#298: It’s Time To STOP Playing Small & ELEVATE Your Frequency, With Heather!

Come on this journey with me each week. When you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. Fasten your seatbelt. I'm ready for my close up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so excited you're back here with me this week. Okay, so it has been a crazy week in my world. I've been back and forth to New York I don't even know how many times, and it was not all seamless. I'm just gonna start off there. It was kind of a nightmare. The first flight I had out was like the crack of dawn. I think I was up at 3. It was awful. I don't know if you're like this, but when I have a super early flight, I can't sleep all night. So I looked horrible. I ended up buying a baseball hat. That's how bad I looked. I was just like a train wreck. And I had to speak at an event and my eyes were swollen. It was just. Was a disaster. But anyways, I let go of it. I'm like, all right, I gotta let go of this negativity, find a way to make this work, reconnect with my. Why, like, why am I doing this? And if I can make a difference in one person's life, you know, it's all worth it. That's what I always say to myself, anyhow. And turns out I did. And I'm so proud. I know this guy's gonna be listening to, which makes me so happy. But I had this amazing trip and definitely had the chance to impact not one person's life, but a few. And thank you, by the way, for the nice notes that people send me. And this is just a reminder. When somebody impacts your life in a positive way, let them know, take the two minutes to send the nice note because it might make that difference in that person's life that day. Right? And I don't know, just. It's so good to put good out there. So please take a minute, press pause on the show, and go send a nice note to someone that deserves it, someone that supported you or encourages you. I'm so blessed and lucky to have so many people that encourage me. Now I just reminded myself I have to go send a nice note to a few people after I'm off the air. Okay, so back to this week. So this young man who had sent me a video note, which is so thoughtful, if you really want to be thoughtful, that's like, super thoughtful. He sent me this video note before I Went to New York and basically just said, you know, that what I do and my content, the impact it has on his life and how much it means to him. And it literally made me cry. I made my son watch it. I'm like, look how amazing this young man is. You know, he's not much older than you. I'm saying to my son, I was crying. I was like, this is incredible. Look at the impact you can have on someone's life. Anyhow, my son's like, mom, you're crazy. Get over it. But so I meet this young man at the event, and I was so excited to meet him. And we took a picture together. And anyway, when I'm leaving that event. Cause then I had to jump on a flight right away after that event to come back home. And when I'm leaving, the young man says, oh, you're not coming to dinner? And, you know, there were a bunch of other things at this event that they were doing, and I couldn't because I had to leave. And he says, I'm so bummed I didn't get to spend more time with you. And I'm like, oh, yeah, well, I'll be back. I'll be back in a day and a half. Because I was coming back to the city for some meetings and to do a show, the Sid and Friends show on abc. And so he says, well, why don't I just stay? Apparently, he didn't live in New York. I didn't know. He says, why don't I just stay and I will, you know, meet you and go on the. You know, watch you do the show. And I'm. I'm like, oh, my gosh. That's the sweetest thing I ever heard. Okay. If you want to. Sure. Which is a little crazy, right? I don't even know this kid. But there was just something about him that he has this great energy. And, I don't know, he just tugs at my heart. So I said, yeah, sure, no problem. Come meet me, and you can come watch the show. So I fly home. I'm home for a day. I fly back to New York. And anyhow, I had some meetings, whatever. And then it's the next morning, and I'm going to do the show. And the young man's there at ABC Studios when I get there in the morning. So I'm like, this is kind of bizarre. Cause now this is the kind of stuff I do in my life. I commit to things. And I'm like, oh, geez. I really didn't think that through. Hopefully he's not a killer. Like, hopefully he's not a stalker. He wasn't. He's so sweet. And he sat and was writing down the things that I would say that would impact him. So he had had this whole thing. I ended up spending the day with him and at the end of the day had this whole thing of important notes that he had taken throughout the day. I have to read them to you. They're so cute. So, anyhow, to make a long story longer, it really. It impacted me in such a positive way. But I know that I impacted him because. Not because of the list, but because of this. So we go. We all go. I'm also with my friend who does my makeup and, like, assists me and helps me and supports me in every way. Cynthia was with us, too. So we're all at the airport together. And we're in the American Express Centurion Club, which I'm obsessed with. AMEX is not a sponsor of the show, but they should be, because I'm obsessed with my amex. So anyhow, we're sitting in LGA in the Centurion Club, which I'm literally in every other day these days. And I love it there. The people are so nice. Like, they're all my people. And we're having this great time talking. And he asks me, he says something to the effect of Heather, like, what is. Like, if you have to point to one thing in your life, like, what's the difference maker? Like, you know, what's the real reason why you succeed? Or, like, what's your secret? I don't remember exactly. Or, like, what's the key? I don't remember exactly how he phrased it, but I remember how I felt when he asked the question. And immediately I knew what the answer was. It's my faith that my faith is really what's changed. Listen, I've always been a hard worker. I've always been someone that will see no matter what. I'm always someone who's gonna ask for what she wants. I'm always someone that's gonna go bigger. I'm always like, that's who I am. But things have changed in such a dramatic way in my life since my faith was strengthened. And