In this extensive livestream, Coach Jay (Jay Shaw) delivers a high‑energy motivational session that reframes failure as mere feedback and asserts that the only real limitation is one’s own imagination. He introduces a structured mindset system he calls the "5 C's"—Clarity, Calibration, Confidence, Competence, and Consistency—explaining how each stage builds on the previous to create lasting change. Jay stresses the importance of focusing on what you truly desire rather than the problem that generated the desire, describing how the subconscious mind, filtered through the critical mind, either blocks or attracts ideas. He illustrates these concepts with personal anecdotes (pivoting a cleaning business to a disinfecting service during COVID, weight‑loss client breakthroughs, and his own military experience) and practical coaching tactics (visualization, sense‑based manifestation, 1% daily improvement, the Be‑Do‑Have ordering). Throughout, he offers concrete actions: clarify goals, calibrate focus, generate confident internal dialogue, and take inspired action, while warning against over‑analysis and negative focus. The session ends with a call to join his Dreams in Action community, take a clarity quiz, and apply the presented framework to achieve any desired outcome.
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What's good? What's good? What's good? Great morning. How y'all feeling, man? Get on in here. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about the fact that you could be, do, and have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is you. Can't nothing stop you but you. Can't nothing stop you but you. The sooner that you realize you could be, do, and have anything you desire, the sooner that you realize there's no such thing as failure. It's just feedback that you didn't like. That's all failure is, is feedback that you didn't like. Now, are you gonna let the feedback give you information to help you adjust and keep going, or are you gonna tap out? Because it wasn't failure until you decided to give up. But when it happened, that wasn't failure, that was feedback. Are you gonna take the feedback and keep moving forward? You could be doing half anything you desire. Good. If you could think it, you could do it. If you can't think it, you can't do it. But you can think it. Are you willing to discipline your thinking? Are you willing to say, I don't like this, I would rather have that, and focus on that? Stop focusing on the thing that created the desire and focus on the desire. Stop, stop focusing on the situation that caused you to give birth to the desire and focus on the desire. You are a creator. Creating is in your nature. You can't not create. I suggest you start creating on purpose. Since you're going to be creating anyway, you might as well get intentional. You might as well set some goals. You might as well know where you would like to be since you're creating anyway. Since you don't have a choice in the matter and you got to create, you might as well create what you want. You might as well create what you want. You could be doing half anything, and I'm gonna say it hundreds of times because it's true— anything. Anything. Your only limit is your own imagination. Only thing you can't do is a thing you can't think. And when you first start thinking, you might only think it for a little while. That's okay. Think it for a little while. Momentum will ensue. Think it for a little while. One second turns into two seconds. Two seconds turns into three seconds, and it just keeps doubling and tripling and quadrupling, and it keeps growing. You got to learn how to control your focus. You trying to learn how to control your weight. You trying to learn how to control your money. You trying to learn how to control your everything else except the thing that you need. To learn how to control. You need to learn how to control your focus. You act according to what you focus on. When you focus on what you don't want, you procrastinate, you get anxious, you get nervous, you tend to stop taking action. You got to start focusing on what you desire. You got to control your thinking. Control your thinking. You got to clean up that sloppy thinking. You got to clean up that sloppy thinking. Sloppy thinking gives birth to sloppy action. Sloppy action gives birth to sloppy results. And then you notice the sloppy results and go, see, I told you. And while you're focusing on those sloppy results, you go and try again. Then you do get some more sloppy results. You go, see, I told you. Okay, let's start thinking. Let's pause, breathe, and think different. Let's pause, breathe, and think different. What do you want? I want you to start taking action from under the influence of what you desire. I want you to quit running from things and start running towards what you desire. Because when you're running away from something, you, you're not aiming for nothing. You're just getting away from what you're running from. When you're running towards something, you're gonna naturally escape whatever it is back there that you don't like. But you're not just escaping it by running in random zigzags. You're escaping it and getting closer to where you want to be. You could be doing, have anything you desire, but you got to get intentional with your thinking. You are not an accident. You are not an accident. And it's time to stop living like an accident. I want you to start living life on purpose. Now, living