How to Reprogram Your Mind for Success | Unlock Your Full Potential

I'm Coach Jay. I coach bosses. I coach entrepreneurs. I coach people who want to be the best. I coach people who tired of the affirmations not working. They tired of the vision boards not working, and they like, "Hey, Coach, tell me what to do. Draw up the play, and I'm gonna run it." If that's you, stick around. If not, it's plenty of stuff on TikTok, man. I'd rather talk to five of the right people than five hundred of the wrong people, man. So if you resonate with being a boss, if you resonate with being the best, your personal best, because not, not in competition with anybody else, but just your personal best version of yourself. I want to be the best man I can be. I want to be the best boss I can be. I want to be the best teacher, the best leader, the best father. I want to be the best student I can be. I want to be the best me in every area of my life. What's up, Frazier? How you doing, baby? What's up, user? Welcome to the live. Welcome to the live, man. We just getting started today. We're gonna be talking about reprogramming the mind. Guys, let me be the first to tell you— I hope I'm not— well, if I'm not the first to tell you, let me remind you— you could be, do, and have anything you desire. Nothing is off limits. Nothing is off limits. If you can think it, you can do it. Now, if you can't think it, you got a problem. If you can't think it, ain't no way you're gonna be able to do it. But if you could think it, if you could wrap your mind around it, you could do it. And I'll even go as far as to say, if you think about it long enough and hard enough, you'll mess around and do it. on accident, because where the mind goes, the body follows. So I'm real big on sending my mind to my success before my bank account catch up. I'm gonna send my mind to my success before my results catch up. But if I send my mind, guess what gotta catch up? The bank account gotta follow my mind. My body gotta follow my mind. My life, my relationships, my business gotta follow my mind. But when you waiting on all of that to change before you willing to change your mind, That's my grandma would say, you trying to put the cart before the horse, baby. The cart can't pull the horse, the horse gotta pull the cart. The body can't pull the mind, the mind has to pull the body. That's what we're gonna be talking about. Thinking positive for my crypto to make generational wealth for my kids, for my, for my kids and fam. I love it, man. If you could think it, you could do it. That's the foundation. That ain't where it end, but that's definitely the foundation. You see, I got over here, I got the first 2 steps of the 5C process. I got clarity and I got calibration. It's 3 more steps behind it, but step 1 to getting what you want is getting clear about what you want. Most people's biggest problem is they don't know what they want. They know what they don't want, and they're going through life under the influence of what they don't want. That's not how it works. When you're under the influence of what you don't want, you're gonna get more of what you don't want. You don't got access to your best ideas when you're under the influence of what you don't want. You don't got access to the people when you under the influence of what you want. You gotta learn how to look at what you don't want and say, "What would I rather have?" This is is a magical thing. I'm telling you, when you learn how to look at what you don't want, and instead of get hypnotized by what you want, you say, "Hmm, I don't like that." And instead of going on this long dialogue about why you don't like it and whose fault it is, you go. I don't like that. What would I rather have? Like, let me give you an example. I don't like that it's only 4 people in the room. I'd rather have about a cool 25. I don't like the people not tapping the screen. I want people tapping the screen. I want people sharing the live. I want people in here to be high energy. I want us to get on here and drop some gems that's gonna help people take their life to another level. Now, if I sit in that energy of what I would like to have, guess what's gonna happen? Before I gotta go there first, I can't say I'll get excited when they tap the screen. I gotta get excited, then they go tap the screen. I can't say I'll deliver value when they share the live. I gotta get there. I gotta give the value. I gotta tap into what I do. Then they gonna share the live. Entrepreneurs, we gotta stop crossing our arms and say, I'll be excited. I'll become an entrepreneur when I when I start making. No, you gonna become entrepreneur and then you gonna start making sales. You can't wait on the sales to step into your bag. You can't wait on the calendar to fill up to show up. You gotta show up and then the calendar gonna fill up. You got to think it before you can do it. You got to be successful in your mind before you can ever be successful out there. If you can't be successful in here, you can forget about success out there. If you can't be rich in here, you can forget about being rich out there. Okay, if you can't go in here and dream up happiness, if you can't grow and go in here and become motivated, you got to get motivated in here before the motivation gonna show up out there. But when you get motivated in here, when you get inspired in here, the mentors gonna show up. The friends who actually get it gonna show up. The podcast gonna show up. The books that you need gonna show up. The customers gonna show up. But you can't wait on the stuff to show up to go, okay, now I'm an entrepreneur. Like when I work with professional athletes, I tell them all the time, you don't get a trophy and then become a champion. That's not how it works, my friend. What happens is you become a champion. You start eating like a champion. Champions don't eat that. Champions eat this. You start drinking like the champions when put in their body. Champions drink this. You start sleeping like a champion. Champions get this much sleep. You start training like a champion. Champions show up early for practice and leave late. You start holding your teammates accountable like a champion. And as you sit in that mindset of champion and your teammates rise up to the equation, rise up to your level, and they sit in that level of champion with you, guess what happened? Now y'all finna get a trophy because every champion has a trophy. But if you waiting on the trophy to show up to say, okay, now I'm a champion, you're not about to get the trophy. You gotta become a champion before you do champion. Be, do, have. It's some results that you want to have. Before you can have those results, it's some things that you got to do. Before you can do those things, there's a version of yourself that you got to become. You got to become an entrepreneur before you can new entrepreneur. How do you detach from the outcome? You get so focused on where you at that you ain't got no neurology left for the outcome. Okay, and I personally don't believe it's anything wrong with being attached to the outcome. You get— I just need you to be able to come back to the present moment and do the stuff to close the gap. Because when you attach to the outcome, what it's going to do is create what we call a positive neurotension. Can I give you an example of what specifically? Give me a goal. Let's talk. What you working on? You want to come up so we can all— how to detach from that? Let's, let's talk specifics. Let's get a goal. Let's get a real goal, and we'll talk about exact business sales. What we selling? What's the goal? I said, I don't know if you at work, if you free to come up, if you even got people that you need to come up, but if you could come up, you come up and we— I want my products to sell in stores. Beauty product, you want to sell your beauty products in stores? What's the goal? What's a particular product? And you're in the— you're in the golden ticket. You need to go through the Clarity course. It's 35-module Clarity course, skin care. Okay, so what specifically do you want? You want your skin product— you want your skincare products to sell in what stores? That's vague. That's vague. What's financial freedom? Is is that fifty thousand dollars a year? Is that a hundred thousand dollars? I want it at Sephora, Ulta, Macy's. I want my skin. I want my skincare products in the store in Sephora, Ultra, and Macy's. Ulta and Macy's. Okay. So what I would do if I was you is I would make time every day. To sit back and visualize walking into Ulta, walking into Sephora, walking into Macy's, and seeing my stuff on the shelf. Before I start working on my website, before I start working on my marketing, before I start doing anything, I'm gonna go inside my mind and I'mma see my desired outcome. I'mma see my desired outcome every