#433: UNLEASH The Power Of Actualization with Heather!

Come on this journey with me each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. Fasten your seatbelt. I'm ready for my close up. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so interesting. I shared with you May is just this super powerful month in my life. It's wild and, oh, my gosh, there were so many incredible things that happened in the last week. And I will share a lot of them with you. I can't tell you everything yet, but definitely gonna let you know this month. I promise you that. Okay. And I'm gonna give you some hints on some of it, too. So here's the thing. Stay expectant, stay excited. Like the best is yet to come. It is so, so true. And I wanna remind you of that today by giving you a couple of examples that have occurred the last couple of years for me, that when I look back on, you know, it just takes one. One deal, one door open, one person. Like, everything can change in an instant. And that's why I just want you to be so.

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To possibility, to miracles, and being expectant for it all, because you deserve it. And it's all happening. Oh, my gosh, it's so happening. All right, so my son's birthday was May 31, and one of the things I love to do for birthdays, I so encourage you to do this.

It's super fun.

I do this every year. It's just a cool game to play that really lets you reflect. So one of the things I do with my son is we go to dinner for his birthday. Of course, now that he's older, he turns 7. I said, listen, you can go out with your friends this night, but one night this week, I do want to do your birthday dinner to play our game. And he said no. He went out the next night with his friends and he was so cute. He went out with me on his actual birthday. Adorable. So he and I sit down and we talk about. All right, let's reflect over the last year and let's look back on what surprises and miracles occurred that you would have never known were gonna happen. Let's look back on the goals that you set for yourself, what you were able to achieve and accomplish, and feel really proud in the moment. And then let's forecast and look forward to what is it that you're looking forward to for the next year? What are those goals that you wanna set and what miracles or blessings could occur, you know?

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Just to get excited about it, to feel proud about where we've been, what we've done, and then get excited about and build off that momentum for the next year. Oh, my gosh. Always. My child is the biggest teacher in my life, without a doubt. Kid is incredible. Honestly, I think that's the same way for most parents. So when he reflected over his last year, he said, my expectations for basketball have been delivered, which is huge. He's been manifesting going to the NBA for years and just recently had this incredible tournament, Memorial Day weekend, where he crushed it. Did so, so well, and was scouted and just like amazing things happening. But he's been working on this, just FYI. Like, he puts a ton of work in. He works out like three hours a day, trains his whole life. So kind of a big deal. Okay. He said, I knew I would be here. Expectation is actualization. And I thought that was really powerful because I didn't used to know that.

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It's so important to expect it, actualize it, visualize it, and know it's happening. Like, get rid of fear, worry, and doubt. Just expect it to come. Not knowing how I'm being open to how it may come. He did a great job in school, which he's super proud of. He's driving, which was something he was so looking forward to that a year ago. He wasn't right. And he just said he was so grateful for how far God has taken him in his life. And it was so cool. And so I let him know how proud I am of how kind he is, how he speaks truth and how his faith has impacted him and how committed he is to faith and reading the Bible and just so proud of what an incredible human he is. Okay, now we were looking forward to 18. This is so great. And he's leveraging and using those past success for momentum to say, of course these next things are going to occur. So he's expecting these things to happen, which I think is so cool. Improving and being open to wherever God takes me. College scholarship, basketball for life. And the excitement and anticipation of where that next level that he's going to in basketball, having fun in the summer, which I thought was so cool to include that he's looking forward to the whole entire year ahead. And he said, I don't know, but I have such a good vision. And so he just has this vision on his heart and in his mind about who he is becoming and all of this expectancy around greatness and. And incredible life ahead. And it's just, you know, what I'm learning is it's about expecting, actualizing, and just the sense of knowing it's coming. And again, you don't have to know all of the different ways it's going to happen. You don't have to have everything mapped out to, you know, the last detail. It's being open to how it can unfold and having patience too, because that's something that I've definitely struggled with my son's like, it's easy to have patience when you just know it's happening. And I think that's true. Right? So trusting, having faith, and just expecting that the best is yet to come. Because it really, really is. Meet a different guest each week.

