Short YouTube talk (by James Laughlin) that argues much of our perceived identity feels fixed even when it is not. The speaker recommends an exercise — write your own eulogy and discuss it with a partner — to expose meaningful gaps between your stated values and how you actually behave, producing transformative "epiphany" moments.
There's so much about our identity that is fixed that we don't know is fixed, and that actually is not fixed, but it's our perception of our identity which is fixed. And having those epiphany moments, I find it's almost like the ice gets broken. Right? And there's a lot of. I mean, you know, my classes are filled with methods and tools. You want to have a great one, write your own eulogy, and then talk to a partner or a friend or a spouse about where there are meaningful gaps between what you value implicitly in your eulogy and how you are living, how you're behaving, how you're being right.