day. Every time fear and doubt try to creep in, I'mma close my eyes and I'mma go see my stuff on the shelf. Every time I start second-guessing myself, every time I start feeling like it's not gonna work, I'mma go see my stuff on the shelf. That's the thing, the how not. So you new to the 5C process, step 1 is clarity. Step 1 is figuring out what you want. We don't worry about the how in step 1. Step 1 is saying I want my skincare products on the shelf. And Ulta and other stores that you said. I want my skincare products on that shelf. Okay. And then you close your eyes and you start seeing your stuff on that shelf, but you don't stop at seeing it. Now that my stuff is on that shelf, how do I feel? What's the result of my stuff being on that shelf? What comes with my stuff being on that shelf? And you start sitting in that feeling. That's what we call calibration. Now, when you get calibrated and you keep calibrating, you got to calibrate for a period of time. But as you keep calibrating, what's gonna happen is you're going to accidentally become confident. Okay? Clarity plus calibration equals confidence. Say that out loud. Clarity plus calibration equals confidence. Knowing what I want plus focusing on what I want equals confidence. Because even if they visualize, they doubt and waver. That's the thing. You gotta understand, the visualization doesn't change out there, it changes in here. Visualization don't make the money show up in the bank, it make the neural pathways show up in your brain. Visualization doesn't make the, the lover show up, it changes your definition. It changes how you perceive love. The affirmations don't work on the circumstances, the affirmations work on you. The visualization don't work on the circumstances. The visualization works on you because right now you're calibrated to what you don't want. And because you're calibrated to what you don't want, you get nervous on accident. You second-guess yourself on accident. You come up with negative ideas on accident. But guess what's gonna happen when we get clear about what we want and we get calibrated to our products being on that shelf? We're gonna get motivated on accident. We're gonna get inspired on accident. We're gonna come up with some really good ideas on accident. We're gonna start getting hundreds Man, go here. But I always get my coffee from here. I know, but go here today. And just when you happen to go to this other coffee spot that you don't usually go to, you got a shirt with your brand on and somebody say, what's that? You say, oh, this is my skincare brand. They say, oh, tell me more. Whole time you don't know this is somebody who has the power to help you get that on their shelf. And they don't know your product, but they see you and they like you and they can feel successful energy coming off of you. Like, you ever been around somebody who's pissed off and and they haven't said anything, but you can feel that they pissed off. Like, what's wrong with you? Like, I'm fine. Like, no, you're not fine. I, I can, I can feel the tension coming off of you. It's the same way with success, okay? When you have become calibrated to your outcome, you can see it in your mind. You've seen it over and over and over again to the point where your neurology is convinced. Because you got to understand, your neurology, your endocrine system isn't responding to reality. It's responding to the story that you tell it about reality. Okay? Your, your endocrine system, your internal state doesn't respond to reality. It responds to what you tell it about reality. And right now, the— what you're telling your internal state is that it's going to be impossible to get this stuff on the shelf. I don't know the right people. I don't know the right— so that's what you calibrated to. That's your internal dialogue. That's your— what we call an auto-suggestion that you're giving yourself. Calibration is going to stop you from automatically telling yourself that, and to get you to automatically tell yourself, I'm gonna get this stuff on this show. I don't know how, but the ways will, will show up. The means will show. I'm gonna meet the right people. I'm gonna find myself in the right environments. I'm gonna find myself in the right rooms. I'm going to figure this out. But before you can figure this out, you got to get clear about exactly what it is you want, and you got to get calibrated to it, because right now you're vibrationally detached From what you want, and when you vibrationally detach from what you want, the ideas can't reach you from there. You can't get the right ideas from there. Even if you meet the right person, you don't feel you you you feel like failure because that's what you calibrated to. So before we worry about meeting the people and how we gonna do it, we got to get calibrated to the desired outcome. Now you talking about detaching from the outcome. I need you to marry the desired outcome. I need you to detach from the unwanted outcome and. Marry this outcome that you want. Like I give you an example. I used to own a cleaning company before COVID My cleaning company was doing an easy twenty thousand dollars a month. That was actually a slow month. I almost dropped my coffee. Okay, then COVID hit and business went slowed down. I was going in my savings to keep this business alive, and I had thirteen employees counting on me for work. I had bills to pay. Okay, and I was upset. I was pissed off, and I don't. I didn't want to go out of business. I didn't understand why all our customers would leave us. Like how How could they? And the more I sat in it, the more I calibrated to that, the worse it got. But eventually it got to the point where I couldn't afford to calibrate to that anymore. It was too expensive. So what I did, I got clear about what I wanted. I want to get back to being the premier cleaning business in this city. I want to have work for my employees to do. I want a waiting list. I want us thriving in this time. As I got clear about what I wanted, and as I started calibrating what I wanted, Took me a bit, but eventually I became confident in what I wanted. Once I became confident in what I wanted, aha, I got it. Stop marketing the cleaning company as a, as a luxury cleaning service. Start marketing the cleaning service as a disinfectant service. Simple idea. It don't take a rocket scientist to go, hey, we in a pandemic, they nervous about germs, they having a hard time getting cleaning products. I own a cleaning product. I own a cleaning company. I got a storage room full of cleaning products. All the antibacterial stuff they trying to get, I got it. And even when I run out, I got vendors that they don't got access to. I got everything that they need that they can't get. I can even get toilet paper. So we stopped marketing it as a luxury cleaning service, started marketing it as a disinfectant service. Now that was an idea that I could have came up with on day one. As soon as I saw the business going down, I could instantly say, all right guys, we switching gears. We're no longer a cleaning service, we are a disinfectant service, then we didn't have to go through that whole period. But because I calibrated to, this is not fair, how could they do this to us, why are they scared— I was calibrated to what I didn't want. And when I was calibrated to what I didn't want, I couldn't find the solution to my problem. But when I got calibrated to what I wanted— well, I got— first I got clear about what I wanted, then I got calibrated to what I wanted. And as I got calibrated to what I wanted, a good idea found me. Does that make sense? So your job right now is not to figure out how to get the product on the shelf. You don't know how to get the product on the shelf. You've never got a product on the shelf. You don't know how to do that. Your job is to say, this is what I want. Get clear about what you want. This is what I want. I want my products on the shelf in Ulta. I want my products on the shelf in Macy's. I want my products on the shelf. I want little girls to look— they look like me— to walk in that store and see this product on the shelf. I want them to turn the box over on the back and see my picture on the back. Then you imagine your mama walking in the store, seeing it in there. You imagine your sister walking in the store, seeing that. You imagine your biggest hater walking in the store and seeing it in there. You feel the energy of it, and you keep doing that over and over and over and over and over again. And the dope thing is, you got this part of the brain called the thalamus. You got this part of the brain called the thalamus that brings in sensory information. So I believe all of the senses except for smell move in through the thalamus. But you know what else goes through the thalamus? Things that you imagine, things that you