I've been talking about it on the show on and off for a little over a year now. And it's just incredible. I know. I'm so clear on it. And so many incredible things have happened in my life. It's unbelievable. Actually, it is believable. Cause it's my faith. And however you Wanna see it? It's a higher power. It's the universe. I see it. It's God in my life. And so my faith is so strong that it's undeniable. And I've just. I'm so grateful for my faith. I'm so grateful that God's given me this gift and it did not happen overnight. Right. It's definitely been a process in my life. But I'm here now, and I'm just so grateful, and it's so clear to me. So, anyhow, so the young man's asking me, like, what is your one key? Or whatever? And I say, it's my faith. And I look at him and I said, what's your relationship with God like? And so, you know, then he discloses that it hasn't been the greatest right now. And I've had times in my life like that, too. I remember when I got divorced, I kind of was like, I'm done with church. I'm done with it all. You know, And I'm not judging anybody. But when I saw that that was missing from his life, I knew that's what he needed. It was crazy. It was like one of these moments. It was so clear to me. He needs faith. And so he can take all the notes in the world and, like, learn all the business tips, and I can give him all my strategies on how to get ahead. But until he unlocks his faith, it's just going to be more challenging than it should be. He ends up going home, and his mother's been, like, giving him a hard time about going to church. And now he's gonna go to church with her. And I truly believe, like, he's starting down a path now to strengthen his faith. And I'm so grateful. Oh, gosh. I was bawling my eyes out. I was so happy, like, overjoyed. Like, my cup runneth over. It was just an amazing moment for me. And so for anyone listening right now, that you're questioning your faith or your faith isn't, that's strong. That's okay. You're not alone. Right? I was totally there. It's been a work in progress. But you can strengthen your faith. And when you do, miracles are gonna start happening in your life. Ask God to give you signs and you will see. If you seek, you will find. Right? It's really true. And I'm just living proof. And so I can't even put it into words better than this. I mean, I will put it into words better than this. Cause I'm literally writing a book about this. Maybe that's how it came up. Maybe he was asking me what my next book is about. But that's what my next book is going to be, the Secret Art of Skipping the Line. And it's really a book about the journey to faith with business examples. Okay, that's my concept right now. You gotta let me know what you think about that. I can't wait to hear. Send me a dm, go to my website, go to social media, send me a dm, let me know what you think.

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This is going to be a chapter in the new book. And one of the things that is different in my life over the last couple years of couple of years is my commitment to my energy, protecting my energy, elevating my energy, removing blocks as well as the frequency that I'm on, right? Like I really believe that this is something that if you're intentional about, self aware about it can impact your life greatly. It's impacted mine greatly. So this is just another way. And the guy, the young man, like impacted my frequency in a positive level, right? Like looking at the people you're surrounding yourself with, looking how you're spending your time, being honest with yourself, having honest conversations. When you get the urge to say something, actually following through and doing it's gonna elevate your frequency, right? All of these things are ways to elevate your frequency. And that's a very positive thing. Having a lower frequency is not gonna bring the opportunities into your life that you want. But listen, here's the thing. No one's gonna be on a high frequency all of the time, right? We're gonna have. Negative things are gonna occur. They happen to everybody's life, but it's how we respond to them which is the real key. And so I wanna challenge you today to be aware of the frequency that you're on currently. Know that you have the power to change it. Like for me, doing this podcast right now raises my frequency. Cause I love hanging with you. I love my show, right? I'm so proud of it. So it makes me excited and it puts me in a good mood. Now listen, there's plenty of negative things happening in my email right now. I saw some things I didn't wanna deal with this morning, but I said, you know what, I'm just gonna put a pin in that. I'll get back to it, I'll deal with it later on today. But I wanted to raise my vibration first, right? Like I wanted to go and work out, which makes me feel great. Go for a walk outside, which makes me feel amazing, and then come to my podcast, which puts me on an even higher vibration. You have the power to do all of those things in your life. And I know what you're thinking. No, I don't, Heather. You know, my life isn't like yours. Don't forget I had that 3am flight or whatever I was on the other day. And my life isn't always great either. I have to do things I don't like to do. However, my faith is really the cornerstone of my confidence. And I just have this really strong belief that everything's gonna work out. And I ask God every single day, please close the doors that are no longer meant for me. Please open the ones that are. And please show me the way. There, I surrender to you. I turn my life over to you, God, show me the way. And then I thank God for all the miracles in my life, everything I'm grateful for. My health, my son, my wonderful friends, my beautiful home, this amazing city that I live in, all of these opportunities that come to me, all of the good in my life, and so much more. And, you know, I thank God for everything I'm grateful for every single day. And I encourage you to do the same. And if you don't have a relationship with God, then thank the universe. Thank that higher power out there. Because I think we all know that there is a higher power. But I don't want you to feel like just because this is how I'm handling my life and how I show up doesn't mean you have to show up that same way. I want you to do what