A short spoken segment arguing that self-compassion—not self-criticism—supports long-term success. The speaker says research shows self-compassionate people learn from mistakes, take more risks, and grow, contrasting that with punitive/self-critical approaches (illustrated via a punitive vs supportive parent analogy).
I'm hard on myself, I'll be more successful. I think that the mistake that we make is thinking that that drives us. But all of the research shows if we're self compassionate, people who are self compassionate end up being more successful in the long run because we allow for mistakes and we learn from them, we grow from them and we're not scared, scared to make mistakes. You know, if you think about a punitive parent, if you make a mistake at school, you're so terrified and you're so scared of doing anything wrong again, you might not take risks. You might, you know, you might just toe the line if you have a parent who's like, oh gosh, that sucks, how can I help you? There's so much more room for growth there. So yeah, all of the research is saying if we're hard on ourselves it is not helpful for us in the long, long run.