visualize. And the thalamus don't put it in a pile, one called real and another pile called fake. The thalamus puts all of this information in one pile. So when you use repetition and emotion— I want you to say that after me— repetition and emotion. Because you're gonna have to use these 2 things to rewire yourself. You got to do it over and over again, and you have to use emotion. Over and over again, use emotion. If it doesn't change the way you feel— what's going on, Money? If it doesn't change the way you feel, it's not going to change the way you think. If it doesn't change the way you feel, it's not going to change the way you act. If it doesn't change the way you feel, it's not going to change the way you believe. If it doesn't change the way you feel, it's not going to change your results. So sometimes people will imagine, okay, I saw the product on the shelf, I'm done. I need you to sit down and see that stuff on the shelf and really feel how you would feel if you walk in the store and saw that product on the shelf. I need you to really feel how you would feel if you saw that product on the shelf. That's what's going to get you to feeling different. And when you feel different, you think different on accident. So I don't want you figuring out right now— it's not time to figure out how to get it on the shelf because all you're going to do is get yourself to procrastinate, get yourself to give up, and get yourself to quit. We don't do that till step 4. Step 1 is to get clear about what you want. After you get clear about what you want, you gotta calibrate to what you want. Ah, how long have I been on? 20 minutes. It makes sense. So get clear about what you want, then calibrate to what you want. Keep calibrating, keep calibrating. Fear and doubt try to come up, calibrate again. You see something to try to strip, calibrate again. Your mom said, I don't think that's a good idea, I don't think it's gonna work. Don't calibrate to her, calibrate to what you want. Keep calibrating over and over again. Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate, calibrate, calibrate, calibrate, calibrate. We know we operate from beliefs, which could be fear, doubt, etc. Yeah, but I don't want you to fight the fear. I don't want you to fight the doubt. I just want you to get so calibrated to what you want that you ain't got no neurology left for it. It'd be easy when I be dreaming. Then when I feel the wealth, I'll be thinking about Till I wake up. Mm-hmm. But he's— when I be dreaming, that's when I feel the wealth. I'll be thinking about it till I wake up, for sure. Intuition is that all-knowing, when you get a gut feeling. Yep. But to really allow it to flow, because when you operating in anxiety, you pinch off your intuition. When you're under the influence of fear, you pinch off your intuition. But when you calibrate to what you want, that's when you open up that— like, you always connected. But when you fear, doubt, anxiety, they take you out of the frontal lobe, out of these— out of the mammalian brain, you back there in the reptilian brain. It's hard to build a business when you're thinking like a dinosaur. It's hard. It's impossible to build a business when you feel like you're running from a lion. And physically you're not running from a lion, but neurologically and hormonally you're running from a lion over something that you imagine. Because you got to think about it, you imagining that it'll never work. You don't— how do you know it won't work? You imagining that they won't support it. You imagining that you wasting your— you imagining that it's not gonna take off. If you imagine it anyway, not— why not imagine in a way that's gonna get you releasing oxytocin? Not— why not? I mean, why not imagine a way that's gonna get you releasing dopamine, serotonin? Why are you using your imagination to fill yourself with oxytocin? And this is where willpower comes in. Like a lot of times I hear people talk about willpower, and every time I hear them talk about willpower, they talk about willpower to control their body. You don't use willpower to control your body. Use willpower to control your mind. Okay? You don't use willpower to make yourself go to the gym. You use willpower to say, "I'm not gonna think about that. I'm gonna think about this." And the things you think about are things that actually make you want to go to the gym. I'm not gonna think about the struggles of the gym. I'm not gonna think about the reasons I don't like gym. I'm thinking about the reasons I like the gym. I don't care if it's one or two things that you like about jail. Focus on those one or two things. Get so wrapped up in those one or two things. I'm gonna focus on the fact that, yo, the gym is— it's an hour to myself where I can listen to what I want to listen to. I can get lost in my own zone. I actually like the treadmill. This is one machine that I really like. I enjoy that machine. Um, so I'm gonna focus on that machine. I'm gonna focus on the stuff that I like. And when— oh, I don't like the staff— well, I'm not gonna think about the staff. You use willpower to control your mind. The key to being successful is being able to control your mind, being able to control your thinking. Where the mind goes, the body follows. Can you give an example how I know intuition is guiding me or telling me something versus my beliefs and old programming? A goal is going to really help you to flesh that out, okay? A goal is gonna really help you to flesh that out. And what you got to start doing is you got to start spending time in silence so you can know the voice of your intuition. Like, I remember being a kid in the store. I spent so much time with my mom, I could find my mom by the sound of her keys. I'll be in Walmart trying to find my mom, and I hear some keys, but not— I'm not her keys. And I eventually hear— I knew the pitch. My mom's keys had this certain Pitch to it. I spent enough time with my mom that I knew the sound of her keys. I ain't have to hear her voice. I knew her. I knew the sound of her keys. You got to start spending time inward. You got to stop being so distracted by what's going out there, and you gonna learn the the sound of your intuition. And as you grow and develop, man, it's not gonna be very hard at all to to tell the difference. What's going on, Raya? How you doing? What's up, Anna? How you doing? But also what you're trying to do is you're trying to digest the whole thing at one time. Step 1, get clarity. Get clarity. You're gonna use the conscious mind to get clarity. Clarity is gonna require you to use logic, reason, analysis, willpower, decision-making. Okay, step 2 is where we get the subconscious mind on board. Okay, so step 1, clarity. Get clear about what you want. Step 2, calibration. Calibration is where you put your attention on it. If you want to book a session with me, like where we can use hypnosis to help you calibrate, inbox me and we can talk about that. But calibration on your own, uh, you're in the Golden Ticket. It's a module in the Golden Ticket called Calibration where you can start calibrating. But don't do the Calibration course if you haven't did the Clarity course, because without clarity, there's nothing to calibrate to. Does that make sense? And when you become calibrated to this desired outcome, it's going to be such a disconnect between this new you and the old you, you're not gonna have any problem telling it apart. It's like, I remember how long ago— what year? This is 2020. So I remember about 10 years ago when I first started getting really in entrepreneurship. And I started taking it serious. I started reading books like Think and Grow Rich, How to Win Friends and Influence People. I started reading these books. I started listening to different podcasts. I started like joining Toastmasters. I started like really pouring myself in entrepreneurship. It was certain people that I used to hang out with every weekend, but as I got interested in new stuff, I didn't have to use willpower to not hang out with them. I just didn't want to hang out with them anymore. Those conversations got boring to me. Those topics got— been there, did that, been to that club drunk. Like, I didn't did that. I wanted, I wanted to hang with my new friends. I want to go, I want to go do this new stuff. I want to go to this seminar. Right, going to no seminar. All right, see you when I get back. As you start morphing into this old self, it's not gonna be as hard to get rid of that new self. As you morph into this new self, it's not gonna be as hard to get rid of that old self as you I think it is. You remember like the toys you used to play like as a kid? It was certain toys that I used to play with. Like I used to have a little cash register, I used to have all my, um, remote control cars and my Legos and stuff. As I got