay, confidence is built through action, through taking small steps, through being consistent, through telling your brain, yeah, I hear what you're saying, but I'm not listening. I'm doing it anyway, right? And this is why everything that I do— my YouTube videos, my content, my, my programs, this challenge, this training— is about reminding you that it's possible and getting you to take action, because Passive learning is not going to make any change for you unless you decide to take action on your own, with me, with the community, it doesn't matter. But taking action, advocating for your voice, fighting for your voice, even if it's not the ideal version of your voice, even if it sucks a little bit, even if it's cringe, like all of that we gotta welcome and Push through and speak up anyway, right? And, and if there's one thing that I want you to take is that, that idea of my point is, right? My point is because it matters, because it's my point and I need to share it right now, not because it's going to change anything, but it's my point. I know what it is and I know that it's important enough for me to share it because I know what it is, because it's in my head and that's it. That is a good enough reason to share your voice. All right? Good. So whether I'll see you, I hope to see you in the challenge, but even if I don't, I wish you all the best. Thank you so much. It's been a pleasure. I appreciate you, and I want you to speak up no matter what. Take care, my friends, and I'll see you soon. Bye.
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