life on purpose is going to require you to have some goals. Living life on purpose is going to require you to have some core values. Living life on purpose is going to require you to stop thinking like you've been thinking and to start getting super intentional What you're thinking. What do you want? That's the first question we gotta ask. What do you want? As I coach people and as I work with people all over the world, I realize that most people don't know what they want. They know what they don't want. They know what they don't want to happen. They know what they don't want to have. But when you say, okay, what would you rather have? Most people have no idea. What do you desire? Because you can have it. Believe me when I tell you, you can have anything that you desire. What's up, CeCe? The only thing that can stop you is your own imagination. If you could think it, you could do it. If you could hold it in your head, you can hold it in your hands. But if you can't hold it in your hands, you ain't got to worry about holding it in your head. If you can't hold it in your head, you don't got to worry about holding it in your hands because you never will. What do you want that business to look like? How much money do you want that business to generate? How many days a week do you want to work? What do you want. Then when you know what you want, only thing you got to do is start thinking about what you want. Only thing you got to do is start thinking about what you want, and the desire will create the rest of the plan. What you mean, Jay? I mean that the desire is the seed. We always talk about the acorn and how the oak tree is inside of the acorn. Everything that you want is inside of your desire. You got to plant The desire. I didn't come up with I coach bosses. I didn't come up with dreams in action. I didn't come up with big abundant. I didn't come up with abundant living coaching hypnosis. I came up with a desire to make a certain amount of money a month. I came up with a desire to live a certain lifestyle. And as I started to focus on that desire, ideas started finding me. I coach bosses. I like that. Let me see, is that domain available? It is. A big abundant coaching. I like that. Let me see if there's no— it is dreams in action. Let me— it is. I wasn't out searching for the ideas. I got under the influence of what I wanted, and as I sat in that vibration, I was thinking a certain way. But as I was thinking a certain way, I was attracting a certain type of thought. Hey, everything is on the other side of clarity. Everything is on. That's why clarity is the first C. Clarity is the first C because without select clarity, you can't have confidence. Without clarity, you can't become competent. Without clarity, you can't become consistent. Those are the top three things people come to me for. I don't have confidence. I can't be consistent. I'm not competent. And they think that like, okay, I need to work on my confidence. Look, if you get clear, the confidence is going to build itself. If you get clear, the consistency is going to build itself. You got to get clear on what it is you want. You are a creator. It's in your nature to create. You going to create on purpose. Look, as that clarity pick up momentum, that consistency going to take care of itself. As that clarity picks up momentum, as that clarity picks up momentum, that consistency piece is going to take care of itself. That's why consistency is C number 4. It's hard to be consistent when you're unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident. But when you're clear, calibrated, and confident, the consistency is going to take care of itself. And I lied. Consistency is the fifth C. When you're clear, calibrated, and confident, the consistency will happen. The consistency will happen. You could be doing have anything you desire. So let me ask you this, CeCe. What's your goal for going live? How many times do you want to go live in November? Let's get into it. How many times do you do you want to go live in November? Like, forget what happened last month. No matter how many times you think it's possible, how many times do you desire to go live? And be honest with yourself. If you desire to go once a week, it's once a week. If you desire to go twice a week, it's twice a week. If you desire to go when you feel like it, that's very much my streaming style. Okay, now that ain't what I asked you. You said, I feel like I should go live at least once a day. How often do you desire to go live? This this is what we finna get it going. How often do you desire to go live? Because oftentimes what we feel we should do is coming from under the influence of what we don't want. So you desire to go live zero times. What do you desire to do? Let's talk about it. Let's iron it out. What do you desire to do? Let's talk about it. What's going on, y'all? Welcome to the live. I'm Coach Jay at Coach Bosses. We talking about how to turn your thoughts into desires. We talk about the fact that you really can be doing, have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you could think it, you could do it, but you got to think it, and you got to think it in terms of what you want, not in terms of what you don't want. Some people go, well, I think about money all day long. But are you thinking about having the money or the absence of money? So I desire a massive stream of income that is renewable so I never have to work ever again. So let me ask you this, you