older, like I didn't have to try, like I just got into— I discovered women. Women were way more interested than them damn Legos. When I discovered women, it wasn't hard for me to choose between Legos and women. I wanted to go hang with The women, the women were more interested than the Legos. As we get you calibrated to this version of yourself that got your product on this shelf, this version of yourself to sit behind this desk and you got a team of people, it's not gonna be as hard to separate from that old version of yourself. So stop telling yourself that narrative of it's gonna be hard, it's gonna be a lot of work, man. You'd be surprised what we do in my office in a In a 45-minute session. You'd be surprised what happened in a 2-hour session. This stuff don't got to take long. But if you telling yourself the narrative of this is going to take a long time, this is going to be an uphill battle, this— then that, that can make— because you, you know, your thoughts become your reality. So I suggest we kill that thinking. Now, it's not going to be hard. It's going to come easy to you. This is in your nature. God would not give you an idea that you don't have the capability to, to bring forth. I want you to think about it like a baby. When a lady gets pregnant, right, she don't got to build a baby, she just got to provide an environment for the baby to grow in. You're gonna have to start treating your imagination like a dressing room, Dream Woman. Get in there, try both of them on. When you find the right pair of jeans, you don't need intuition to say, hey, I like the way these fit. As you pulling them up and buttoning, you're like, oh, I like these. Start getting in your imagination and trying on things. Eventually you're gonna try on something that fits so well that you don't want to take it off. Makes sense, right? Right now I think you like— you trying to be too deep for your own— I promise it's not that complicated. It's, it's not like a lot of times people want to sell you books and sell you courses and sell you workshops. So they overload you with information. Like, we can easily get in here and talk about, oh, the thalamus does this, the amygdala does this, this is the frontal lobe, and we can load you up with a bunch of data. We can talk about, well, when we first start talking, you're in beta and you go up to alpha, then you drop down to theta, and theta is where you got— you don't need to know all that to make change. Now, if you a nerd like me and that stuff just interests you and you want to know it, you can learn it, but you ain't got to understand and unpack all of that to start using this stuff. Today. I'm not saying don't do it, but I'm saying don't do it because you think you gotta do it to get what you want. It's like, you don't got to be an electrician to flip a light switch. Now, if that's how you want to make your living and you want to be an electrician and you want to understand electrical theory and the principles of electricity, by all means dive in. But don't feel like you gotta do that to get their product on the shelf, because you don't. Because the time you spend is the time you The time you spend in studying that, you can be studying marketing, you could be studying networking, you could be studying people who got the products on their shelf and reverse engineering what they did to get on it. So if you're gonna study something, study something that's gonna move you towards your outcome. It's already people who like deep dive into that stuff. You can hang out with them and get that piece. What if it's between 2 job choices, you have to pick one? Try both of them on in your imagination. Trust yourself. That's not a question. You want anything? That's not a choice. Did you want something outside of you making? Spend time with yourself. Trust your counsel. The same way, like if me and you talked for about another five minutes, I said, "Tell me about both jobs." I say, "Hey, job number two, that's the one." You would trust me because we've built rapport. You would trust me because you've come to the live a few times. You've been hearing me talk, and you've been saying that makes sense. That makes so we've built enough rapport. that you would trust me and you would go which one I told you to pick. I want you to start spending time with yourself so you can build that same type of trust, so you can build that same type of rapport with yourself. That's a choice you don't want nobody else to make for you, okay? What's good, A-Town? Spend time with yourself. Get both of those job descriptions, read through them, sit down in your imagination, try it on. Then say, okay, that's cool. I rate that about a 7 out of 10. Okay, let me try this other one. Oh, this one is a 9 out of 10. I like this. I like this. Try them on, compare them. Try them on, compare them. And you fortunate. Like, don't look at it as, man, I got 2 jobs to pick between. And some people ain't got a job to go to. I got 2 to pick between. And you fill out the culture. Get on their websites. Look at their core values compared to their core values. Look at the person who conducting this interview and the person who Conducting interview, that interview. Which one has the culture that I want to work through? You know how the same way you will shop and compare outfits or compare purses, that's the same way you're gonna go in your imagination and compare these jobs. You gonna know which one align. And even if you pick the wrong one, I don't believe it's such a thing as the wrong one. Yeah, because your steps divinely ordered, I promise you. But even if you pick the wrong one, you're gonna learn some things at that job that's gonna help you to Just gonna help you wait. I hated being in the military, but I learned some things in the military that I couldn't have learned anywhere else. If you ask me, was the military the right choice, I say hell no. But God knew that there was something I needed to pass through to get clarity. Like, the military is where I got the clarity that I'll never have another job. I'll never work for nobody. I will never work. I don't want a job. I want to play. That's— I got crystal clear on that clarity in the military. I got crystal clear. What you mean I can't grow my beard? What you mean I can't wear my nose ring? What you mean I can't grow— you gonna tell me what to do, where to live, what to wear, how long to stay? Hell no. I, I want independence. I want to be entrepreneurial. I want to work for me. I want my money to be connected to my creativity and passion. I don't want my money connected to stripes on my shoulders. So even if you pick the wrong one, you gotta understand, clarity usually starts with what you don't like. Clarity usually starts with what you don't like. So I want you to stop being so worried about what if I pick the wrong one. Pick one. Pick one. It's learning experiences, it's relationships, it's things that you need at both of them. All things work, all right? The worst thing you could do is sit stagnant. Make a decision. Get in your imagination, try them on, decide, decide, decide, decide. What's going on, Britt? How you doing, guys? Like, I get on here every day and I say this because I promise you it's true. You can be, do, and have anything you desire. Anything you just— if you can think it, you can do it. If you can imagine it, you can do it. Now, if you can't imagine it, man, you in trouble. If you can't see it in your head, you ain't got to worry about holding it in your hands. But if you can imagine— and I need you to understand that everybody imagines different. Some people like actually visualize, some people see moving images, some people just hear it, some people just get a sense that it's there, okay? Everybody is not super visual. That's one of the things that we do as a hypnotist. We figure out what's— what we call it— your lead system. What's your lead system? Like if I'm out hypnotizing somebody and they say, "I don't feel like that's gonna work on me." Oh, they just gave me a lot of information. They didn't say it don't look like it'll work on me. They just say that don't sound right to me. That don't sound like it'll work on me. They say I don't feel like that'll work. That's a filler. That's a person who feels. So when I hypnotize them, I'm not gonna use what they see. I'm not gonna use what they hear. I'm gonna use what they feel to put them in a really deep trance. So stop putting a lot of pressure on yourself when you. That when you visualize, sometimes like people call it visualization, but sometimes people's version of visualization is hearing the sounds that would be there if they were in that resort. Sometimes it's a feeling that you get. So I like to use the word imagine instead of the word visualize. Imagine, okay? Imagine those products on that shelf. I don't know if