A short YouTube monologue by James Laughlin about how resilience—specifically "deep resilience"—shapes our perception of decision magnitude under stress. The speaker argues that when resilience is depleted, even small choices feel large, and recommends pausing to reconnect with one’s personal reference points before deciding.
How can resilience, deep resilience, help inform their decision making? My instinct, when we are speaking of big decisions, is realizing how, when we are depleted, when our resilience has gone by the wayside, even the most minute decision appears to be big. Have you noticed that the power and the magnitude of a decision depends on the scope? We have to absorb it, to process it, to orient ourselves meaningfully towards it. And so, to me, the size of it is really dependent on your scope of resilience to begin with. But, you know, granted, some things genuinely are enormous. So pause. However stormy, however busied, however hurried life seems to be, or make you feel you ought to be, pause long enough to connect with all those reference points that are uniquely yours.
