#320: THIS Is How You Know The BEST Is Yet To Come with Heather!

Come on this journey with me each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so couple things that I want to cover today. One, I want to cover a question that was sent in as a DM on LinkedIn. And two, want to talk a little bit about something interesting. I always feel like when things show up multiple times in my life right before I'm gonna record a podcast episode, it's a sign that I'm supposed to talk about it for you. So I hope that it will help you in some way. And two people who are very close to me, one's actually a family member, another one of my dearest friends have been going through it in the past couple days, just, you know, unexpected, unhappy situations with another person that is very, very close to them. And let's just put it this way, my phone has been ringing off the hook the past couple of days from these two people because they're suffering, you know, they're grieving, they're going through really tough emotions, which we've all been through, we can all relate to. But I want to kind of share the conversations that we've had without getting the specifics on their situation. But, you know, it's always easy to see in somebody else what they need to do. It's not always that easy. When you're in it, right? When you're in it, it's tough. It's tough to be self aware, to take deep breaths, to go work out, to know that it's temporary and it's going to pass to give yourself grace, right? To do all those things. So I want to get into both of those. But first, I'll start with a listener question around this person's giving a talk, a presentation, and it sounds like it's one of the first big talks this person's given on confidence and resilience and is asking me for any or all tips on how to give a great presentation, great speech. So I've talked about this a number of times, but happy to. I get so many questions on this. This is actually why I launched my mastermind on speaking and elevating your brand and going to the next level, because I get so many questions on this. If you haven't checked out the mastermind yet, go to the show notes. Literally, we're in the last week that I'll be Accepting people for it. So would love to have you apply, see if you're the right fit, and if you are, would love to welcome you to the team. So much about what you will accomplish will be dictated by the people that you have surrounding you. And if they're there cheering you on, stretching you and teaching you to grow, or if they're fine with you remaining at status quo. So if you're not gonna be a part of my team, get around another team that's elevating you. But it's critical to find your team and make sure you've got people cheering you on and stretching you and challenging you to grow. This is your reminder right now. Take action. Make it happen. I can't tell you. I actually had someone on my podcast this week. I recorded a show. You'll hear it in a couple of weeks. And this person is so such a champion for me. And it just reminds me every time I hang up with him, this guy is just such a champion for me, Always encouraging me, always reminding me what's good about me, what he's proud of for me. And when I question something about myself, reminding me, no, you're right. Listen to your intuition, Listen to your gut. Be confident in who you are. And having people like that on your side is everything. So if you don't have those people, it's time right now to fire your villains and go find your tribe. Game changing. Okay, so let's start with this woman who's giving a presentation on confidence and resilience. Okay? First and foremost, go to the venue ahead of time. I say this all the time. The more you can place yourself somewhere ahead of time, see yourself crushing it. Confident on the stage, the crowd going wild. Visualize what's going to happen. The more real it becomes. Your mind, your subconscious, doesn't know any difference between you visualizing and imagining something and you actually having been there. So if you go there in the mind first, it's not your first presentation. You've already done it and you killed it, right? So do that work. Show up at the venue, visualize yourself there, Take pictures, feel comfortable, get on that stage. Picture what it's gonna be like and how amazing it's gonna be, and keep replaying the that movie in your mind. Incredibly helpful. Gosh, that was helpful for my TED Talk. Okay, next. You know people when they haven't given a lot of speeches, right. The best thing you can do is put the reps in practice, practice and practice. And some people will say, yeah, but this is my first. Or, you Know my second one. I don't have a lot of practice. Okay, well, practice at home. Practice in front of your family members. Videotape yourself, play it back and watch it right. There's so many ways you can practice. Hire a coach. I actually. A friend of mine's giving a speech, and I just referred him to another coach. I said, listen, my mastermind's not gonna help you get there because what you need is something for next week. And you know, we're kicking off in two weeks, so wrong timing. Go hire this lady. She'll meet with you over the next couple of days. She's gonna put you on a stage, you're gonna speak in front of her, and she's gonna give you feedback and tell you some tips and tricks to elevate yourself. So invest in yourself. Hire a coach. Get someone to give you feedback that knows what they're talking about. Remember, only take direction and feedback from someone who has. Don't take advice for someone for a speech when they haven't taken the big stages and they haven't