#399: Find Your Supporters: Why It's Time to Prioritize Your People with Heather!

Come on this journey with me each week. When you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. Fasten your seatbelt. I'm ready for my close up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so, as you know, I always believe that I see certain themes or concepts that are meant for me to share with you. That did not disappoint this week. Oh, my gosh, this is so bizarre. And it was definitely a message for me, but I have a feeling it's a message for you, too. So I'm gonna challenge you to apply this to your life and think about what you're missing in your world. Cause I was definitely missing something. All right. As I mentioned to you, about a year and a half ago, I moved from south beach out of South Beach. I had lived there for 17 years. Something crazy like that. You know what's funny is I was so excited not to have to drive over the causeway anymore. Literally. That was like the driving factor as to why we move. So we could be closer to my son's school and not sit in traffic so much anymore. And it's so much better, I can't tell you. It's funny because when you're in it, when you're living somewhere for 17 years, the idea of moving seems crazy. But then once you do it, you're like, what the heck was I waiting for? Oh, my gosh, it's so much better where I live now. However, there are certain routines and people and places and things that you become accustomed to when you live in a certain place. And then when you move, those things change, right? Because I'm not going to drive over a bridge to go to a workout class or necessarily to meet someone for coffee that I would have, you know, lived two minutes from previously or, you know, go to a certain park or a certain restaurant that we would frequent because it's no longer close by.

Right? It's far.

And so one of the things I've been so grateful for, moving, of course. And love. Oh, my gosh, I love where I live now. It's amazing. Every day, I thank God. I'm so grateful. But one of the things that I realized this week is I have been missing people in my life because I moved. And not only because I moved for a couple different reasons. And I'm gonna walk you through the three different examples that came up for me this week. But I guarantee there's someone in your life from your past that brings you so much joy. That is such a champion of you that you just haven't seen recently. And my whole message today is to get you to reach out to that person and to reconnect with that person, to just give them a shout out, let them know that you miss them, find a way to see them. Because that happened for me three times in the last week and literally made me so happy. I forgot how much I loved these people. And each meeting had a different takeaway for me. I'm gonna share each one of them with you, but it was just so cool. Okay, so this is how it started. I have been having some injuries with my Achilles tendon and my left leg for on and off for years, right? And so I'll go through windows of time where it's great and I can run and running is my favorite thing to do in the world. But then sometimes it flares up, it's injured, inflamed and I can't run anymore. You know, I've had to take months off at a time, a year off one time. Anyhow, Recently I've been noticing it's not getting better and I thought, okay, I need to take a more aggressive stance on this. And I remembered there was a PT specialist that I had gone to back in Miami beach years ago, five years ago, that fixed my Achilles problem for a while. He definitely straightened it out for like a year or two and I just had forgotten to go back to him because it's far away and because I'm just not in that area. I'm not thinking about it. Meet a different guest each week.