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I asked you to try to find your passion. So I was at church yesterday and our pastor and I know I share this with you a lot. You can always check out my church online vu.com, incredible church. Incredible Pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr. So he was talking yesterday about unexpected favor and expectancy around that, right? And so just this idea that at any point in time you can receive unexpected favor. God is so good. God gives us so much grace and it's just incredible that at any point in time you can receive unexpected favorite Even if you've been praying for something for a long time, even if you've been hopeful for something, expecting it in any moment, everything can change. That one deal can materialize. You can ask that next right question and it unlocks that door you've been trying to get through. You can meet that person that is your person and completely changes your life. You can meet that best friend that you never had. You never know what that next one thing can be. So get excited about today. Get excited about what is possible. Because the reality is truly anything is possible. This is a bright new day, complete with 24 hours of opportunities, choices and attitudes. A perfectly matched set of 1440 minutes. This unique gift, this one day cannot be Exchanged, replace or refunded. Handle it with care. Make the most of it. There is only one per customer, my friends, so make the best of say, and know that the best is yet to come. All right, so a couple of quick business examples I wanted to share with you that occurred over the last couple years of my life that I feel like kind of illustrate this idea that just takes one thing, right? Like it's easy to get frustrated. I get frustrated all the time. I'm trying to learn from my son. I just need to be expectant and let go of the worry and the frustration, have the patience because I know it's all coming together and I know God's plan is so much greater than mine and just allow for it, right? Trust it. So that's what my work is really around. Just believe and know that it's happening. So when I look back over the last couple years, One of the two things actually stick out to me. One was my TedX. That was like a big pivotal moment in my speaking career for sure, right? It made a huge difference in my speaking career. I didn't know how to get it done. I took out a Google alert on TEDx speakers wanted and I applied to 100 TEDx speeches. And people forget about this. They think like, I just stumble into things and like, I get it the first day. No, this was a one year process of me pitching myself over and over and over again and being told no over and over and over again. And we sit here today and as you know, I have a TedX talk. I ended up getting one. I ended up that TEDx talk, got promoted to TED and translated into five different languages. And like, I'm so proud of it and I put so much work into it, but it took a year to even land it right. So don't lose sight of that. It's about having that patience, not knowing which door is eventually going to open but one eventually did, and staying on the path and not giving up when something's on your heart and mind and you know it's meant for you, that way will eventually be open. But you're gonna have to keep swinging. You're gonna have to keep knocking, right? You're gonna have to keep trying. And eventually what the irony is is I ended up, I was speaking at an event. A TEDx person approached me after the event and said, you're a great speaker, you should give a TEDx talk. And I said, I've applied to a hundred of them, I can't get one. And she said, show me your pitches. I work for TedX. I can probably help you. And so the key here is this. Take direction from people who have been where you want to go. She was able to help me, give me the hacks and tips and tricks into how I could change and tweak my pitch so that it would land with the team. And she did. And we ended up landing my talk. Right. So be expectant that it's going to happen, but also be persistent in your ask, and a closed mouth will never get fed. You've got to ask. People don't know what you're working towards. They don't know what you're going after. So you gotta raise your hand, you gotta ask. And you might have to change that ask many times. You might have to ask a lot of different people in a lot of different ways. But stay the course. If it's on your heart, it's there for a reason.

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Another great example of this is my book deal with HarperCollins leadership. I had no idea how to get a book deal, right. So I was stumbling around doing everything wrong. Again, when you don't have someone who's done what you've already done, directing and guiding you, it's going to take longer, Right? You're going to make more mistakes. I certainly did. So I had to find an agent. And I remember I had pitched my agent so many times and she just wouldn't sign me. And you have to have a book proposal, which is a whole other thing. It's literally harder than writing the book. And so I'm writing it, I'm rewriting it. Anyways, I end up. I spent a fortune. I hired an editor, someone who had been where I wanted to go. Someone who had submitted successful business book proposals. Right. So I invested in myself. I found the right person. It cost a lot of money. And we worked together for six months on this and she rejected me 14 times. And I remember, thank God, I've been in sales my entire career. I try not to get too personally attached to. No, I try to, you know, immediately go pivot to, okay, how can I overcome this objection? How can I reimagine this and create a win? But I remember when I got to the 14th note, I was so frustrated. I thought maybe she just isn't the right one for me. So I looked at this roster of other agents and I was gonna start pitching other agents. I remember. And wouldn't you know, I said, I'm gonna give it one more chance. Cause I love fives. It's like one of my lucky Numbers like, all right, 15 could be a great, you know, this could be the win. And so I revised and she just kept challenging me to make it better. And I remember I revised that pitch and submitted the 15th submission and that is the one she accepted. That is when she signed me. And that is what then. So, right, so after 14 nos on my 15th, I got a yes. So I signed with an agent that was process, you know, number one or actually number like 10 in getting this deal. And then once we had that, then we had to take the book proposal that now she was representing me on and go to market and start pitching traditional publishers, right? So we got plenty of no's back in that arena as well. And then we got plenty of yeses after. So it's about, listen, you're going to have to withstand that. Some doors are going to close. Some doors just aren't meant for us. And honestly, it's not rejection, it's redirection to something better. When God closes one door, it's because he's going to open that next better door for you. And the more I embrace that and the more I accept that instead of fighting it, the more successful and the happier I am and the more quickly the right doors open, right? It's like this is such a good example for, in my mind anyway, the longer I stayed in that job that I wasn't fulfilled in, that I knew I had a bigger purpose and calling, then I couldn't access and tap into that new life and that new job and dream that I'm living today because I was sitting in the wrong environment, in the wrong job. You can't embrace that life that you want to have if you're settling for the one you currently do have. And that's the same with relationships, right? So the longer I stayed in a relationship that wasn't serving me, it kept that right person from ever walking into my life, right? You have to close the door on the thing that is no longer serving you anymore. If you want to open the door to the thing that has the potential to be your life calling. That is fact. That is relationships, that is work, that is jobs, that is every. That's health. That's everything, right? So close the door on that which is no longer serving you and open and unlock that door to that future life that's out there waiting for you, just like my son says, and be expectant for it, because it's out there. It's possible for you. We are living it. It is so exciting. And I want you to have all that you are meant for as well. So if it's on your heart, it's there for a reason. Let's make it a priority now. Meet a different guest each week.

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