had standing ovations. Those aren't the people you want direction from, right? Just be really smart. Do your homework on people. Make sure you're getting direction from someone who's been where you want to go. Okay? So you're doing the practice, you're visualizing, you're investing in yourself. You're getting up on a stage in front of other people. Literally. If you have two days to do it, do it in the two days before you get there. No excuses like put the reps in. The other thing I would say is, don't waste your time trying to memorize something. I write outlines for things and always know that of what you're teaching. Right? You don't wanna. I'm not gonna get up and teach a class on accounting. I'm not gonna give a speech on chemistry. I don't know those things. I'm not an expert in those things. However, if I'm getting up to give a speech on innovation in business, building teams and leading teams, revenue generation and accelerating, or how to develop confidence and resilience, or how to give great presentations, I can do that without thinking, right? Because you have to know your material in and out. Speak on that which you are equipped to speak on. That's the most important thing. If you don't know what you're talking. If I had to give a speech on accounting, oh, my gosh, it would be horrible. I'd have to memorize it because I don't know anything about Accounting. So speak on a topic that you have personal experience with. And also you want to relate and connect with your audience. So ahead of time, number one, think to yourself, what is the outcome that you want? What do you want? People walking away from your speech, taking with them. I don't know what that answer is. You need to know. You need to survey people and find out in that audience, know who your audience is first and foremost. So once you know that, how do you want them to feel at the end of your speech, and what do you want them walking away with? So I'll give you an example. Typically, a lot of the companies I speak for, they'll say, heather, we want people, you know, feeling, inspired, motivated, to go to that next level and achieve that next goal. But we also want them walking away with three tactical steps they can take now to implement, change, or elevate themselves or advance themselves. Get specific. Those that deal in generalities seldom succeed. Those that deal in specifics seldom fail. So make sure you get into the specifics, find out what those outcomes are that you want to bring to the table, and then when you're practicing your talk and doing your outline, include those elements.

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So one of the keys is always start a talk with a personal story, because it's incredibly engaging, it's relatable. People want relatable. They want real. They want vulnerable. If you're talking about confidence and resilience, share a time that you failed, share a time you lost your confidence, something that can people can relate to. That's how you get their attention. That's how you draw them in, right? So then teach what you're going to teach them. Whatever the three tactical steps are or whatever is important for you to deliver in that talk, and then you ultimately want to wrap it up. I typically like to challenge the audience to do something, bring it full circle. Whatever it was. That personal story you started out with in the beginning, at the end, you want to wrap it up with. If you're talking about confidence and resilience and your opening is that you're sharing a story where you had no confidence and you needed to build resilience because you were literally down in the dumps and lost your job or got dumped or whatever it was, whatever challenge you were facing at the end of your talk, you want to wrap it back up with how leveraging these steps and tactics in your life was able to help you through those situations. And then I would challenge the audience, give them some type of specific challenge, so when they do walk away, they are motivated Inspired and armed to go take those steps. That's the advice I would give. I would say definitely dress in your power color so you feel your most confident. Write notes on the bottom of your shoes. Every time my son has a game, we write in the bottom of his shoes. Through Christ who strengthens me, I can do all things, and it's just this incredible layer of protection and elevation. And he feels armed and ready going into the games. And I do the same thing when I'm speaking. I write notes on the bottom of my shoes. Or you can get my soul sayings. Always check out my links. You'll see they're incredible to put on your shoes. So positive messaging really works. I'm a big fan of scents. I always have lavender with me before I'm going on a stage. And then I think of three other times in my life I was gonna take a stage or I felt afraid and I did. Okay. I made it right. Like you wanna take that pressure off yourself. And right before you walk out, just say to yourself, if I go out there and impact one person, I've done my job today. Right? Lower the pressure on you. Step out on that stage and have fun. And make it about the audience, not about you. The more you make it about the audience, the more you engage the audience, the more you make it about them, the more success you're gonna have. And then let it all go. Turn it over to God and ask for him to speak through you. That's what I would do. Okay, so best of luck and put the work in. Great talks come from being real vulnerable, sharing, inspiring, and making it about elevating others. And when you do those things, you can't fail. It's that time of year again.