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I asked you to try to find your passion so it came to mind. I booked an appointment with him and this week was my appointment. So I pull and I hadn't been to his office in years and had to drive over the bridge, blah blah blah which was really no big deal. But I'm walking into his building to go see him to get my Achilles fixed again. He was the one that fixed it for me years ago and I see his beautiful wife downstairs with their beautiful new baby and I love her and she and I used to work out together three or four times a week. A dear friend of mine, a wonderful person, a bright light Those kinds of people that when you see them, you light up. They light up like you're just on that same high vibe and frequency. And that's her. And I hadn't seen her in probably two years, if not more. And it was just so bizarre to me that I had let this incredible person just. Cause I moved and I'm no longer in the same routine that they're still in over there, get in the way of us seeing each other. And she made me so happy. She spoke so much love and kindness into me. She was so excited to see me. It was just such a beautiful moment. Right? So, I don't know, stop for a minute right now and think about who are those people in your life that you haven't seen recently? Shoot them a text, ask when you can see them. Because getting around people like that is. It changes everything. Your mental state, your headspace, your energy level, just everything. I felt so excited after running into her. Okay, cut to. So I go see her husband. He works on my Achilles and helps me so much. One of the interesting things that he did, and he's such a great guy too. I was so excited to see him. Anyone that's helping you, right. Is all good. So he said, I want you to get on the treadmill and run for a minute so I can watch you running. So I get on the treadmill and I'm running. And then he says, you know, come on, off the treadmill now. I wanna share something with you. He said, heather, it's no surprise you're Achilles is injured, because when you're running, you're bouncing up and down. And while you're expending so much energy bouncing up and down, you're not really propelling yourself forward. And it hit me in that moment that this wasn't just instructional for my Achilles and to fix my body and my Achilles specifically. This was a metaphor for my life and for my business. And I want you to look at it through that lens too. Where in your life, where in your business, where in your world are you bouncing up and down, expending so much energy, but not really propelling yourself forward towards your goal? So let's stop expending energy for the sake of bouncing up and down, and instead let's get clear on where our goal is, what our vision is for our future, and only take steps and push to propel ourselves forward to that goal. So I love that message that he shared with me. Gosh, it landed so well with me. So I'm looking at everything through that lens right now that. Is this just exercise to exercise? Is this just a task to do a task? And makes me feel so busy and bouncing up and down, but is it really moving me towards where I want to go? And when you start asking yourself those questions, things become very, very clear. So let's get clear on what your goal, what your vision is for your future, for your life. And let's stop bouncing up and down and wasting all of our energy and start propelling ourselves towards your ultimate goal. I'm so on this too. Okay, so that was one incredible day last week that was so very unexpected because while I knew I was going to fix my Achilles, I didn't know I was going to have these other experiences. Okay. Then one of my girlfriends, who I probably haven't seen in months, sent me a note and said, hey, let's get together for dinner. Typically, which I'm sure, you know, if you have kids, you know, it's tough during the week because they have school and there's homework and there's games and you need to make dinner and get ready, blah, blah, blah, you know, the whole thing, whatever. So oftentimes we get into these routines where we're just doing the norm and we let people go. We don't make time for that dinner. So I had noticed I had been doing that. So I thought, you know what, I'm gonna make time to go see her. And I made time to see this girlfriend. We had an incredible dinner. It was so fun. And she really got me to. She was asking me a lot about my Saudi Arabia trip, about my business, and about where she's a very successful entrepreneur herself. And, and we were talking about what she wants to manifest this year, what her goals are and where she wants her business to go. And then she was asking me the same and saying, how do you know when you've made it? What does that look like, Heather, specifically, what is it you're looking to achieve? And I hadn't been asking myself these kinds of questions for a while, so it was fun to talk through it and kind of look at what are the different ways success could materialize for me or my vision could come to fruition. And then we were talking about Saudi Arabia and how exciting that opportunity is, and I was really getting excited for it. So it was just this incredible dinner with a like minded mom who's also a successful entrepreneur. And it was just fun to be back together with someone that I hadn't seen in months and pick up right where we left off and just brought me a lot of joy. And then we ended up reconnecting with some other women that night that now we're going to dinner with this week. And it's just. It's taking me back to.

Gosh.

