Coach Jay Shaw explains his 5C method for intentional thinking: Clarity on what you want, Calibration of your subconscious to match it, Confidence that follows naturally, Competence through skill-building, and Consistency in daily practice. Without clear intentions, external distractions hijack your attention and limit what you achieve.
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What's good? What's good? What's good? How y'all doing, man? Coach Jay in the building. I coach bosses. You can be, do, and have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. I say it all the time 'cause it's true all the time. When it stop being true, I'll stop saying it. Why you say the same thing every day? Look, if I was getting on here every day and saying something different, you shouldn't be listening to me. If my message was changing from day to day, you shouldn't be listening to me. I'm supposed to be consistent in what I say. What's up, Coach? You could be doing have anything you desire. If you could think it, you could do it. If you can't think it, you can't do it. But the good news is you can think it. You just got to get intentional with your thinking. You got to start thinking on purpose. You not an accident, and it's time to stop acting like an accident. You got to start moving with intention. You got to start thinking with intention. You got to start feeling with intention. You got to start hanging out with intention. I need you to start using TikTok with intention. There's so much valuable information on TikTok. There's so much valuable information on the internet, but you got to start living with intention to take control of the value. Let me tell you something, your intentions control your attention. And when you don't got clear intentions, other people control your attention. I'm gonna say it again, your, uh, your intentions, your goals, what you want out of life controls what you pay attention to. But if you're not taking time to get clear about what you want— thank you for the taps— if you're not taking time to get clear about what you want, you give other people control of your attention. You give other people control of your outcome. I'm a clinically trained hypnotist. Guess what's the first thing I do when I hypnotize somebody? Get their attention. Get their attention. If they don't have any intentions, guess what? It's very easy for me to get their attention. When they have intentions, guess what I gotta do? I gotta align my intentions with their intentions. I don't get access to their attention until I take care of their intentions. If I go downtown to do street hypnosis and I'm trying to do stuff like glue people to the ground and glue their eyes shut and make them forget their name and make them forget numbers, first thing I got to do is get their attention. But let's say they came downtown with an intention of networking. They didn't come downtown with the intention of getting hypnotized. They came downtown with the intention of networking. They came downtown with the intention of growing their business. When I say, hey, can I hypnotize you? They gonna say hypnotize? No. I say, what if? What you out doing tonight, man? I'm just came out to do a little networking. What if I can help you get unshakable confidence? What if I kept you walking in any room with your shoulders back, your chest out, and your head up, thinking clear positive thoughts? What if I could teach you to be a people magnet? Would you be interested in getting hypnotized then? Now that I've touched their intentions, now they willing to be like— they'd be like, yeah, man, I'm Coach J, man. I coach bosses. You should check me out sometime. Let me hypnotize you real quick. Now they willing to get hypnotized because I got in line with their Intentions, but if they didn't have clear-cut intentions when they left the house, as soon as I said, "Hey, come here, man. I'm gonna show you some cool hypnotize." They would they would have played into my intentions because they didn't have intentions of their own. Don't be walking through life without intentions of your own. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. You could be doing have anything you desire, but you got to take time to desire it. You got to spend more time desiring it than noticing the lack of it. You got to spend more time desiring it than noticing that it's not. There yet. You got to spend more time desiring it than being nervous, than being full of anxiety. You got to take time to desire what you want, and you can't really desire what you want until you know what you want. So I say all that to say, do you know what you want? Do you know what you want? I know you want some money. How much? I know you want to lose some weight. How much? I know you want to be happy, but if you woke up tomorrow and you were happy, how would you know? What type of body language would you have? What type of thoughts would you be thinking? What would you be doing then that you aren't doing now? You got to get clear about what what you want. And when you get crystal clear about what you want, you'll start moving towards it on accident. The reason you're not moving towards it, the reason you keep moving towards what you already got, is because it's familiar, because you think about it all the time. You got to quit thinking about what you don't want and start putting your undivided attention on what you would rather have. I teach these things called the 5 C's. If you know my work, you know the 5 C's. First C, clarity. You got to have clear vision and understanding of your goals. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. A lot of people get hung up on this first C. When I work with people with 5C, 5C could be a 5 to 10 month program. We spend that first month usually getting clarity. Yesterday I met a lady, she showed up, she had all the clarity. It was my first time ever seeing it. I've been doing this for damn near 2 decades. I met a lady yesterday, she had so much clarity, but she wasn't calibrated to the clarity. She knew what she wanted, she knew exactly what she wanted. She got big goals, she got them written down, but the goals were over there. And she was over here. So we in the process of calibrating her to her clarity. Calibration is all about getting you under the influence of your clarity. I appreciate the taps, man. Y'all running it up. I appreciate y'all. I love y'all. Ain't nothing y'all can do about it. If y'all keep tapping, I'm gonna keep talking and teaching and helping y'all get what you want out of life, man. You got to get calibrated to what you want. So let's talk about this. As you're going through life, you are a human. You are a creator. It's in your nature To notice things. It's in your nature to go, "Ooh, I like that. I don't like that. I love that. Come here. I don't like that." It's in your nature to notice things. Ain't nobody asking you not to notice what you don't like. What I'm asking you to do is not get hypnotized by what you don't like. You can't afford to. It's too expensive. I'm looking for my eraser. There we go. Let's see these teachings from earlier this week. So when you learn how to use this 5C method that we teach here, and I got a brand new community where I'm teaching 5C deeper. Anybody interested in joining the community, let me know at the end and I'll let you know how to find it. I ain't gonna tell you now 'cause you gonna leave us and go do that, and we need you here so you can get this, what we giving out now. Okay, so we got 5 Cs. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Okay. So this first C, uh, we gotta get a different marker. That one, Add markers to the shopping list, y'all. If I ever go live and I'm at the store and you catch me, be like, go get the markers, you need new markers. I don't want that color neither. Let's see if this one will do, and I want to write that different anyway. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. We've been teaching too much. I don't never use this brown color, so it should be full of ink. We've been going live too much. We ain't got all our markers trash now. One, two, three, four, five. So this first C is clarity. Clarity. Okay. Now, when I meet people, they all have clarity. But guess what? They have clarity in what they don't want. They don't have clarity in what they want. Read the bottom of it. Clear vision and understanding of one's goals and objectives. Most people, when I first meet them, they got a clear vision and understanding of what they Don't want. They come to their first session with me and go, "Man, I hate my job. I hate my job. My boss is doing this. It ain't no room for growth. I've been at this company for seven years. I haven't had one promotion. Who's at a company for seven years without one promotion? My performance is good. I'm on time here." And they talking, talking, talking, talking, talking, talking, talking about what they don't want. They got clarity about what they don't want. I said, "Okay, what would you rather have, man? If if this was a magic wand and I can." What would be different? They just sit there and look at me because they've never asked themselves the question, what do I want? Or if they do give me an answer, my boss would start doing this, my boss would start— look, your boss not in the session. I'm finna coach you. I'm finna work with you. If you want me to change your boss, you gotta get your boss in here. Your boss is not on my couch. You are. What do you want? And we usually just take that whole first session getting clear about what they want. If you get clear about what you want now and then call me, you'll save yourself a lot of money. You could get clarity on your own. I will help you, but you don't need me to get clarity. It's as simple as looking at what you don't like. I don't like this. I don't like this. I don't like this. And saying, well, what's the opposite of this? When you feel disrespected, I want to be respected. When I look in my bank account and I see lack of money, I want more money. If I look at the scale and I see a number that I don't like, do I want that number to go higher? Do I want that number to go lower? How much higher? How much lower? You got to start asking yourself, what would I rather have? When you arguing with your spouse, you got to— before you respond, if your spouse say something you don't like, before you respond, watch this. This is magical. What's up? What's up? What's up? Before you respond, this is magical. What would I rather have? I'd rather have peace. I'd rather have tranquility. I'd rather have humor. I'd rather have fun. The way I'm going to respond— who you talking to? Say it again. No, I'm just playing. Come here. Give me a kiss. But now, if I answer it from under the influence of what I don't want, I'm gonna match their energy. You guys don't ask yourself, "What would I rather have?" And then respond in the life. You gotta start asking yourself, "I see that." Now I can stay under the influence of that. You gotta stop getting hypnotized on accident because that's what's really happening. Like people, let me explain. We're gonna come back to this. I want to explain y'all what hypnosis is because people don't know what hypnosis is. They think they do, but they don't. For those of you who don't know, my background is in clinical hypnotherapy. I've been doing hypnosis for about two decades. But let's talk about what hypnosis is. Hypnosis is a. I gotta get some new markers. There we go. Hypnosis is a three-step process, and we refer to as A, B, S. Step one, get their attention. Funny how that word keeps coming up. Step 2, bypass the critical mind. Bypass the critical mind. Step 3, stimulate the subconscious. Stimulate the subconscious. All right, so get their attention, bypass critical mind, stimulate the subconscious. That's the recipe for hypnosis. So let's say I come and I bring you some flowers. Get your attention. Say, hey, watch some flowers. Box one check. Now you already have different associations for flowers. You already have different meanings for flowers. When I get you attaching those meanings to the flowers, I bypass your critical mind, and you go, oh, you made my day. I changed how you feel. I stimulated your subconscious. That's hypnosis. Yeah, you track it with me? If I call you out your name, if I say you stupid B-I-T-C-H. The 4 ideas that I had to get your attention. You already got meanings, you already got associations to that