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I want to talk about this interesting topic because not only have the past two days have I been bombarded with these two people in my life who I love going through a tough time, and I'm grateful that I get to be there for them and so thankful for that. You know, it's funny, people oftentimes think, oh, I don't want to burden others with my problem. When you're the person people go to when they need comfort and help, it makes you feel so special. And I'm so grateful that they chose me to confide in. I'm so grateful that they thought of me when they had hard times and they gave me that gift of letting me be there for them. Right? So don't deny that from other people. It's really important to know most people, as long as they're good people, they're gonna feel really blessed and grateful they get to help you. Right? Cause that's what life's all about, helping others. So I'm grateful they chose me. I'm grateful that they gave me that opportunity to be there for them. And now I'm grateful that they're letting me share this message with you. But what's interesting is, so not only did I have two people in my life in the past two days with similar situations, but then today I went to church. And wasn't the message at church today, our pastor Rich was talking about grief and loss and the story of Lazarus in the Bible and how important it is for us to realize when we are suffering, when we have lost something. And, you know, he got into it. Whether you literally lose a loved one, they pass away. Or maybe it's a breakup, or maybe it's an argument or a betrayal, or there's so many different types of grief and loss that we can face. All painful. Everyone experiences them. And then he walked us through the story of Lazarus and how in the Bible, Jesus didn't handle the situation with Lazarus the way that others wanted him to. Right? They were calling on him to step in and save him because they kept saying he was gonna die. And he, Jesus, needed to come now and save him and heal him. And Jesus did not handle it that way and how others were upset by that. But the beautiful part of this story is that, yes, God might Not always handle things in the way that you think they should be handled. But when you let go and let God and trust in him and let go of control, you don't have that whole picture. Only God can see everything. We can't. We don't have that visibility. We don't have that knowledge that God's actually working in our favor. And when we trust that, it truly unfolds for us every single time, it's God's plan, you know, this acceptance and knowing and trusting that it's all working out in our best interest. It's such a beautiful thing. I get it that in moments, it is so hard to grasp. Right now it's easy for me. Cause I'm watching it happen and unfolding in other people's lives. But when it's in your own life, obviously it's much harder. So I have a lot of empathy for anyone going through it right now. I'm not saying it's always easy, but it is always right. In the story of Lazarus, Jesus was being called on to come heal Lazarus. Jesus did not do that. He delayed. And in the delay, which we've all been in, the delay moment, right? Whether it's. You're in a relationship that's not working and you feel like everything's being delayed and you don't know why, you don't understand, you can't connect those dots looking forward, you're only going to be able to connect them looking back. And I know in my own life, I look back, oh, my gosh. If I had let go and let God so much earlier in so many different situations, I would have saved myself so much pain and anguish. So please try to let go and be accepting and trusting that there's a bigger plan at work out there. And it's working for you, not against you. So with Lazarus, Jesus shows up. Lazarus has been buried for four days. And back then, they believed that after three days, the spirit had officially left the body. And the gift Jesus gave them was when he resurrected Lazarus on that fourth day, he was able to teach all of them that his spirit was within him. And it was this incredible massive miracle that no one had expected. And, you know, for the glory of God, Jesus was able to create for them this incredible resurrection and gift and all of this joy and miracle, blessing and miracle. And it's just so interesting. It didn't happen the way anyone thought it should. It happened in such a bigger and better way because of the glory of God. So we can't dictate the way that it should be. And the delay may be working for us and is working for us because it's part of God's plan. So when we let go and let God, when we trust in God, when we trust in something so much larger and more powerful than ourselves and hand it over, then we know the best is yet to come. And that is the message. Gosh, I hope that these two special people in my life have got from me over the last couple of days. But I will tell you the other things. Other than, you know, prayer. Gosh, prayer is so powerful. Other than turning to prayer, other than going to church and listening to the message from the Bible and from your pastor. And again, go online, check out Vue Church. If you don't have a church, it's incredible. But other than that, there are so many things you can do in your own life. And again, it goes back to who are the people in your inner circle that you're tapping? Right? You can't change the people in your life, but you can change the people that you choose to be around. So choose good, supportive people who have a good message, who are loving and kind, who forgive themselves and forgive you and who love you.

