Jamie Kern Lima distinguishes self-confidence from self-worth: confidence is external and skill-based, fluctuating with wins and losses (a boxer's confidence rises 30% after winning), while self-worth is a stable internal belief that you deserve love and belonging regardless of achievement.
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Self confidence, while it's an internal trait, is so much based on the external of what's happening around you. It's based on your assessment of your own skills and abilities and how you feel you stack up and compare to others. It's a reflection of your willingness to try and go for it. How much of the world's definition of success you feel like you have if you're winning or losing at any moment. And your self confidence is volatile, it's frustrating, fragile, it can fluctuate, right? They the studies show the boxer that wins the fight is automatically 30% more confident and it fluctuates. And our self worth, on the other hand, is the deep internal knowing and an identity level that you are worthy of love and belonging exactly as you are. Not as you achieve, not as your wins or losses, not as your past mistakes like exactly as you are.