being this creator in that physical body of yours, Do you enjoy taking action? Do you? Is it things that you enjoy doing? Is it things that you would even spend money to go do? Like if I told you you had to spend the rest of your life sitting on a couch and you weren't allowed to take any action, would that excite you or would that or would that um Put a downward spin on your on your mood. I say you're not allowed to take action no more. You got to sit there and be still for the rest of your life. You can watch other people take action. You can watch other people build. You can watch other people grow. As you hear me describe it, how does that feel? I like to lounge, but not forever. Oh my God! So you in a seat that sounds like sickness. That sounds like stuck. Okay, so what's the difference between working and taking action? I'm working real hard right now. Believe it or not, I'm hard at work right now. I'm working my ass off right now. And I know that's a lot to type. So we this might even be a discussion we have in the next mastermind if you up for having it. But it's it's it's a lot to unpack right there. It sounds like sickness. I love it. For sure, for sure. Yeah, we gonna unpack that discussion. And then are you coming to the? We might do a mastermind tonight. I got to talk to Nikki. We might do a mindset mastermind tonight. We definitely doing one on Wednesday. Definitely doing one Wednesday. But I think we should do one tonight. I definitely think we should. What the rest of y'all got going on? How y'all doing, man? Y'all know y'all could be doing half anything you desire. So let's talk about it. Let's talk about it in terms of work though, since that's where we at. Let's talk in terms of work. Let me go to the whiteboard. Coaching was going really good, then you stopped. So, um, what, what does that— what does being a soft life coach sound like? Coaching people on the soft life. Let's see, let's get into it. Let's raise this up. Let me get some colors over here that's gonna pop and get people's attention. We're gonna take all of these colors. We want all the colors. Where my A-Rod sweat? All right, let's get out. Let's get here. We're going to clear the board out. I need you guys tapping the screen, sharing the live, bringing me energy. The more energy you guys bring, the more energy I bring. Let's go, let's go, let's go. So let's talk about, let's talk about the 5 C's. We're going to really slow things down and we're going to iron out some of the nuances of 5 C's. Okay, so our first thing is clarity. Clarity. After we get clear, then we calibrate to the clarity. After we calibrate and we remain calibrated for a while, that calibration spins into confidence. Confidence, competence. Competence, okay. Then consistency. Consistency, okay. So we run a 5C rather we trying to or not, that's what we got to understand. We run a 5C rather we are Or trying to, or not. Okay. So, we're going to talk about what it looks like when we run 5C from under the influence of what we don't want versus what it looks like when we run 5C from under the influence of what we would rather have. So, I'm noticing something that I don't like. It's clear to me. It's apparent to me. Like, when you look up the word manifest, y'all know that Obvious is a synonym for the word manifest. Did y'all know that apparent is a synonym for the word manifest? The word manifest means easily recognizable by the senses. That's what manifest means— easily recognizable by the senses. That's what manifest means. So it's clear to me that I don't like working. I don't like it. I don't want to be on a schedule. I don't want to have to talk to people. I don't want to have to do things. That is clear. That's what's clear to me. That's where my clarity is, right? Now, I'm going to calibrate to that, because I calibrate to what I focus on. When I watch a funny movie, I ain't got to try to laugh. Just watch the movie. I watch a sad movie, I don't got to try to get sad. Just watch the movie. So right now, it's clear to me that I don't like work, and I don't like everything that comes with work. I don't like the load of work. I don't like the heaviness of work. I don't like working. I don't want. So I'm calibrated to this idea of not going into work. I'm calibrated to it. I don't want to work. I don't want to work. I don't. I don't want to work. And when I calibrate to something over. And over and over again, put a little figure 8 right here. When I calibrate to it, every day I wake up, I'm like, oh my God, I don't want to work. I do not want to work. I don't feel like it. I don't want to work. I hate work. I don't want to work. I don't want to work. I don't want to work. I don't want to work. We become confident in what we calibrate to. So the difference between calibration and confidence— calibration is I got to point my focus. I got to try to send my attention there. Confidence is when I can't stop. I can't come out of it even if I try to. Now, once we confident in something, that's usually when we take action. Step four is all about taking action. So I'm under the influence of not wanting to work, but now I'm going to start brainstorming ideas because I got to have some money. I got to have some type of income, right? I got to. I live in a physical world, and in this physical world, I require some money. So I start brainstorming ideas. About how to make money. But as I'm brainstorming ideas, I'm under the influence of not wanting to work. But