As much as I was happy to leave South Beach, I'm sad that I don't see some of these people as much as I used to. And now I'm gonna make it much more of a priority because it's not that hard, it's not that far away, and it's something that I can make happen. And being around great people that support you and pour into you and challenge you to go for more and get bigger, those are your people. Find time to see them. It will light you up inside. It definitely did for me. Okay, so then I get a text message randomly. This happens in Miami all the time. You'll get text messages, people will say, hey, I'm in town on a quick business trip or whatever. Is there any chance we can get together for dinner? Happens all the time. Well, this person so interesting. If you've been following me or listening to the show for a while or read my books, you know that I was in the media business for two decades. I was a chief revenue officer and then I was unexpectedly fired. So I have a tremendous amount of people that are no longer really in my life because that business is not part of my day to day. But I spent 20 years in that business, so I have really long standing relationships and friendships there. But just like moving from Miami beach, when you leave an industry, you just don't see these people that much anymore. One of my good friends who worked side by side with me for over a decade and was literally like my right hand person back in the radio business, came down to Miami, he said, hey, let's get together for dinner. I said, absolutely, for sure. So excited you're here. I hadn't seen him in probably six months and we used to be together every single day because we worked for the same company. And I went over back to south beach again. I'm back on that highway again a lot of times this week and next week too, but all for good. It was all so worth it. I was so excited. What? My face lit up the minute I saw him. Because the all it was funny. I realized a lot of times when I look back at the past on that situation with getting fired, I see it as a negative, right? I see it as clearing out a negative person from my life. You know, the humbling experience of getting fired and having to start over, not knowing what I was going to do and having my non compete. But I don't really stop and think about all of the amazing experiences, people, relationships, friendships that I have in that business that I don't really access every day. And seeing him reminded me, oh my gosh, this guy is ride or die for life with me. Has had my back more times than I can count. It's literally like being with family when I'm with him. That's how close we are. It's just that we don't see each other every day anymore, so but you don't lose anything when you're around people like that. And so we sat and had dinner and talked and talked about all of these past experiences that were so incredible, so funny. We were FaceTiming people from our old industry. It was just so fun, fun. And it reminded me that even though there was a negative experience, that negative experience is not what defines me. It's all these positive memories and positive relationships and incredible people Meet a Different Guest each Week it's that time of year again.

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I asked you to try to find your passion that in some ways I had been forgetting about and not making a priority. Maybe because I was seeing it as that negative when I look back. But I was way off and I'm so grateful that we had dinner. We had such a fun time. It was a good experience for me to go down memory lane into that arena in a non negative way. But in a really positive, uplifting way. And remember how that person had had my back so many times. It was a really incredible experience and I was so grateful for it. So where in your life could you be forgetting that maybe there was a negative situation and you're letting that cover up some other positive relationships, positive friendships, or positive memories that you might want to tap into again? It really shifted the way that I think about that whole experience and was just really uplifting for me. And I walk away from this week feeling so loved, so encouraged, feeling like there's so many people in my life that I hadn't even been thinking about, that are my champions that are there cheering me on, that I'm cheering on. And I wonder how many people like that are in your life too that you might not be thinking about on the day to day, but maybe we need to start. Maybe today is the day you shoot the text. Maybe today is the day that you let them know you were thinking about them and how grateful you are that they're in your life. Because I will tell you, I had one full week of just so much gratitude for amazing people showing up in my life and reminding me that love can come from anywhere and everywhere. From your past, from your current life, from friends, from people that you worked with. I mean, it was an incredible week. I feel super, super grateful. So I hope you feel grateful for all the good that there is in your life. I hope you know that the best is yet to come because it certainly is. And I hope you get intentional about what your big picture visions and goals are and go for more. And don't waste time, energy and effort bouncing around. Instead, lock in on that goal and propel yourself forward towards it. I can tell you I will be too. Okay, to Saudi Arabia. We're weeks away now to going to Saudi Arabia. I'm getting so super excited. Yes, of course I'm a little nervous, but I'm doing so much work to make sure that I'm prepped, ready, and working on my Arabic, working out my clothes, which need to be very conservative, and getting really excited about all of the incredible experiences that we're going to have going into a completely new adventure. I can't wait. And I can't wait to hear from you. What new adventure are you going into? What area of growth are you stepping into? Remember, fear is a green light. That means go and go faster. You need to start stepping out of your comfort zone if you want to start going bigger and going for more. I so want that for you. This is your year 2024. It's now or never. Let's get going. Until next week. Keep creating your confidence.

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