you've seen them. I don't know if you, if you hear it being placed on the shelf. I don't know if you hear your excitement. I don't know if you hear your best friend going, bitch, that's your stuff, it's on there. I don't know what you hear, if you are a hearer, but take time to imagine in a way that changes how you feel. It gotta change how you feel. Feeling is really the secret. Emotion opens up what we call the critical mind in a crazy way. Crazy, crazy way. What's up, Katie? Anybody got any questions about anything we didn't talk about thus far? I'm not sure. If you could think it, you could do it. If you don't got your golden ticket, you tripping. You should get your golden ticket. We usually meet on Fridays, but I just realized that this Friday is Valentine's Day, so I'm trying to decide if we're gonna move the meeting up to Thursday, which would be tomorrow, or move it back to Saturday. I haven't decided yet. Um, um, I sent out a text message to everybody and an email out to everybody. I'm gonna take everybody's feedback into account before I decide. But, or we might move it up Friday. I don't know. We'll, we'll see. But hey guys, if you're not active in the community, get active in the community because you, you're gonna miss a lot not being active in the community. And people who already got the golden ticket, it's an app you can put on your phone called GoKollab with a K. G-O-K-O-L-L-A-B. And that'll put the community right on your phone, so you ain't got to go log in in the browser. You can open it right on your phone. So if you don't got that, get that. And if you're like, what the hell is he talking about? What is a golden ticket? Go to icoachbosses.com and get your golden ticket. It's free of charge. Is that my boy Louisiana Tone in the building, man? Y'all follow my DJ. Y'all follow my party host. Y'all follow one of the dopest entertainers in the South, man. What's up, bro? What's up? What's up? What's up? But guys, I'm telling you, man, if you could think it, you could do it. You can't think it, you can't do it. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. What's happening, man? You got to convince one person and one person only of your greatness, and that's you. You don't got to convince your mama. You don't got to convince your girl. You don't got to convince your Husband, you don't got to convince nobody. If you just can convince you and stay convinced long enough— because a lot of times people, they convince theyself, they don't stay convinced. So they, they, they keep, they keep convinced, unconvinced, convinced, unconvinced. So they never pick up momentum. I need you to convince yourself and stay convinced. Stay convinced. I need you to buy into your own stuff. Nobody else not gonna buy into it until you buy into it. I need you to give yourself permission to be a little bit delusional. I need you to give yourself permission to dream bigger than anything you thought possible. Like, you gotta understand, if you want to do something you've never done before, you're gonna have to allow yourself to think some thoughts you never thought before. If you want to do something that the people in your family have never done before, you're gonna have to think a thought that people in your family have never thought before. And of course they gonna think you weird. Of course they gonna think something wrong with you because you thinking a thought they never thought before. But if you don't like their life, I suggest you start thinking some thoughts they never thought before. Now, if you want a replica of their life and what Goddamn, for sure, sit down and think every time everything they think and let them dictate your thinking. But if you after a different result of what they got, yeah, you're gonna have to think some thoughts that they ain't thought before, and they gonna think a lot of them weird, and that's okay. But the time that you spend trying to convince them, you gotta understand, it's a full-time job convincing you, because the time you spend convincing them, that's time that you're not doing your affirmations. That's time that you're not Focusing on your goal. And I look at it like this, if you walk into a room full of sick people, you think you more likely to get them healthy or they more likely to get you sick? So if you got a family full of people, a room full of people who don't believe in you, and you trying to convince them like, no, it's gonna work, this is what I've been reading, these books, subjecting these podcasts, old boy did it. So you trying to convince them, man, you think you more likely to talk them into it or they more likely to talk you out of it? Stop talking about it with them. Get in the community. Go find you some other people who building. Go find you some other people who done built some stuff. Go find you some other dreamers to talk to. Don't stop talking to them about it. I ain't say you couldn't talk to them at all. Stop talking to them about your dream. I ain't say you got to cut your mama off. Just stop talking to her about your dream. Just stop talking to her about this. Now, I like when a lot of people get pregnant, they don't talk about the baby. They don't tell nobody till the second trimester because anything can happen in the first trimester. That baby is sensitive in the first trimester. Stop talking about your business in the first trimester. Stop talking about your relationship in the first trimester. Let it get some life about it. Let that heartbeat get steady. Let that brain develop. Let it develop inside of you before you start trying to tell everybody. Right. Is that making sense? Oh, and I ain't never finished that analogy from earlier, but I want you to think about like when a woman gets pregnant, she don't got to build a baby. She just got to provide an environment for the baby to grow in. You've never seen a pregnant woman out looking for arms and legs and toenails and, and brain cells. She just has to provide an environment for the baby to grow. The baby builds itself if she just gives it an environment to grow in. It's the same way with your ideas and your business. You ain't got to build a business. You got to give the business an environment to grow in. You ain't got to go put that product on the shelf. You got to give the, the product on the shelf an environment to live in. And eventually, that, that, that idea, that concept spends some time in you. Appreciate you, A-Town. And it, and it grows, and it takes on a life on its own. And one day, your water gonna break, and that vision is coming forth. That idea is coming out of you, ready or not. You might push it out, they might cut it out, but once that idea grows and is ready to stand on its own and is ready to be born, that idea is bringing itself out into the world. If they get it, Jungle, you could talk to them about it. If his homies is interested in the same thing and like, hey bro, yeah, yeah, that's the same thing I'm on. I read like my homeboy, um, Tune is in here right now. We— I share stuff with him that I got other people that I won't share with. I know that that's my boy that's gonna play. Hey bro, that's a good idea. Yeah, you should. He more likely to talk me into It and talk me out of it. He more like, like, you had another thing, you know what else you could do? You gonna add into it. He gonna give me— he gonna pour energy into— he not trying to kill my baby. That's my own boy. He's trying to help me sustain my baby. He wanted to help make the baby stronger. But if he was negative, he just wouldn't be privy to, to like, hey bro, wait, what you working on? Nothing, man. Same old, same old. We like— but he— I'm fortunate enough to have somebody, have a few people in my corner that I can talk about my ideas with. But you got one time to show me that you're not a dreamer. You got one time to show me that you ain't got type of energy that I need you to have around what I'm building. And you ain't got to worry about hearing no more of my ideas. You'll see when everybody else— Bro, when you did that, why you ain't tell me? You ain't even got to get into it, bro. You know what I mean? I just put my head down and work. Because like I say, it's a full-time job convincing me. It's a full-time job keeping my energy up. It's a full-time job keeping me excited about the idea. I don't got time to convince nobody else. I don't got time to get you on board. You'll see it, shit. You, you'll see it when you see it. When I was first going to the military, my family said, you're not going to the military. We don't— you know, you don't do the work they send you to where you can't go to see you when I get back. Then a few years later, when I said I was getting out of the military to do this, they say, "You can't get out of the military. How you gonna get out of the military? That's how you pay your