word. As soon as you start assigning your associations to that word, I bypass your critical mind, then that's going to change the way you feel. I stimulated your subconscious. I hypnotized you. I said something, you processed it, you feel different. That's hypnosis. Some people go, don't hypnotize me. You are already hypnotized. You are already being programmed, whether you want to or not. I suggest you start getting hypnotized on purpose. I suggest you start consciously picking what you give your attention to, consciously picking what you're going to assign definition to. Let me tell you something, what other people think don't matter. I need you guys to keep tapping the screen. Now, what you think about what they think, that's what matters. People are like, when people find out I'm a hypnotist, they go, I don't want to be hypnotized. Like, how could I stop somebody from hypnotizing me? Don't give them your attention. The only way to stop me from hypnotizing you is to not give me your attention. Like when I'm downtown doing street hypnosis, people go, man, I don't mess with that. I don't want to be hypnotized. You better quit talking to me. Quit. If you don't want to be hypnotized, don't talk to me. If you give me your attention, I'm going to influence you. Every time somebody says something, you have no choice, but no response is still a response. And a good hypnotist knows what to do with no response. It's impossible to— like if you know how to read, it's impossible To look at this and not read it because you know how to read. So if you give your attention to it, you're going to read it. The only way to not read it, the only way to not be influenced by it, is to take your attention off of it. I need you to stop paying attention to what you don't want. Pay attention long— pay attention to it long enough to ask yourself, what would I rather have? Then I want you to put your attention on what you would rather have so that that can bypass your critical mind and that can stimulate your chutzpah. Your subconscious. When you change the way you feel, you'll change the way you think and act on purpose. Stop trying to change the way you act. You don't got to change the way you act. Just change the way you feel. I don't need you to go out here and try to be successful. I need you to learn how to feel successful. When you feel successful, you automatically reach for different books. When you start feeling successful, you will automatically be disinterested in certain conversations. When you start feeling successful, you automatically start applying for different jobs. You automatically start opening yourself up for opportunities. You don't got to try to do it. It's the result of Feeling successful, but when you feel like a failure, when you feel like the type of person that can't do anything right, but you try to force yourself to go get a better job, you try to force yourself to go read these books and go have these. It's a it's a vibrational mismatch. It's not gonna work. You got to change the way you feel so that you can change the way you think so that you can act different on accident. We rolling today. Any questions? Keep keep listening. Keep tapping. Keep listening. Keep tapping. Now I got a community. Where I upload these videos and I hook y'all up with all types of resources. If we can get to 10,000 likes by the end of the live, I'm gonna be letting everybody into the community for absolutely free. Anybody got any questions about anything that we talking about? You can be, do, and have anything that you desire, but you got to pay attention to it so that it can bypass your critical mind so that it can stimulate your subconscious. You got to understand that your subconscious mind is 98% of your thinking potential. I need everybody tapping. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. The taps are like clapping. If if if if I'm saying something clap worthy, if I'm saying something that's firing you up, I need you tapping the screen. It keeps us on the for you page. Let's get on the for you page so as many people can get this message as possible. Okay, so you can be doing have anything you desire, anything you desire, but it's so much easier when you got a process to follow. It's so much easier when you got a process to follow. The process that we teach in here is what we call the five C method. Now we were going through it. I got sidetracked. So let's Take it back to 5C. First is clarity. Can't get what you want until you know what you want. The example that I always use is imagine if you got in a taxi and you just started telling the driver a list of places you didn't want to go. Don't take me to the mall. I hate the mall. Don't take me there. I don't eat that. Don't take me to the post office. I don't got nothing to mail. Don't take me to church. I don't do churches. I don't like church. Don't take me to the library. I already What is the driver gonna do with a list of places that you don't want to go? You got to get clear about what you want. You got to get in the car and say, hey, take me to 1600 Blueberry Lane. Yeah, it's gonna be a big blue building, man, right over there. My parking spot, 3rd one to the right, can't miss it. Yep, right here. You need to tell the driver exactly where you want to go. Now, after you tell the driver where you want to go, guess what he gonna do? He probably gonna put it in a GPS. If it's not somewhere he know exactly where it is, he probably gonna put it in his GPS. Him putting it in the GPS is him calibrating to where you want to go. And guess what? He's not gonna say, well, why are you going over there? What? Why are you not going over here? Where were you before you got here? He gonna take you directly where you tell him to calibrate to. I want you to look at the driver of this taxi as your subconscious mind. If you give your subconscious mind It's going to calibrate to your destination. You're not the driver, but you are in control of where the car goes. Let me say that again. You're not driving the car, but you're in the back seat, and the driver of the car is taking instructions from you. Get the driver calibrated to where you want to go. Look at the— look at what calibration is: getting under the