the thing about the subconscious mind, we got to realize that the subconscious mind doesn't negate information. Subconscious mind does not delete information. Watch this. Whatever you do, don't think about a pink elephant. Don't think about a pink elephant. I don't care what you do. Do not think about a pink elephant. What? And the harder you try not to think about a pink elephant, the more you're gonna think about a pink elephant. Or imagine you in a relationship with somebody and they go, baby, don't get mad. What's the first thing you're gonna do as soon as they say, baby, don't get mad? You're gonna go, what did you do? What, what did you do? The subconscious mind does what we call deductive reasoning. The conscious mind can do inductive and deductive reasoning. So inductive reasoning would be if I walked in my daughter's room And I notice she's warm to the touch, her eyes are running, she's low energy, she's not playing. I might induce that she has a cold. The weather just changed, we went swimming the other day, we probably shouldn't have did that. I would take all of the pieces and I would arrive at the conclusion that she has a cold. That's inductive reasoning. Deductive reasoning would be if I was at my office and her mom calls me And she goes, Riley has a cold. Now, me knowing what a cold is, I assume that she's low energy. I assume that she's warm to the touch. I assume that she is coughing and sneezing. I assign the symptoms. That's how the subconscious mind works. It doesn't delete anything, and it does deductive reasoning. So it goes, depression? Oh, yeah, I know what that is. No logic, no analysis, nothing. Depression? Yeah, I know what that is. That's bad body language, bad thinking, low energy. Confidence. Yeah, I know what that is. Shoulders back, chest out, head up. The subconscious mind is responding to whatever narrative you give it. So right now we've given the subconscious mind this narrative of I don't want to work, and the subconscious mind is going to work. I know what that is. Horrible, long hours, exhausting, stressful, people complain. Yeah, I know what work is. Yeah, work. Work. Yeah, I know what work is. So now when we get to step 4 and it's time to take action, And you got a subconscious association with money flowing through work. It's in your vibration. You believe the only way to come into contact with money is through work. Now, you might not believe that logically, but emotionally, in the 98%, that's what you believe. So now you got to come up with ways to work money, to make money. And because you calibrated to this, because you're confident in this, every idea that you have got to flow through this filter. You see what I'm saying? Because you're under the influence of this. When it's time to take action, every idea that you have got to go through the— got to pass through this. Now let's talk about it. Let's get into what we call theory of mind. Down here you got your subconscious mind, but above that you got your critical mind. And on top of your critical mind, you got your conscious mind. Okay? The critical mind separates your subconscious from your conscious mind. The conscious mind runs off logic, reason, analysis, willpower, and decision-making. Okay? Subconscious mind runs off of Feeling and emotion. Okay? Subconscious mind is 98% of your thinking potential. Conscious mind is 2% of your thinking potential. Stick with me. Y'all keep tapping the screen. So this critical mind, it serves as a bouncer. It serves as a gatekeeper for what the subconscious mind believes to be true. Right now, the subconscious mind believes I don't want to work. I don't like work. Work is hard. Work is boring. Work is pulling me away from the soft life that I desire to live. And what the critical mind does is the critical mind does 3 things. Y'all ready? The critical mind does 3 things. It generalizes, it distorts, and it deletes to protect what the subconscious mind believes to be true. Let's say Let's say I had a belief that all women are gold diggers. Let's say I believed it, right? If that's what I believe subconsciously, my critical mind will generalize, distort, and delete. I could have a friend whose wife is the sole provider for their household, and he'll be a stay-at-home dad. They'll go, well, what about Susan and Mike? How is she a gold digger? Oh man, she— She don't count, because she didn't even work for that money. Her daddy gave her that money, so she's not out there earning it. It's still a man taking care of her. That's her daddy's money. Like, the critical mind is going to generalize, distort, and delete. Let's say you've got a belief that there are no more— there are no good men in the world. All men are dogs. Somebody goes, what about Mike? You go, Mike is like a bro. You know, like, Mike likes you. He makes— He's a good guy. He's attractive. What about Mike? Ah, Mike's like a brother. So, you see what the critical mind does. So, you've got a belief down here that work is hard, work is boring, I don't want to work, but the focus is still on work. So, every idea that you have is going to flow through. You're going to get ideas for a business that you can run effortlessly. It's a business, you can do what you got to do, but that business has to bypass The critical mind. And if you can't bypass the critical mind, the critical mind is going to kick it out. The only ideas that the critical mind is going to let through is ideas that align with work being