Many high achievers are driven by a core belief they're not good enough and unlovable. This insecurity fuels perfectionism, people-pleasing, and constant striving as ways to earn love and validation.
Most of us are walking around feeling like we're not good enough, which is the biggest belief and fear that most have, you know, is that I'm not good enough. And because I'm not enough, I won't be loved. So how do I get love? How do I, how do I feel safe? Right? And that's when we become the super achievers or the ones who are the nicest or the ones who avoid conflict or the ones who are always helping others, right? Or the ones who are super successful and perfectionists. And, you know, and always have to be winning, right? So it drives us in that, in those ways.