influence of your clarity. I don't want you to be under the influence of the lack of your clarity. The reason most people never get what they want is because they're under the influence of the lack of what they want, not the having of it. They calibrate it to the lack of what they want. And they go, I think about it all the time. I do my affirmations. Yeah, you doing affirmations, but you doing affirmations from under the influence of what you don't want. Now, this is the 3rd step, confidence. Once you in this taxi, right, and you see the driver getting closer to where you want to go, okay, he got— he got— you notice that you getting closer, you get confident on accident. A lot of times people try to force confidence. Confidence is not something you can force. Confidence is something that shows up when you start to notice evidence of you getting closer. Confidence is something that happens when you look back and you see that growth. You get confidence through getting started. But let me tell you something, you never get confidence without clarity and calibration. Confidence is what happens when you marry these 2 together. Confidence is what happens when you put clarity and calibration together. If you don't ever put clarity and calibration together, you don't get confidence. You got to look at what confidence is. Confidence is your belief in your potential to achieve a specific outcome. If you don't get clarity about the outcome and calibrate to it, how do you get confident? People come, I don't got confidence. What you mean you don't got confidence? Right now you got confidence in your lack of confidence. What you missing is clarity. You got to understand, you always confident in something. You don't not have confidence, right? You are confident. Man, I don't got discipline. You disciplined in something. It's something that you doing religiously. What you're missing is clarity. What you're doing is you haven't gave the driver the address of where you want to go. So you're doing what you always doing. So you having what you always have and you feeling like you always felt. And you caught up in what we call a failure loop. You caught up in what we call a failure loop. But the way that you get into the success loop is you get clear about what you— I don't like my current living situation. I'm currently making about $4,000 a month and it's just not enough. It's not enough. My rent and my bills eat up more than half of that. By the time I go grocery shopping, And put gas in the car, man, I'm struggling. Then I don't get paid for another 2 or 3 weeks. I don't like this. What would I rather have, man? I'd rather have— like, really, $7,000 a month is where I need to be. Write that down. $7,000 a month is where I need to be. Now, you don't gotta force the idea for the $7,000. You just need to start focusing on the $7,000 a month. The same way you didn't have to try to feel nervous, the same way you didn't have to try to feel uneasy, the same way you didn't have to try to panic When you knew it wasn't enough, just focusing on not enough created behavior in your nervous system. When you just start focusing on the abundance, when you start putting your attention on what you want so that it can bypass your critical mind and stimulate your subconscious, when you get hypnotized by that $7,000, what's gonna happen is you're gonna just start having aha moments. Like, wait a minute, I haven't turned on that PlayStation in 6 months. I can get a cool little $200 for that. You know what? I did used to do yards back in the day. I got a ride moment. I can knock out 2 yards a weekend and charge them $50. That's an extra $100 a weekend. That's an extra $400. You just going to start noticing ideas when you get under the influence of what you want. That's the calibration piece. Now, the confidence piece is going to happen when it's 2 months later and you go, wait a minute, 2 months ago I was making $4,000 a month. Now I'm making $5,000 a month. I stretched my income by $1,000 in just a month. Wait a minute, I might do know what I'm doing. Then the confidence gonna start. And then that's when we get to step 4, competence. Competence is developing the skills to achieve your goals. I underlined this for a reason. Step 4 is not step 1. This is step four. Now, when you got the confidence rolling, now you can start thinking on purpose. Now you can start brainstorming. I don't want you brainstorming before that confidence show up because what you finna do is talk yourself out of it. If you came to me and said, "Hey, Coach Jay, I want you to help me lose 100 pounds," I'm not sending you to Planet Fitness tomorrow. I'm not telling you to stop eating carbs tomorrow. I'm gonna say, "Okay, you want to lose 100 pounds? What size shirt do you want to wear?" What size jeans do you want to wear? What size dress do you want to wear? Okay, you got a scale in your bathroom? Describe the scale to me that you got in your bathroom. Okay, you got one of them fancy scales. Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. I want you to imagine standing on that scale in the body that you want to be. Look down. What number do you see? Okay, how do you feel as you look at that number? And this is the crazy thing, just as I'm asking you those questions, your shoulders are going to naturally Your chest gonna naturally start going out. Your confidence gonna start going up in the body that you sitting in. You don't gotta wait in a new body to change your body language. You don't gotta wait on a new body to change what your nervous system is doing. I'm gonna get you clear about what you want, 'cause wanting to lose some weight is not the same thing as saying, I wanna lose 40 pounds. I wanna wear a large in shirts. I wanna wear a 34 in jeans. Man, it's this one tracksuit that I got that I wanna wear, but I don't like the way I look. I wanna put that on and be comfortable. I wanna be at the beach with my shirt off. That's right. Like now, when I get you calibrated to that, when I teach you how to feel that way no matter what's in front of you, then I'm gonna send you to Planet Fitness. And it's not gonna be, oh man, I gotta go to Planet Fitness. Oh man, let me get to Planet Fitness, my new body is waiting