hard, work being miserable. So, what people do is they try to jump down here, and they try to do this piece harder. I need to be more consistent. I need to be more confident. I need to be more— Effective. I need to be better at what I do. I need to go back to school and get another certificate. If I can be consistent, this will work. Look, it's not going to work because you under the influence of what you don't want. We got to fix the top. If we fix the top, the bottom will take care of itself. If we get you from under the influence of what you want— have y'all heard the story about me with my cleaning company during COVID Before clean— before Coke— before cleaning company— before COVID I had a cleaning company that was making $25,000 a month. That was— and that was a slow month. Like, we had a cleaning business that was doing at least $25,000 every month. COVID hit, all our clients fired us. Also, I had a business that was going— that went from making $25,000 a month straight profit to a business that I was now having to go into my savings account to keep alive. And I was under the influence of what I didn't want. I was under the influence of this is This isn't fair. I don't know why the government and the media are scaring everybody. How could they just fire us? I built this company with my own— I was under the influence of what I didn't want. I was calibrated to what I didn't want. I was confident in what I didn't want. So, when I got to this competence piece and it was time to take action, all of my ideas were going through the filter of what I didn't want. Magic happened when I started saying, well, what would I rather have? I'd rather have work for my employees to do. I'd rather my business be thriving. I'd rather not have to sell my house. I want to stay in my house. I like my house. I want to thrive. I want to build. I want to practice what I preach. I tell people all over the world they can be, do, and have anything they desire. I want to be an example of that. Boom! I got clarity about what I wanted. And as I calibrated to it and became confident in that calibration, idea popped into my head. What was the idea? Stop marketing the cleaning company as a luxury cleaning service. Start marketing the cleaning company as a disinfectant service. Ain't that super obvious? We're in a pandemic. People worried about bacteria and germs and they buying up all the toilet paper. You can't find no bleach, no Lysol. You can't find no cleaning products in Walmart. People are buying them all. Me owning a cleaning business, I got access to cleaning products that other people don't got access to. Let me use that connection and retrain my cleaners. And now we are no longer a cleaning service, we are a disinfectant service. 72 hours later, we was booked out 3 months. 72 hours later, we had a waiting list. Now that idea was available As soon as I realized that problem. But under the influence of what I didn't want, that idea was out of reach to me. It was like a radio station. The good idea was on 100.1 The Beat, and I was on 89.8 FM with my arms folded. And vibration, like, yo, it's a dope idea if you would just train your dial. Like, I don't want to train my dial. It's not fair. And I'd rather sit here and defend my— defend where I am and throw a fit than give myself permission to feel better and get under the influence I want so that a good idea can find me. You don't find good ideas, good ideas find you when you're in a place where you're able to hear them. I'm gonna say that again. You don't find good ideas. I use this word create a lot. Honestly, we don't got to create anything. God already created everything. Our job is to discover what God already created and arrange it in different cool ways. We didn't create gravity, we discovered gravity. We didn't create electricity, we discovered electricity. God created electricity. I didn't create I Coach Bosses, I discovered I Coach Bosses. I didn't create Abundant Living Coaching and Hypnosis, I discovered it. I didn't create hypnosis, I discovered it. I didn't create NLP, I discovered it. But Richard Bandler didn't create NLP neither. He discovered what was already there. Once we get clarity, how do we calibrate to what we want? Focus. Focus. When you focus on a scary movie, you ain't got to try to create tension in your body. Just watch, just watch the fucking movie. For sure, for sure. When you watch a love story, you ain't got to try to get butterflies. Just watch the movie. You miss, like so pay attention. Step four is step four for a reason. What people do is they mess theyself up because they try to take action before they get clear, calibrated, and confident. Like y'all, you know we talk about this thing called be do have all the time in dreams and action. As a matter of fact, dreams and action is built on the format of be do have. Our entire classroom. It's designed on that bottle. So, look at it like this. Now, there are things that I desire to have, but before I can have those things, there are things that I have to do. Before I can do those things, there's a version of me that I have to become. Okay? I saw a quote not too long ago. It said, it didn't take me a long time to build a successful business. It took me a long time to become the type of person that could build a successful business. There's a young lady that I'm coaching. She was telling me that it took her 10 years to leave her husband. It didn't take you 10 years to leave him. It took you 10 