bills. You got good health insurance. You make decent money. You got you got life. You got you can't out of the military. See you when I get back." We always knew you was gonna figure it out, boy. You always land on. They don't know, and they they think they got your best interest at heart. In fact, they do got your best interest at heart, but they don't know. If God give you an idea, if God give you a vision, they, they can't see it. Okay, of course they can't see it. God didn't give them the vision. He gave you the vision. And you gonna let, you gonna let somebody talk you out of an idea that God gave you? Knock it off, man. Get clear about what you want. Get calibrated to what you want. Keep calibrating. Those the first 2 steps. You can't get what you want till you know what you want. Say that out loud. I can't get what I want until I know what I want. Most people's biggest problem is they don't know what they want. They know what they don't want, and they attempting to do things to get them further away from what they don't want. But knowing what you don't want is not the same thing as knowing what you want. Not wanting to be poor is not the same thing as having a burning desire for riches. Having a burning desire to have a thriving business, having a burning desire to have more money coming in than going out, having a burning desire to make $10,000 a month. You see the difference between I don't want to be poor and I want to make $10,000 a month doing what I love? I want to make $10,000 a month motivating, inspiring people all over the world, reminding people they could be doing, have anything that, that they want. Not wanting to be poor is going to cause me to procrastinate. Not wanting to be poor fills me with anxiety. Not wanting to be poor slows me down, while having a goal of making $10,000 a month doing what I love, that inspires me, that motivates me, that gives my subconscious mind something to work toward. You gotta understand that the brain is a goal-achieving machine, and it's really good at achieving goals, but it also doesn't process negatives. What does that mean? You can't tell it what not to do, you got to tell it what to do. Okay, if I say don't think about a pink elephant, what's the first thing you think about? A pink— the brain doesn't know how not to think about a pink elephant. It's a pink elephant. Okay, yeah, don't think about— oh well, it's right there. Don't think, but it's right— don't think about, but it's right there. So let me tell you, don't be nervous, brain. Oh, oh, oh, okay, I'm not nervous. I'm— no, I'm, I'm confident. And shoulders back. You can't tell it what not to do, you got to tell it what to do. Don't screw this up. I'm not like— imagine you wake up in the middle of the night, everybody else sleep. You finna go in the kitchen and grab a snack, and you trying not to wake everybody up, so you tell yourself, don't make noise. The brain go, don't make noise. Oh, sorry. Don't, don't, don't. I won't make noise. Oh. The brain doesn't know how to process a negative. So when you only got clarity about what you want and you telling yourself, don't get pissed off, don't screw this up, don't lose your temper, don't eat those carbs, don't fill in the blank, What you want to—it makes you—it puts that thing that you're trying to ignore at the center of your focus. Like the way that you don't think about a pink elephant is you get busy thinking about a blue tiger. That makes sense. The way you don't think about this thing that you don't want to think about is you get busy thinking about something else. Like stop trying to wrestle limiting beliefs to the ground. Ground. Stop trying to wrestle your old— that old self-image to the ground. Build a new self-image. It's so attractive, it's so compelling, it's so delicious. You can't wait to step into it. And watch what happened to that old neurology. If you don't use it, you lose it, right? Does that make sense? Like when people— back when I used to do a lot of quit smoking sessions, I'm not sitting in there telling people, don't smoke, don't smoke those cigarettes, don't, don't smoke those cigarettes. Because when I say don't smoke the cigarette, they're like, nigga, you stressing me out, I want a cigarette right now. What we doing is we building up this mindset of a non-smoker. I'm asking questions like, so now that you're a non-smoker, what you about to do with this extra $500 a month that you got? In order to answer that question, they gotta alter their neurology. Man, I do got— hmm, now I'm done buying them down Newports. I do got an additional $500 a month. You know what, bro, this school that I really want to put my daughter in, it costs just about that amount. Now the brain just made a shift. That, that money ain't even available. So, so you see, we like reprogramming them, not by saying, hey, you know those cigarettes kill you, bro? They knew that when they showed up. You know those giving you cancer? They knew that when they showed up. If that was gonna make them quit, they would have Quit already. Say, hey man, that $500 you used to spend on cigarettes, what you gonna do with them now? How many times a day you think you used to— language is so important— not how many times do you go outside, how many times a day you used to go outside and smoke? Probably a good 10. About what, 5 minutes each day? I mean, 5 minutes each time? Yeah, about that. So bro, you finna get an additional 50 minutes back. What you finna do with this, man? You'd have made $500, you'd have made an additional 50 minutes a day. Like, what you finna do with this additional 50 minutes a day? And now that you're gonna be healthier, now that you're gonna have more lung capacity, man, what's— what you gonna be doing with this extra capacity? What your— what your woman gonna say when you got this extra stamina in the bedroom? We— do we not talking about cigarettes? We talking about the benefits of putting them down. We talking about this new life that you're stepping into. Eventually you start feeling like, damn, I should put these down years ago. Why the hell am I sucking poison out of a straw when I could be saving an additional $500 a month Having a different additional 50 minutes a day, having harder erections. Like, yeah, this— like, you— do you see what we don't— we getting you calibrated to what you want. We not wrestling against what you don't want. We getting you calibrated to what you do want. When you calibrate to what you don't want, you don't got to try to feel down. You don't got to try to feel depressed. You don't got to try to feel sad. That's the natural result of being calibrated to what you don't want. But when we start calibrating you to what you want, you don't got to try to feel motivated. You don't got to try to feel excited. You don't got to try to feel inspired. Now you don't— you're not in the store struggling with not buying cigarettes. You in the store smiling like, yeah, you used to have me, not no more. This new version of me can say no. You, you're not seeing other people who smoke, man, damn, I want a cigarette. You're gonna be like, man, I hope you make that transformation I made. Boy, do you know how much money you costing yourself and that you could be having better sex and smell— like, you pity people who smoke. You don't, you don't envy them. Because this new version of you, like, hell no, man, it ain't worth it. But it's the same way with any type of goal. It's the same way with losing weight. It's the same way with making more money. It's the same way with anything. Every problem is a thinking problem. Every problem is a thinking problem. And when you start treating problems like what they really are, thinking problems, watch how quick them motherfuckers dissolve. We making sense? We cooking? I don't know, we ain't got no screen tells. We ain't we ain't we ain't got no comment. We ain't got no energy. I feel like I'm doing a podcast. Hello? This thing go? What's up, Miss Lena? How y'all doing? Yeah, y'all let me know. I ain't talking to myself in here. Appreciate y'all. Help me move this up the for you page, man. People need to hear this message, man, because. A lot of people put this information behind big huge paywalls. Okay, we're at a point where we gotta, we gotta pull back the veil, man. You could be, do, and have anything you desire. You, if you could think it, you could do it. I'm cooking. Yo, let's put some salt and pepper on it. You could be, do, and have anything you desire. If you can think it, you can do it. If you can't think it, you can forget about it. But the good news is you can think it. You, you definitely can. You just gotta stop thinking about that thing that you don't want so you can start thinking about this thing that you do want. Like, the example I always use is imagine if you a taxi driver and somebody