on me. Then I'm gonna tell you to stop eating carbs, but it's not gonna be, oh man, I love bread, but I love this new body more. I love this image more. You got to get clear, calibrated, and confident, and then I want you to Taking action, and when you follow this process, you taking what we call inspired action. It's not something that you got to do; it's something that you get to do. I don't got to be on live right now. I get to be on live right now. We getting ready to go set up our campsite in a few hours. I got other stuff I could be doing, but I'm calibrated to coaching people all over the world. I'm calibrated to working with high performers. I'm calibrated to reminding people they could be doing have anything they desire. So I want to go live for a little bit because I might not be able to go live over the next. day or two. It's not something I gotta do, it's something that I get to do. I'm gonna get in the gym before I go camping, not because I got to, but because I want to. The way that I use my mind dictates how I use my body. I learned a long time ago I cannot control my body. What I can do is control my mind, and my mind will control my body. I can program my mind that I am successful. I can program my mind that I love working out. I can program my mind That I'm this type of person that does these types of things, and now it's in my nature. Like, think about it. For sure, for sure. Deliverance in a box. I might have to steal that, Brittany. I might have to steal that. Put her on the marketing team. Deliverance in a box. Okay, I like that. Think about it. You like what you like. Let's look at it in terms of dating and stuff. If you see somebody you attracted to, you ain't got to try to be attracted to them. You see them, you go, God. Damn. Hey, like you don't gotta try to be attracted to them. Imagine if you was attracted to your goal. When you see something to get you closer to it, you ain't gotta talk your— you want to do it. You attracted to it. We gotta get you attracted to your goal. And the dope thing is when you get attracted to your goal, you're gonna realize your goal is attracted to you. You gotta do the work of getting attracted to your goal. And it's just like a marriage. Like a marriage is work because y'all gotta do the work to stay in love with each other, to stay intimate with each other. Y'all gotta realize, like, as you're going through it, y'all gonna grow and y'all gonna change. And the person you met 5 years ago is not the person that you dating 5 years later. The person that you met 5 years ago is not the person that you married to 10 years later. They change, and you gotta take time to fall in love with every version of that person. It's the same way with your goal. Your goal gonna grow. Your goal gonna morph into something different. When I first started coaching, when I first started doing what I do, I thought that my target audience was gonna be Black men. As I got started, I realized that Black women were way more interested in what I do than Black men were. So I morphed with the goal. I changed with the goal. But the crazy thing happened as we picked up momentum and my reputation started to build. And with Black women, word got out. Everybody these days, everybody want to work with me, man. My client list is people from all ethnicities, all age ranges. Like, sometimes I look at my client list and I go, how did you find me? How did you find me? But you got to grow with your goal, and you got to do the work of staying calibrated. That's why the last C is consistency. That's why the last C is consistency. You don't get clarity once; you get clarity every day. I've been doing what I do for two decades. I'm still getting clarity. I got a brand new program that we just pushed out two days ago. I got a brand new community that I ain't even got nobody in yet because last week I got something new. Clarity. Like, you feel like, man, it's not work— it's working, you just never done with it. So you looking for a feeling of completion that you never gonna get. You are human. You came here to grow. You came here to expand. You always gonna desire more. You are a creator. It's in your nature to create. You were sent here to become more. You were sent here to expand. So I need you to stop chasing this feeling of completion and just grow. Like, if you can make a vow to yourself to get 1% better every day I just want to be 1% better every day. On the surface, 1% might not sound like a lot. Would be hectic for me. We got money coming in as I'm talking to y'all. I love it. I'm prepared to try your therapy next week. Would be hectic for me, but depending on your— we don't try, we do. So we got to get him right. We're going to get him right. The world is a video game and you got a lot more control over the video game than you think. You could be, do, and have anything you desire, but you got to take time to desire it. Like, listen to that statement. I didn't say you could be, do, and have anything. I said you could be doing, have anything you desire. I ain't say you could be doing, have anything you fear. I ain't say you could be doing, have anything you anxious of. I could say you could be doing, have anything you nervous about having. I could say you can be doing, have anything you pouting and throwing a fit about not having. I said you could be doing, have anything you desire. What does desire mean? If if you if there's somebody in your life who desires you, how can you tell? You ever been desired by somebody, or have you ever desired somebody? When you desire somebody, what type of thoughts are you thinking about them? Are you moving toward them or away from them? Are you doing things to get— things to get you closer to them, or things to get you further away from them? When you desire somebody— I ain't saying when you nervous about losing them. I ain't saying when you worried that they might be doing things. I say when you— when you sitting in pure desire, what does that look like? I want them. You could be doing have anything you desire. Are you taking time? First off, do you know what you want? And once you know what you want, are you taking time to desire what you want? Are you taking time to desire what you want? I desire