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Turn to those people in difficult moments that will be an ear for you and will advise you in a positive, loving way. And sometimes that's with tough advice. I was talking to one of these people over the last two days, and I said, listen, I've got to give you some hard news right now. Stop making it about what this other person did to you and start making it about how you can forgive them, how you can forgive yourself, and how you can show up moving forward. Those are the things you can control. And while it might not be easy, it's gonna be so much better. And when you put that focus on you, you stop being a victim. And when you stop being a victim, you take your power back. And when you take your power back, all things are possible. And truly, forgiveness is such a powerful element. You think that you're making the other person suffer by being angry at them and blaming them, but you're holding yourself a prisoner, and that is no way to live. Forgive yourself, forgive them, and let go. And the more you can step into that acceptance, and the sooner you can do it, the better your life is gonna get. Breathing is another powerful element. I was one of the people in my life. I was sharing, you know, count to four, four breaths in. Count to four, exhale with four breaths, and slow your breathing down. When you're in these moments of panic and anger, and upset and shock and grief. You know, the more you can regulate your breathing, the more your mind and heart will regulate and the more you can start saying, okay, this is temporary. How I feel right now will change. It will pass. There have been other challenging moments. It's not gonna stay like this. Even just after 24 hours, after a good night's sleep, Things will seem so much better after a run. For me, things will seem so much better after spending time with my son and listening to him talk to me about turning to God and handing my anxiety, my fears, my heartbreak to God. How that will help and give you peace. There are so many things that we can be grateful for in our world. Focusing on those things right now and taking our focus off of the challenge for a moment can give us peace. Sometimes it's just a small shift that you need to start big change.

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My pastor mentioned today the five stages of grief, and I was just reading this article on five stages of grief in a divorce, right? Because grief can be loss of any kind. But I think we can all relate to this, right? The first one is denial. Okay? It says you might think that your divorce won't happen, but this could drag your process out longer and longer, right? The faster you can process these stages and move through them, the better for you. Okay? The second stage, anger. The anger stage is usually when people call a divorce attorney because suddenly it seems they wanna be right, they wanna fight and they wanna win, right? So, and again, this is a process. It doesn't stay in anger. It's gonna move through anger and then it goes to bargaining. You may feel like you would do anything to make the pain go away, but you should not lose touch with what is really important to you, your happiness. Right? Focus on you. Focus on caring for yourself and the things that can make you happy. Okay? Next is depression. Many people go through these stages. Some people get really stuck in this stage. You may feel lonely, may feel sad facing depression. Don't do it alone, especially if it truly is depression. You need a professional's help, a doctor's help for sure, and then finally, acceptance, right? This is when you realize that the divorce is your new normal, but it's gonna open a new door to a new world for you. It's the beginning of something new. And your best is yet to come, right? So the sooner you can come to a place of acceptance and realize you can't control that other person. You can't choose for them. You can't force them to do things a certain way or say the things you want them to say. But you can be accepting of their choices and you can be in charge of yours. And the sooner you can come to that place of acceptance, the more peace you'll have, the more serenity you'll have, the more happiness and joy you'll have, and the more you can create that future life which does have the best ahead for you, which is, you know, the beginning of your new norm with whatever grief you are working through. Loss of a job, loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, betrayal. They're all hard in the moment, but they're all temporary. And you've lived through grief before and you can live through it again. Surround yourself with great people that care for you, are uplifting for you, that love you, that encourage you and support you and focus on all the good that you already have, knowing that your best is yet to come. Okay, and as I mentioned, if you have not checked out my mastermind yet.

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