years to get fed up. It took you 10 years to become the type of person that felt like they could do it on their own. It took you 10 years to become the type of person that was willing to start over. It took you 10 years to become the type of person that was willing to fill out the paperwork and do it. But once you became that person, this part, you didn't have no choice but to do this part. So we talked about the 3 C's. We talked about the 5 C's: clarity, calibration, confidence. Goes under here. Clarity, calibration, and confidence. Confidence. It's under what we call the being, or you can also call the being the becoming. People do theyself a disservice when they try to do before they become. So what's happening right now is you trying to build a business from under the influence of, I don't want to work, work is stupid, work is hard, work is pulling me away from the soft life. That I desire to have. And you're trying to compensate with doing what can only be done right here. I tell my athletes all the time, you don't get a trophy and then become a champion. That's not how it works. What happens is you become a champion. Now, when you become a champion, guess what? You gotta show up. Right here, right now, no trophy in sight. You got to start thinking like a champion, sleeping like a champion, eating like a champion, showing up to practice like a champion, in the weight room in the mindset of a champion. You got to hold it in your mind before you hold it in your hands. Now, if you wait until you get in the playoffs, like, all right, it's the playoffs, let me get in champion mode. But it's this dude named Michael Jordan who's been in champion mode since forever. He ain't never come out of it. He spent the offseason in champion mode. It's this dude named LeBron James that never came out of champion mode. He got momentum over you. It's this guy named Kobe Bryant who lives this thing that he calls the Mamba Mentality. You think you're going to compete with somebody who's been sitting in that mindset and you just turned your champion on this morning? Boy, get the hell out of here. I know people who got all the same credentials as me, all the same degrees as me, all the same platitudes as me. But they jumped the gun to this and they didn't spend as much time here as they should have. I need you to understand that one clear, calibrated, confident person will outdo 1,000 unclear, uncalibrated, unconfident people. Man, if I'm building a team, I'll take 2 clear, calibrated, confident people Over 100 unclear, uncalibrated, unconfident people. But notice the order that this stuff fall in. You can't have confidence without clarity. Clarity— confidence is literally your belief in your potential to achieve a specific outcome. If you don't got clarity, how do you have confidence? You don't know what the specific outcome is. An outcome is necessary. A lot of times we find people trying to be confident and all they know is what they don't want. They don't know what they would rather have, they know what they don't want. Well, confidence doesn't exist in what you don't want. Confidence is about what you want. So, if you don't got this piece filled in, you can't be confident. You can't tell your body, don't be nervous. No, what do you mean don't be nervous? What I told you about the subconscious mind, it doesn't negate information. I remember at my sister's old house, she had white carpet. And we were sitting in the living room, her baby walked in there with a red cup of juice. She go, Kaylee, if you drop that juice on my rug, I'mma beat— by the time she said beat, that cup was out of Kaylee's hand, on the floor. She said, I'mma finish it. I said, you're not finna touch that, baby. I said, you told her to do that. You hypnotized her. She said, I told her not to. That's not how the subconscious mind work. Have you ever woke up in the middle of the night, everybody else in your house asleep, and you decided, You finna get you a little Big Mac snack, but you're trying not to wake everybody else up. So you're going through the house, you're telling yourself, don't make noise, don't make noise. And as you're telling yourself, don't make noise, you're knocking over stuff that you wouldn't typically knock over. You, you, you accidentally tripping over stuff and spilling stuff. What's going on is you telling the subconscious mind, don't make noise, and the subconscious mind saying, noise? I know what the— oh, sorry. Yeah, I know what noise— oh, don't make— sorry, already did it. That's how the subconscious mind works. It processes in the moment. Don't— okay. Make— okay. Know it— oh, sorry. So, when you tell yourself, don't be unconfident— no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm going to walk in this room. I'm going to throw my shoulders back, my chest out, and my head up. You see the difference? Don't tell yourself what not to do. Tell yourself what to do. Why would you tell yourself, don't screw this up? The subconscious mind going to screw Shoot us up. Y'all know what that— oh, sorry. You got to get under the influence of what you want. The example that I like to use is imagine if you got in a taxi and you only told the driver where not to take you. Hey, don't take me to the mall. I don't like the mall. It's too expensive. All those teenagers up there just hanging out. I don't like the mall. You go to the mall? Why you go to the mall? That's— I don't like the mall. I do not like the mall. Uh-uh. I ain't