for you guys to tap the screen. I desire for everybody here to share this live to about five people. I desire if you haven't already for you to hit that follow button. I desire that. I want that. That's gonna make me smile. That's gonna help me feel good. That's gonna bring more people into the room. I desire us to have. Have a room full of people. I desire to expand beyond my wildest imaginations. What's up, J-Mo? Are you taking time to desire what you want? Something funny happens when you start to desire. You'll realize it feels like things are working behind your back to work out for you. I got some screen recordings from a coaching call we did on Wednesday. What's today? Yeah, today Friday. That was Wednesday. I got some screen recordings from a coaching call we did on Wednesday. That I'm gonna be uploading on TikTok, and it was people in the community talking about I went to Dubai for this reason, and I just met this person. And like if I would have got there a minute later, I wouldn't have ran into this person. But now we're going to be selling my products in Dubai. These were people who joined our community maybe two months ago, and was kind of like a fish out of water. But through getting clarity, people don't realize seventy-five percent of what I do as a coach, seventy-five percent of what I do as a hypnotherapist is help people get clear about what they want. Once you get like Once you have real clarity, not like, ah, it'd be nice to have— once you get real clarity, you don't really need my help. There's things I can do to speed up the process and help you calibrate quicker, but once you know what you want, it's in your nature to move towards it. If you go to the car dealership today and you get a brand new car, you think somebody's going to have to convince you to drive that brand new car that's faster, that's cleaner, that smells better, that got better gas mileage, that look better? You think anybody got— you think you got to get hypnotized? You think you got to get influenced to drive this new car? No. Do you think you just want to drive this new car? If you get a clear picture in your mind of the life you want, if you, if you get this clear picture in your mind of the life you want, not the life that you don't want, but if you get this clear picture in your mind of the life you want— I want my mornings to look like this, I want my days to be with ease, I want to have this much time with my children— if you get this clear picture in your mind of what you want and convince yourself that that's possible, you can have it. You don't— it's— you tend to want to do the things to close the gap. The example that we always use, if I do a competition and I give away $500,000 and you win that competition, I say, hey, congratulations, you won the competition, but you got to be in my office in Dallas, Texas by 5 PM tomorrow to get your money. If you know it's $500,000 waiting for you in Dallas, Texas, do you think you would be able to figure out how to get here in 24 hours? For sure, for sure. Do you think you would need a pep talk? Do you think you would need encouragement? Do you think you would care what your mama thought? What if your mama was like, I don't like Dallas, you was born in there, I took you out of that. Mama, we'll talk when I get back. It's $500,000 waiting for me in Dallas. I will be back. The reason you are willing to go to Dallas is because you know exactly what you stand to gain. and you know it's something that's worth the journey. If it was $1,000, it might not be worth the journey. If it was $2,000, it might not be worth the journey. But for $500,000, you gonna figure out how to get your butt in Dallas, Texas. If you got a book in your mind and you can convince yourself that this book is gonna change lives, this book gonna change the people's lives who read it, this book gonna change my life, this book gonna change my kids' life. This book is a New York Times bestseller. It's thousands of thousands of thousands of hundreds of thousands of dollars attached to this book. If you can get your mind wrapped around that, and you really believe that, you think you're going to have a hard time sitting down to write that book? Or you think you're going to be like, oh shit, I got to feed my kids. I got so wrapped up in the book, I had forgot that I had other stuff to do. The problem is, like, when people call me and they go, man, I'm struggling with procrastination, I already know that it's one of two things going on. Either they don't want it, they think they want it, they saw it on TikTok, people around them telling them they should want it. If you a man at this age, you should have this thing, you should drive this type of car. Other people told them they should want it, they don't really want it. Rolexes don't move me. I mean, it'll be nice to have, but a Rolex ain't gonna get me out of bed in the morning. I prefer my Apple Watch. It's— this does everything I need it to do and more. Rolexes don't move me. Now, if I'm using the Rolex as my motivation, I'm not gonna be motivated because I'm going after something that I don't want. I'm going after something that I saw on TV. I'm going after something that other people want. What I want is I want freedom. I want control of my day. I want to wake up when I want to wake up. I want to go to bed when I want to go to bed. I want the option to choose. Sometimes I do a consultation with somebody and I go, I do not want to talk to you once a week. Here go a list of my friends that might— I don't want to talk to you once a week. I don't like seeing clients in the morning. When you go on my website to schedule a session or to schedule a consultation, it's impossible for you to book anything before 11 AM. I don't want to talk to anybody before 11 AM, and if I do, I want it to be by will. I want it to be because I chose to. But that, that's what clarity looks like. It was a time where I thought I wanted to be booked and busy until I got booked and busy. I don't want to be booked and busy. I don't want one person walking out and one person— I want to see 2, maybe 3 people a day. I want the type of freedom— I had a session yesterday, we went an hour and a half overtime. We were flowing, we were