works for you. You'll know, you'll feel your frequency will be higher when you're aligning in the right way for whatever that looks like for you today. And by the way, that can change over time as well. So be mindful, be intentional, elevate your frequency. Know that, yes, there's challenges that will come, and those challenges will find solutions to overcome those challenges. And we'll be stronger as a result. Right. Like, we'll become more resilient, which is a beautiful gift. We'll become savvier. We'll find better ways to overcome the challenges, navigate the challenges, and then we'll start anticipating and expecting these beautiful miracles to be all around us. So, okay, I wanna read to you what this young man wrote down. Okay, here we go. These are the things that he took away while we did the show that he felt were important. I hope that you'll find that they are helpful to you. Okay. Show up and deliver. Yes. Be you, be bold. That's me. Be adaptable. Yes. You have to always be ready for change and constantly evolving yourself. A strong why, a purpose, and great relationships. A strong why. And purpose is really important in life. If you haven't found yours yet, start asking yourself, what is that? Why? It all starts with asking Good questions. Okay. Keep you going. Oh, those things keep you going through tough times. True data doesn't lie. That's a fact. Anytime you're confused about something, look at the data. The data will shoot you straight. Don't take no's from someone who can't give you a yes. Oh, my gosh. That's one of my favorite stories. When years ago, I was taking a no from someone who couldn't give me a yes when I was pitching for a position that I wanted this company to create. And I ended up getting the yes, but only when the individual who I was asking called his father, who was a CEO. Never take a no from someone who can't give you a yes. That's just a door that's closed. It shouldn't be closed. Leaders communicate with transparency. Okay, this is funny. I was on the Sid Rosenberg show and we were talking. Actually, it was about Biden and the lack of communication, and that's just leadership 101. You've got to communicate clearly with people. Let people know what you're thinking. Don't be a mystery. Knowledge isn't power. Application is power. Oh, I love that. Yes. You need to access knowledge first, but then you need to apply it if you want to transform. So information application transformation. I love that. Wait, I'm saying that I love this to the notes that this boy took about me. This is hilarious. Okay. Resilience is the X factor. Oh, my gosh. I was just telling you about resilience. Resilience is so important, and that's why we need to welcome challenges and problems that come along. Resilience is the X factor. And to strengthen your resilience, you've got to face some challenges and overcome them, and you will. Tough times create resilience. I'm so excited reading this. I just want to jump up and down. I need to get a life, clearly. Embrace the challenge, lean into adversity. Heck, yeah. Adversity is your advantage. Oh, my gosh, I love this. Put in the extra effort with your relationships. It's so true. The grass will grow where you water it. People ask me all the time why I have so many friends for my entire life. And I have a crew of best friends that's massive. We fly all around the country seeing each other, and we spend time together and we make plans together, and we talk on the phone and we text and we make each other feel important and we send nice notes. You know, even my guy friends do that. You know, it's just. The grass will grow where you water it. So important. Okay. Roll the dice. I am all about rolling the dice. I love that people connect with your story. Relatable connects. Yes. Oh, my gosh. So true. Storytelling is a superpower. Use it. Use it to market yourself and your personal brand and your business. Absolutely. You can't be overdressed, but you can be underdressed. Oh, my gosh. We had this amazing guy on the show, a fashion designer, and he was incredible. So I know that's what he's noting here. Okay. Dress your worth and feel the confidence. Fashion is a message that's really powerful. And when you think about that, how you dress today, you're sending a message not only to yourself, but to everybody that meets you, that sees you walking down the street. Make it a good one. Okay. Don't worry about the little things. It's so true. If it's not gonna matter five years from now, don't let it matter. In five minutes, let it go. Don't waste your time worrying about the little things. It's so, so true. Prioritize what matters most. Relationships done is better than perfect. You know, I live by this. Fear is a green light. That means go and go faster. Take bold, messy action. Heck, yeah. And don't be afraid. Fear is a liar. It's not real. Sleep when you're dead. Oh, my gosh. This is hilarious. Dream until it's your reality. This is so crazy. I saw this message after I walked out of the show in New York. And I've been wanting to get my own show for so long. First of all, I wanted my own TV show. P.S. so we haven't gotten it yet, but when I walked out of abc, that was the note I saw written on the concrete right in front of me. Dream until it's your reality. And I think you should dream until it's your reality. Because if you expect it, it's going to happen. Don't give up. The world needs your light. Stay in the present. Shine your light. So that's the message to you today. Stay in the present. Shine your light. The world needs to be a brighter place. And you can make that happen. I hope you liked the show today. If you liked it, tag me. Share it. Your girl needs your help. Send this show to somebody that might need it. Please leave a review if you haven't yet. If you haven't checked out my books. Confidence, Creator and Overcome youe Villains. They will change your life. Get the audible version. I narrate both. You will love them. And I can't wait to hear what you think until next week. Keep creating your confidence. You know I will be. I decided to change that dynamic. I couldn't be more excited for what you're gonna hear. Start learning and growing. Inevitably, something will happen. No one succeeds alone. You don't stop and look around once in a while. You could miss it. Come on this journey with me.