get in your taxi, say, man, don't take me to the mall. I hate the mall. I ain't paying no $300 for no one pair of shoes. All those teenagers up there. Nah, man, don't take me to the mall. You go to the mall? You stupid, bro. Nah, I don't go to the mall. I hate Hey, man, I ain't been to the mall since, bro. I probably was in high school the last time I went to the mall. I can't stand the mall. Hell nah, man. You go to the mall, bro? No, man. I don't go to Macy's. I don't go to. I don't need no more. I don't go to none of them stores. I hate the mall, bro. Where do you want to go? I can't. I mean, I can not take you to the mall, but I didn't come pick you up to not take you to the mall. Where do you want to go? Like that's crazy, right? But that's how a lot of people go through life. I can't stand my job. My boss annoying, micromanaging. She thinks she all that because she got her little degree. Yeah, man, I can't. Oh, I can't stand my job. And then this fat bitch Barbara, she think I don't know she ate my food out that refrigerator. But I got something for ass. I'm gonna put some. I'm gonna put some something in there next time. What do you want? Man, I I want a new job, but. The whole conversation, the whole dialogue is about what you don't want. You're on the phone with your friends talking about what you don't want. You on TikTok watching videos about what you don't want. You getting your journal writing about what you don't want. You praying to God about what you don't want. The whole dialogue is about what you don't want when God already said, look, you have not because you ask not. Seeking, you shall find. Knock, And the door shall be open unto you. But when your dialogue, all of your dialogue is about what you don't want, you're not even taking the time to get clarity about what you want. You calibrated to what you don't want, which makes you a vibrational match for what you don't want. So you leave this job, but you go to the next job and it's the same stuff. Your last 5 managers ain't like you. Okay, your last 5 relationships, the other person won shit. Okay, that's a calibration— that's a clarity and a calibration problem. That's not everybody out to get you problem. That's a calibration problem. That's a you don't know what you want problem. So you keep reaching for what's familiar. You keep reaching for what you're calibrated to. Does that make sense? Does that make sense? That's, uh, I picked this relationship, this new relationship, simply because it wasn't my old relationship. What'd you like about your new person? Did they not the old person? What you like about your old job? About your new job? It's not the old job. But if you take that same mindset into the new job, take that same mindset into the new relationship, You're gonna find the same thing. You see a lot of people this week they doing, they doing brows and their lash tech. Next week they doing nails. Next week they doing— I'm not good at entrepreneurship, everything I try fail. Did you ever take time to get clear about what you want and get calibrated before you, you taking action without clarity and calibration? Really risky. Can you give me an example? Calibrate for a new car in life. At Money J. Oh, I think you put the— at Fashion is Risky. So that's a limited belief. We gotta— fashion— no, don't say that. I'm, I'm interested in learning more about fashion. I'm getting my footing in fashion. Can you give me an example of calibrating for a new car in life? What do you want? Well, step 1, what do you want? That's vague. You might be trying to get a new life that's worse than the one you got. What do you want? You got to get in the— I think you already— community. I think you got in the community yesterday, right or wrong? Go through the clarity course. Go through the clarity course. Go into the community. You're gonna click on where it says listen And there is a 35-module course called Clarity. You got to go through that. And the way I want you to go through it is I want you to go through it one area of your life at a time. Like, a lot of times you'll see, like, people might come to a first session with me and go, hey man, I want to quit smoking, I want to lose 20 pounds, I want to be more confident, and I want to be a better speaker. I'm gonna say, dope, let's do all of that. Where you want to start at though? Because we got an hour today. And if we spend that hour, you are clear on what you want. So maybe you just don't feel like typing it, but from what I'm seeing, you're not clear on what you want. And that's the dope thing about the Zoom meetings. In the Zoom meetings, you actually come up and, you know, we're, we're talking, we're dialoguing back and forth. So maybe you got the clarity and you just don't feel like, like typing it out on here, but from what I'm seeing, you know, just in this back and forth you, you don't know what you want. You know what you don't want. I don't like my old life, I want a new one. I don't like the current car, I wanna, I wanna know. But what do you, what do you want? Like, you gotta understand, like, saying I don't like my job, is that the same thing as saying, hey, I'm ready to start my own business? I want to start a business where I help companies with their advertising. I want to make $10,000 a month. I want to help minority business owners who got good ideas, who got like— they really good at what they do, but they don't understand the branding aspect of business. I want to teach Black minorities, not even just Black people, minorities in general, how to market and how to build branding and how to make theirself to where they're not looking for customers, they got people calling them. I want to teach entrepreneurs how to do that, and that's not even like super specific, but It gotta start there, and you gotta start narrowing it into what you want. You gotta get, gotta get specific. Gotta know what you want. And as you start calibrating, it'll fill in even more, and it might change. And what you gotta understand is, just because that's your clarity, like, you could— your clarity will change with time. Like, when I first started doing what I do, what I do, I wanted to be booked and busy. Then when I got booked and busy, I got some new clarity. I don't want to be booked and busy. This is too much. One walking out, another one coming in, and I don't want to be booked and busy. I want to be priced in a way where I could see 5 to 10 clients a week and still support my life. That was the new level of clarity. I don't want to see 35 clients a week. That's not— I want to see 5 to 10 clients a week. Sometimes I want one client a day. Now, in order to do that, I'm gonna have to quadruple my pricing. But the, the clarity shifts and changes and expands as you, as you get going. But you got to start with, with some clarity. Then you start calibrating to that. Then you accidentally start moving towards that. Then you might get into that and go, ah, I thought this is what I wanted. This is not what I want. Then you can alter the clarity. But we got to start with way more clarity than what we got. But a good place to start is that 35-module Clarity course. Either that, or we could book you a one-on-one call. We could jump on for an hour and I can help you dial down clarity. I don't know where you're— you know, I don't know how your finances separated. So a free option is the Clarity course, or if you want to invest, you can get on an hour-long call with me and we're gonna get you clear, crystal clear. What's up, Martina? How you doing? What is up? What is up? What is up? We actually got a special going on right now. We doing a 25% off deal until Friday, so if you're interested, inbox me and we could talk about that. Anybody got any questions about anything at all? How long have we been live? Let's see. And guys, if you don't have a golden ticket, you're missing out. Get you a golden ticket. Okay, we've been live 59 minutes. 59 minutes. 