vibing, they had clarity, it was growing, source was flowing. I say, hey, you good on time? You got anywhere to be? Okay, let's keep going. I want that type of— I want to have a real— I want to get to know my clients. I won't— I won't— so I ain't gonna say so few clients because in our communities we push hundreds of people into the community, but the people who sit down with me one-on-one, I want to remember their kids' name. How Justin doing, man? He good? How he did in this play? Ah, man, that's dope. I don't want to be booked and busy and flowing, but I had to get booked and busy to realize I didn't want to be booked and busy. So sometimes people— I don't know what I want, man. What's your best guess? What's your best guess? If we start heading that way and you realize that ain't what you want, we can always write something else down. But I need you to write something else down. Bible make it plain: without a vision, the people perish. What's your vision? What's your vision? You have not because you ask not. But how you gonna ask when you don't know what you want? How you gonna ask when you don't know? You ever been in a relationship with somebody who they want you to guess say what they want? You like, I don't know what you want. What do you want? If you just tell me, I'll do it. That's your subconscious mind. What do you want? If you just tell me, I will move you toward it. I won't. I won't. I want freedom. I want growth. I want expansion. At the end of the day, when I sit down and close my eyes, I want to feel like I did some things that matter. I want my kids to see me being a leader. I want my kids to see me moving freely through the world. I want my kids to see me earning large amounts of money using this. I'm constantly telling my son, man, listen, you can work hard or you can think hard. I'm a thinker. I love thinking. I love building things, not with my hands. I love building Systems. I love building processes. I love reminding. I don't even want to teach. I want to remind. But I need you to sit down and get. What is it? I need you to sit down and put these out of order. I need you to get clarity about what you want. I need you to get clarity about what you want. Well, let me rephrase that. You need you to get clarity about what you want because you're not having clarity. Like it's not gonna, you know, stop my show. But you, you want to get clarity about what you want, even if you think you don't. I promise you, you want to get clarity about what you want so that you can calibrate to it, so that you can get confident. That confidence that you looking for— think about the people that you know who you consider to be confident. I guarantee you this, they got clarity. The people that you know, you look and go, wow, they confident. I guarantee you this, they got clarity about they want. And they so wrapped up in what they want that when they walk in a room, they so wrapped up in where they headed that they ain't really got time to wonder what you thinking about. They so wrapped up in, in they business. They so in their own business, they ain't really got no attention left for your business. So they don't care what you think about them because they clear and they calibrated to what they want. Like, when you look at people who really work out, who really go to the gym— like, when I go to the gym and I see these dudes that's Like Jack, bro, when they hit the gym, you could be standing right beside them and they not going to know you there. They so calibrated to what's going on. They ain't worried about what nobody else think. They at work, they might have some music going. That's about the only thing. They get in this zone and they just in there working. When you watch somebody who— like when I'm writing blog posts or I'm coding and building things for my website, You could walk in the room, and when I'm really in my bag, man, I will not know you in there because I'm so calibrated to what's in front of me that I don't got time to second-guess. I don't got time to fear. I'm in my own little pocket. But before you can get in that pocket, you gotta have this. Let me tell you something. You can't get this— give you time to read it— you can't get this without this. What is it? But if you get this and sit with this, you will accidentally get this. You can't consciously create confidence. That's false. If you created it consciously, it's not real. Okay? Confidence is the outpour of stage one. And stage 2. If you do these 2, you ain't got no choice but to be confident. You ain't got no choice but to be confident. You can be, do, or have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you could think it, you could do it. If you could think it, you could do it. You can think it, but you're gonna have to take control of your thinking. You gotta quit thinking on accident. You're not an accident. I need you to get super intentional. I need you to get intentional with your life. I need you to ask yourself, what do I want? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Have you ever asked yourself, what do I want? And are y'all in the community? Are y'all in the Dreams in Action community, man? We gotta get y'all in there. If you're not in there, you missing out. And I got another brand new community. I ain't even got nobody in there yet. The 5C community. We got a— the way we doing 5C is we got a free group, and then I got another group that we charge $99 a week for. And in that group, I get live on Zoom with them twice a week, and we do actual one-on-one coaching, and they get access to some other resources. But anybody who wants to get in either community, if you go to my Linktree— um, I changed my Linktree yesterday. I'm trying to remember what I changed it to. Give me a second. If you go to my Linktree, I think it say— I ain't gotta guess at it, and I just gonna grab my iPad and take a quick look. Give me a second. And if you're an entrepreneur, if you're somebody who looking at growing online and you want to grow a digital brand, you need to get on the software. Um, what am I doing? Going to TikTok, going to my profile. So boom, if we go to the link in my profile, let me see which choice it is, and you click on Join the 5C Growth Accelerator, it's