been to the mall since I was— I probably was 23 last time I went to the mall. It's crazy out there. People paying all this money for shoes. I do not like the mall. I do not. You know what else I don't like? Church. I don't trust them pastors taking those people money. And I do not trust these pastors. I do not trust these men. Don't take me to church. I don't like the post office neither. I think the post office is an outdated construct. Like, why do we have to put— we got UPS. We got all this up. We don't need the post office. It's just a waste of taxpayers. You in the back of the taxi telling the driver where you don't want to go. What's up, reality? That's how a lot of people go through life. That's how a lot of people go through life. I don't want this person in the White House. They gonna ruin the economy. This person is gonna ruin the economy and they don't care about this group of people and that's not fair and they stupid. Why they even think they Who think they could? Da da da da. What do you want? I don't give a damn who in the White House. My personal economy gonna be good. Me and mine, we gonna eat and we gonna eat good because I know what I want. I'm not saying it's not things that I don't want. I'm saying I realize that it's too expensive for me to get hypnotized by what I don't want. I cannot afford to walk through my life only thinking about what I don't want. You got to get in the habit of asking yourself the magic question. Now here go the solution part, CeCe. I don't want to work. I don't want to work. But what do I mean by work? I don't want to exchange time for dollars. I want money to flow and I want it to flow abundantly. I want money to flow and I want it to flow abundantly. And I don't want too much physicalness required on my part. And when physicalness is required, I want it to be through avenues that I enjoy doing. I wanna live a soft life. I was sent here to live a soft life. Ain't no way God gave me this desire without the means to fulfill this soft life that I desire to live. And I'm gonna sit under the influence of this feeling so that I can attract the ideas that will allow that to happen. 'Cause CeCe, I feel you on that. I decided about 10 years ago that I never wanted to work again. But then I had to realize people like LeBron James get paid a lot of money to do things that they love to do. MMA fighters and boxers get paid a lot of money to do stuff that they would do for absolutely free. So then my point of attraction became, I'm open to ideas that attract large sums of money. To do things I would do for absolutely free, and that's when different ideas start presenting themselves. Have y'all ever heard the story about how Nikki and I manifested each each other as business partners? Going into 2024, one of my manifest one of my affirmations was I'm open to meeting people and circumstances that allow me to make large sums of money doing things I would do. I'm open to meet— I'm open to opportunities and people that allow me to make large sums of money doing things that I would do for absolutely free. I met 3 people in 2024. I met Nikki, we got Dreams in Action together. I met another guy, we got a business called the Lulu that we're building. It's crazy, can't tell you the details yet. What's the Lulu? yet, but it's going to be rolling out here really soon. I met another guy named Thad who's an SEO mastermind. We got a business together. I didn't manifest Thad directly. I didn't manifest Nikki directly. I didn't manifest the guy that I'm building Delulu with directly. I didn't say, hey God, send me a guy named Norbert who's this crazy talented computer engineer that used to work for NASA and I didn't ask for that. I didn't know to ask for that. I said, I'm open to people and circumstances that allow me to attract large sums of money doing things that I would do for absolutely free. One night I was streaming on TikTok and Nikki came in and I was giving a lecture about acorns. I had an acorn out and I said, what is this? And every time somebody said acorn, I said, wrong, it's an oak tree. This is oak tree. And I told them, you're gonna learn how to get the life you desire when you learn how to see an oak tree where everybody else can only see acorns. Stores. When you learn how to see full-blown businesses where everybody else can see bits and pieces of ideas they want to work in, they won't work in this economy. That's when you're gonna have the life that you desire. And Nikki happened to be in the comments. She said, who is this person? I got a seminar coming up. I think the seminar was like 2 weeks out. She go, can you please talk at my seminar? I want you on the stage at my seminar. And, uh, she said, how much do you charge? I I said, how many people gonna be there? She said, a few hundred. I said, oh, if you're gonna put me in front of a few hundred people, you ain't gotta get up. I'm gonna make my money. Just put me in front of you. Are you sure that you okay with putting me in front of your people? 'Cause they gonna love it over here. It's a vibe over here. She said, oh, absolutely. 