Most people bring wish lists to coaching, not real goals. Before you set anything, you need mental clarity, alignment with reality, and confidence. Goals formed while stressed or unclear become escape plans from a bad job or relationship, not actual aspirations.
Like the goals that people come into my office with, I'm gonna be honest with you. In my mind, that first set of goals you come up with, I say blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Those aren't even goals. That's a wish list for the version of you that doesn't have. Let's get you clear, calibrated, and confident. Then we'll set goals. The goals you set when you unclear, uncalibrated, and confident—I mean, and confident and unconfident. That's not, that's not your real goal. That's what you believe is going to— that's your life jacket from what you don't want. That's your escape plan from this job that you hate, from this relationship. Let's get you clear, calibrated, and confident. Let's get you in your parasympathetic nervous system. Then we'll talk about what you want.