the second one down. If you click on Join 5C Growth Accelerator, that's going to take you to a sign-up page where you can sign up to the community. Now I'm telling you, the community is brand new. I got a welcome video in there, and I'm gonna be slowly putting TikTok replays in there. But, um, I think it'll be cool, especially if you're the type of person that eventually want to build your own community or even already have your own community. Like, because a lot of people missed out on the luxury of watching DNA grow from the ground up. We started DNA on Juneteenth, and a few months later, that thing got over 200 people in it. And if you want to see how we did it, getting in this community early will give you a ground floor seat into how we did it. So I love being a part of young new communities because you get to be kind of like one of the founding members. And when it's full of people, you get to, you know, have that knowing that, man, I was one of the first people here. And you get a type of access to me in the community while it's that small that you never gonna have again once we grow that thing to what we know it's gonna do. What's going on, Doran? So anybody who want to get in there, click the link in the bio and join the free 5C community. And guys, it's a quiz that you could take on my Linktree. It's called the free clarity assessment, and it's gonna let you know how Clear you are, because sometimes I'll meet people. I go, "Do you got clarity about what you want?" They go, "Yeah." They start telling me. I'm like, "Bro, it's a lot of holes in it." You take that quiz; it's gonna give you an actual percentage of how clear you are. And we're gonna put this on a few other platforms that don't got access to my Linktree. So if you're watching this on one of our other platforms, if you go to iCoachBosses.com/tap in, it'll take you to my Linktree. I Coach Bosses. Like that, because I coach bosses. You get it? Icoachbosses.com/tapin. T-A-P-I-N. That way our people on YT and IG and all these other channels, they can be able to join in on the resources as well. But y'all, I'm complete for today. I'm gonna hang out for a minute in case anybody got any questions. I just said what I gotta say. Now I'm just gonna kick it with y'all for a minute. What's going on, Future? How y'all doing? Welcome, welcome, welcome. I also want to take a moment to say, look, I love y'all and ain't a thing y'all could do about it. It is non-negotiable. Look, it ain't no strings attached. Look, I, I done learned to love people that I don't even like. Like, I love you, just stay over there. Let me love you from over there. And I suggest you guys adopt that, man. Love everything and everybody around you. I You love you, Jay. ain't gotta entertain them. You ain't gotta give your attention to them, but love them. Love them, love them, love them. You can love them and ignore them. You can love them and ignore them. Take too much energy to hate, and you mess up your own calibration when you hate. You move through them first three C's so much quicker with love. That clarity, that calibration, and that confidence—it lock in so much quicker when you operating in love. Hate slow everything down. Down. It slow everything down. Hate ain't nothing within itself. It's really just the absence of love. Sparkle some love in there. Love change things, man. That's one of the— like when I'm working with salesmen and teaching them how to sell more, one of the first things I— man, look, ain't no amount of hypnosis, ain't no amount of NLP, ain't no amount of reverse psychology gonna outperform you selling something that you love. You selling something that you really believe in. Don't sell nobody nothing that you wouldn't sell to your own mama. And it ain't selling. Like, honestly, when people do a consultation with me and they don't book, it's a part of me to feel sorry for them. Like, man, you missing out. Like, you sure? All right. Like, I'm not like, oh man, I missed the sale. Oh man, you missed the opportunity. But I really, I believe in what I do. I know what I do work. I've seen it work thousands of times. I know, like, I know, like, I know what I put into what goes on over here. So yeah, I don't feel like I'm missing out when somebody don't book with me. I feel like, all right, man, good luck. Good luck. But it don't seem like anybody got any questions. I love y'all. Ain't a thing y'all can do about it. I'm about to land. Yo, if y'all need anything, inbox me, tap in on one of the sites, get in the communities. If you're not in the Dreams in Action community, you're missing out, especially if you're an entrepreneur or you want to be an entrepreneur. You need to be in the Dreams in Action community. If you, um, want to just go deeper on the 5C process and the creation process and the high performance, you need to be in the 5C Growth Accelerator program. And if you're looking for an extra source of income, you want to put some extra money in your pocket, We are allowing people to resell our Dreams in Action software. Dreams— not Dreams in Action, our Dream Engine software. Dream Engine is what I use to build everything. All 15 of my sites are built on the Dream Engine. All of my funnels on the Dream Engine. If you're on my email list and you get emails from me and you get text messages from me, all of that is managed in the Dream Engine. And it's something that I set up once and it runs on autopilot. So if you're interested in having some stuff like that, If you call my business while I'm live or while I'm in a session, you're gonna talk to this AI voice and it's really good. It's gonna find out what you need, it's gonna get your name, it's gonna get your information, it's gonna text me and put me in the loop if I— if it's something I need to call you back for. All of that is Dream Engine stuff. So if you interested in using the Dream Engine or reselling the Dream Engine, then, um, we let people resell it at a 40% commission. So Tap in with me. We got something for everybody, man. I love y'all. I'll see y'all probably Monday. We finna get ready to go camping. I might dip in here and there, but I'm gonna see y'all. See y'all probably on Monday. We gonna do this again. See y'all later, man.
