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Welcome, everybody, to another episode on your Badass Journey podcast. Today is a direct to you episode. Are you loving Love Month? I mean, I am enjoying these conversations so much and bringing my inner circle to you to really talk through different ways you can lean into that core value of love in all arenas of your life. And after talking with Jackie this past week, the last episode, I started to think about Leadership and the value of love and leadership, how it's helped me enable my teams to really step into who they're meant to be, but also love them through it when it's no longer a fit and it's time to move on. And then I, what came to mind was the practice that John Maxwell talks about because in next week's episode, I am sharing a bit from a conversation with Amy Ledeen, who is all about-- we talk about all things love and health in that conversation. And she just recently befriended John Maxwell, so he came top of mind. And so I was thinking about this last conversation with Jackie and my conversation with Amy and all the love in the air and how energized I am. after talking about them. And I remembered reading in John Maxwell's book, the 360 Leader, and it's the subtitle here is Developing youg Influence From Anywhere in the Organization about a concept he shares called the Leadership Loop. And the reason why it came up is that the number one thing in this loop, which is basically this loop helps you build your leadership principles and practice so that you're constantly evolving yourself, but also empowering your team around you and have a strong momentum going forward. So I felt it aligned with the past few conversations because there are seven basic principles on this to know and the number one principle is caring. And I thought about how strongly that aligns with how I showed up as a leader and still show up as a leader, as a coach, a leader, a leader in organizations, just leading my own life and how that top principle, the number one principle being caring is so aligned with what has been a success formula for me. and also highly fulfilling. Now, I'm not gonna say that I haven't had my heart broken in caring for certain team members that maybe were no longer a fit for the work we had, or we had to transition through things, or even when I was told that I had to do forceful layoffs because that was what was going on with the company when I was a former executive. in other people's firms. But truly, when I get to the essence of my core value of love, like caring is the action of that. Right? And so I pulled the book out and I have it here in front of me. And I thought I would read you the section that described this main principle here, the number one principle, because I think it is something that you can digest talk about, think about, and maybe assess how are you showing up in a caring way in your leadership stance? And if you're someone that is listening that is trying to become more of a leader, how can you maybe embody this or learn more about it so that you can really say that you have developed some sort of mastery in this caring principle. So in this book, the 360 degree leader on page 162, in case you get the book, you'll know what where I'm referencing this from. It's a John Maxwell book, the 360 leader.

And number one, caring simply means take.

An interest in the people. This may sound too simple, but it really all starts here. You have to show people that you care about them by taking an interest in them. Many leaders are so action-oriented and agenda-driven that they don't make people a high enough priority. If that describes you, then you need to turn that around. I don't mean to sound crass, but it helps if you like people. If you're not a people person, that may be the first step you need to take. Look for value in every person. Put yourself in others' shoes. Find reasons to like them.

You won't take an interest in people.

If deep down you care nothing about them.

And if you care nothing about them.

That flaw will always be a hindrance to your ability to lead them. So being that that is the number one principle in caring and how important it is to find the value in each. And it's something that has was a, you know, core principle in my teachings too, in my book Lead with Value, because that was something that fortunately clicked with me to really see people for who they are and what value they bring to the table, and then navigating the path to try and find an exchange on how to leverage it. And so when I sit and think about that core value of love and how for me, for many years, I was I wasn't caring about myself enough, but then I also was kind of turned off and judgmental towards others in actually seeing all their value, even when potentially one of our transactional exchanges, because we had to get shit done, disappointed me or didn't go the way that I thought my controlling mind and stance wanted it to go. And it led to a lot of conflict. for a period of time. And then when I faced myself and realized we're in this together, you're hired for a reason, for an expertise, for the value that you bring, how you deliver it and your skill set on the way you communicate about it or display that to me, we might have differences between. But if we get to the root as to what is the value you want to actually bring to this table, and how can I see you for you so that you can see me for me and we move alongside each other as we're getting it done. The energy about what you can actually accomplish together, as well as feel connected on is so much stronger. So reading this section from John Maxwell's book and also just having him be top of mind and also how I've been having conversations with all sorts of leaders lately on navigating the times of today when we stand in such a strong cancel culture. It really makes me go back to the root of how can we care for each other first before we start canceling each other out. The cancel culture is creating such a temporary exchange of dysfunction When people are just trying to show up at the best way they know how, most people, majority of us, are not malicious people. We all just want to feel like we matter. We all just want to feel like what we want to do in this world is seen, and we just want to connect. It's one of our human needs with other people to get that done. And now with the heightened energy around being wronged, for so long. And I'm not saying that there isn't a place to call out being wrong, you should, but it shouldn't be at the detriment or the takedown of someone else in order to achieve that. And it also shouldn't be in a moment of lapse of reason behind, what are you all trying to come together to do? And can we actually start developing the communication skill sets, the methods to connect with each other, the ability to dialogue and share our differences to figure out a common ground to move forward together and not feel so isolated. Or now what we see as a response to the cancel culture that's happening today is that people are feeling silenced or feel like they should not share anything in the fear that it might come out wrong or they might be judged for trying to express it at the current skill set and level that they're at right now. And it's frustrating for me to watch time and time again. I mean, I'm seeing it as in the highest level in C-suite rooms and it is so unfortunate because you are there for a reason and your skill set is actually what's hindering you from seeing the best in everybody to connect and find a caring path going forward. It is not always black and white and caring means you're accepting a little bit of that gray zone to meet someone where they are, be able to express yourself. You might agree on your differences, but still find a way to step forward in it altogether. So when you're thinking about your leadership stance, how you show up in it, the things that frustrate you when it comes to people management or even just connecting with service based teams, And maybe when you've even fumbled yourself on a service or a deliverable, an initiative you're supposed to complete by a certain time, look at how you're actually showing up in it all. And are you communicating in a caring way and asking for the help that you need in order to move it forward? And when someone is on the other side of that, and might not be respectfully responding, don't carry their lack of skill set in communication to hinder yours and ask more questions so that you can create a deeper connection and at least know that if you had to walk away from the situation or step into it a little harder or maybe develop that skill that you're doing it from a place of caring for something larger than yourself. which is knowing as a leader that you can't do it alone.

And you need it, you need the.

Help and you need the team, but you also have to be continuously growing yourself. We are not able to have the impact we want without a connection with others and the value that they bring to the table without having that caring lens and finding a place of understanding and seeing it for where it is and then deciding together where do you want it to go if you are trying to develop that change and that ease and how you show up in it all. So those have been my latest thoughts based on these love conversations I've been having, and I just wanted to share them with you because I know I'm not alone in this attempt to navigate the cancel culture we're in, but also as a leader, how to to it when it's happening in our environments. What's the number one thing I believe you can lean into is a caring stance and finding that common ground and not being afraid to maybe face the fact that certain things might need to change. But it doesn't have to be an abrupt change. And because it doesn't disappear, that problem does not disappear when it's an abrupt change. It actually festers and you're going to see it time and time again. But if you step a little bit and care into it and face it and be honest and authentic about what's really going on, you'll be able to navigate a much stronger long-term solution and maybe fix something that's been festering for a while. fix the deep rooted issues because you're willing to love on them versus abandon them. So I hope you got a few aha moments in today's conversation or even just really start to maybe make you think a little bit about how you're showing up in it all. But I really appreciate your listening today. You know, I love being part of your badass journey. And when you share, like, post a review and just even let me know, what other questions you might have that you'd like me to answer on the show? That's what I'm here for. I love walking alongside you, and I will see you in the next episode. Wasn't that such a great episode?

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