59 minutes. So we chilling? Are we complete? Clarity and calibration. Step one, step two, guys. Clarity. Get clear about what you want. Gotta know what you want. Gotta know what you want. It's not enough to know what you don't want. Look at what you don't want and say, what would I rather have? What would I rather have? So I get descriptive about what you want. Start spending time daily thinking about what you want, man. It could be 5 minutes. Yo, this is what I love about working on my mind. I can work on my mind in the bed. I can work on my mind in the couch— in the couch— on the couch. I could be on an airplane headed somewhere and work on my mind. Unlike working on my body, I ain't got to have no equipment. I ain't got to get down on the floor. I ain't got to get in no uncomfortable position. I can get as comfortable as I want and work on my mind. Take time daily. I'm telling you, you get your mind right, everything else falls in line, okay? You gotta get— you gotta get the mind right. You gotta discipline your imagination. If you could think it, you can do it. Can't think it, can't do it. So I'm about to land. If you haven't got your golden ticket, Go to iCoachBosses.com. You don't— you ain't gonna alter reality. You got— your job is to get clear and calibrate. Be clear about what you want and calibrate. The ideas will show up, but you, you want the ideas before you calibrate? That's not how it works. You got to get calibrated first. You got it. You got it. You got to get calibrated first because like what I'm hearing— and you type so I could be misinterpreting— but what I'm hearing is I'll get calibrated when the car show up. Unfortunately, the car ain't gonna show up till you get calibrated. So you can't wait on the car to show up to get calibrated. You got to start calibrating before the car show up. You got, you got to get calibrated before it— you got to get calibrated while the car is wherever the car is. Once you get calibrated to the fact that that's my car, it's like when you order something from Amazon. It ain't here yet, but you know it's on the way. It ain't physically here yet, but it's already en route. It's already around. That car is as good as on the way as it— man, I'm already excited. I'm already shopping for my seat covers. I already know what scent Nope. Knowing what you want is clarity. Calibration is its own individual step. It's like, I know medical school exists, but I'm not calibrated to going. I know the NBA exists, but I'm damn sure not calibrated to going. I'm 5'9 and I don't play basketball that well. Like, I know it's out— like, I know I'm clear that it's there. I'm not calibrated to going. Calibration is is deeper than a calibration is getting your endocrine system and your nervous system feeling like you already got it hormonally, chemically. I feel like I already got it. Like having is a state of being. Not having is a state of being. Like when people say have and not have, the haves and the have-nots, they think having and not having is a matter of what's going on out there. You can physically be in possession of something and hormonally and neurologically not have it. Like, you can physically have a pile of money in the bank and still be living in the state of, what if I file my taxes wrong and they take it? What if, what if my wife leaves me and she takes half? What if somebody sues me? What if, what if, what if I lose it? What if— like, you physically got the money, but hormonally and neurologically you don't have the money. Whereas you can physically be broke But chemically, neurologically, and hormonally, you can— man, I got a tax return on the way. I got a settlement coming, man. We got our Christmas bonus getting ready to land. I get paid Friday. Like, I ain't got it now, but on Friday I'm going to get— so physically the money is not there, but neurologically and hormonally, you're already in alignment with the money that you know is coming. So you're like, man, I got $50 to my name, but I only got to stretch it for 2 days. It's Friday, we, we balling out. So you see how that gives you something to latch on to? You gotta learn how to do that even when you're not certain. Like, let's say you get paid on Friday. If you can pay on Friday, you certain that it's coming that Friday. You got to learn how to manufacture that certainty on your own even when you don't know the means. And watch how the means show up when you learn how to do it. Because when you learn how to do that, now you way more influential, now you way more charismatic, now you feel good to be around. People want to be around you. People want to date you. People want to do business with you. People like being around people who feel good. When you learn how to feel good from the inside out instead of feeling good from the outside in, when you learn how to feel good despite what's going on out there, despite what they saying on CNN, you just know how to feel good. Because feeling good— you like the way you feel when you feel good. I feel good because I feel good. I don't feel good because my bank account full, but my bank account full because I feel good. I don't feel good because I'm healthy, but I am healthy because I feel good. I don't got people trying to date me because because I I mean I don't got people I don't feel good because people try to date me people trying to date me because I feel good stop putting conditions on feeling good feel good en route to the new car and watch out good ideas that'll get you to the car start finding you I'll feel good when my husband stops feel good despite what your husband doing and watch out. Like, when a person feels good, last thing you want to do is take them out of feeling good. But when a person already miserable and already complaining, you ain't really got no motivation to help them feel— you know, I can get your grouchy ass on the road. I'm leaving. I wish you would. You need some help packing? Get your grouchy ass complaining ass on somewhere. Don't nobody care. Bye. Yep. Get— well, we got to get that clarity right, because without clarity, you ain't got— you ain't got a damn thing to calibrate So don't rush the calibration. We got to get crystal clear. Like, if somebody came into my office and say, hey man, I want to quit smoking, I'm gonna say, cool, what you want? So I just told you I want to quit smoking. No, you, you, you want to smoke. You, you— what do you really— what do you want? My doctor said— I don't, bro, I don't care what your doctor said. What do you want? My wife said, your wife? I hear it is not hers. What do you want? And I'm gonna keep digging until he says something like, man, I got a— bro, I got a 3-year-old daughter. I know one day she gonna grow up, get married, graduate from high school, get walked down the aisle. She— I want to be there for that, man. I want to walk my daughter down the aisle one day. I want to be at my daughter's high school graduation. I want to be at my daughter's college graduation. I want to buy my daughter her first car. Oh, That's what you want. Let's get calibrated to that. When I get you calibrated to that, you're gonna put the cigarettes down on accident. Um, you're going to go into the module. So if you go into your email, you should have a login for the Golden Ticket. You're gonna log into that community and you're gonna go to the tab that says Lessons, and you're gonna see a lesson titled Clarity. And you're gonna take that Clarity course. It's 35 modules, but every— each module is short. But you're gonna take your time off. You're not gonna rush through it. You're gonna really take your time and answer the questions and do what it's telling you to do. Don't rush through Clarity. Sometimes people— like, I tell people to do, and they text me like 5 minutes later like, I'm done. I'm like, no, the fuck you're not. Like, No, it's like I send my son to clean his room, he come back 30 seconds later, Daddy, I'm finished. I seen that room. Go get that shit from under that bed and put it where it go. So don't, don't just do it to say you did. Like people go, I read Think and Grow Rich, I read Psycho-Cybernetics. I'm like, no, no you didn't, because the— you might have skimmed through it, but you, you didn't process it, you didn't embody it, you didn't Like, take your time. Do the clarity course. Go through it slowly. Take your time. Because like, people be— so like, I tell my son all the time, hey, hey son, sometimes the quickest way to get what you want is to slow the hell down. Sometimes the fastest way is to slow down. So are you so busy cutting corners and looking for shortcuts? You didn't did it 12 times. You could have did it right one time and we could And being where you want to be. Slow down. Do the clarity course, okay? Slow down. Because really, speeding and rushing through it is an energetic affirmation that I don't think it's gonna work, so I don't want to spend too much time on it. I don't believe it's gonna work. Why would I spend an hour doing it when I know it's not gonna work? It's an unspoken affirmation of lack. I know it's not gonna work, but let me do it anyway so I can say I did it. See, told you it wasn't gonna work. Well, see, you, you're a powerful manifester. slow down, take your time with it, invest in it, because you're gonna get out of it what you put into it. So put some energy into it, put some thought, put some, some love, put some care into it. All right, I'm gonna land. I love y'all, ain't a damn thing y'all can do about it. I might see y'all later today, but I'll certainly see you tomorrow. If you don't got your golden ticket, go to icoachbosses.com and get that. Get in the community, be active in the community. Being in the community and not using the community does