'Cause Nicky dope too. She not threatened. Greatness is not threatened by greatness. They welcome it. It's like a magnet. Like, yeah, get over here. I went, did that seminar. I mean, I did a day at Nicky's event. It went phenomenal. So after the event, we were talking and catching up. She didn't know me from Adam. She had saw me streaming for like 2 minutes and she was getting ready to go take care of something, so she didn't even stay for the whole stream, but she saw it and she was resonating with what we was talking about. And a few weeks later, I did her event. So after the event, we get on a Zoom call, we talking and yada yada yada, and we decided we gonna do a 3-day seminar that we gonna build together because we saw how quick this thing that we threw together, we saw how How it took off. So we say, we're going to build this thing called Dreams in Action. And it was going to be built on this foundation of be, do, have. We did a 3-day seminar. We spent the day talking about being. We spent the day talking about doing. And we spent the day talking about having. And about a week after that seminar, we started getting emails back. But people said, man, you don't understand. That was the best 3 days of my life. This is happening in my marriage. This is happening in my business. This is happening with my fitness. That's awesome. And we said, okay, we got to do something else with that. We can't just let that be a one and done. So we said, we're going to turn it into a podcast. Before we ever had the first meeting about the podcast, Nikki texted me. She said, you free? I said, I'm never free. I'm available. I'm expensive every day, but I'm available. And we jumped on a call and she said, what if instead of a podcast, we built a group? And that's how we got the Dreams in Action community. That's awesome. I didn't manifest the Dreams in Action community. I put out, I got in vibrational alignment with the idea, the idea of situations, circumstances, and people finding me that allowed me to make large sums of money doing things that I would do for absolutely free. Can y'all tell that I'm having the time of my life right now? Can y'all, does it look like I'm working right now? Would you believe me if I told you I make thousands of dollars off of TikTok every month? And I'm not on TikTok saying buy my this, buy my that, buy my this, buy my that. People are in here. It is dope. It is the place to be. But people are in here going, that's good, that resonates. I wonder, does he do one-on-one sessions? Then they go to the link in the bio. I'm not on here selling. I'm on here walking in my purpose. You gotta understand, the only difference between this and this is time. Only difference between the acorn and the oak tree is time. But you gotta understand that the time has to be spent planting. If you never plant the oak tree— I mean, if you never plant the acorn, 100 years can pass, it's not gonna become an oak tree. But if you put this acorn in the soil— but listen, you can't just put it in the soil, you gotta put it in the soil with the understanding it's gonna grow this way before it grows this way. It's gonna grow down before it grows up. Okay. So a lot of times we'll plant a seed, but we looking at the surface and thinking that it's not working. Oh, it's working. It's just working underground. It's working, but it got to change you internally before it changes you externally. Okay. I really had set that intention and forgot all about that intention. And it's like— and I didn't go out looking for these— I couldn't go out and find Nicky. I found a guy named Norbert. He was a client. He came to me originally as a client. We worked together for about a month and a half. And his last session, I was telling him, I was like, hey man, I done poured everything that I got to pour into you. Like, we are— we done. And he said, okay, hey, you got about 20 minutes? I want to run something by you. And he unrolled this really elaborate And I go, what role do you need me to play in this? I just need you to do what you do, answer whatever questions. I need you to be the hypnotist. I need you to be the mindset expert. I'm gonna take care of everything else. I say, absolutely, absolutely. I met, I met Thad through the community that Nikki and I built. I didn't go out looking for these people. I set an intention. So, what I'm saying, CeCe, is I don't want you to build the business. I want you to allow the business to find you. Now, understand, in the meantime, there are— in this physical world, you might have to do some things until that idea shows up. But I want you to understand that you can have your body in one place and your mind in another. Like Malcolm X wasn't built at a college. Malcolm X was developed in jail. He went to jail as this guy known as Detroit Red. He came And he came out as the man that we know as Malcolm X. His body was incarcerated, but his mind was far from incarcerated. So you might have to do some things physically right now that you really don't wanna do. I suggest you send the body over there to do those things and let the mind go elsewhere. I remember the last few years I was in the military, my body was wearing camouflage, but my mind was already wrapped in something else. My mind was not in those ABUs. My mind was not in those combat boots. My body was in those combat boots, but my mind was building I coach bosses. Okay? And it got to the point when I got calibrated and confident enough, one day my commander called me in my— not my first sergeant, not my direct supervisor. My commander called me into his office. And he went, Sergeant Shaw, you don't want to be here, do you? I went, respectfully, no. No, sir. He said, sign this. Sign this. And I was a civilian about three months later. And after they had me sign that paperwork, they started pulling my security credentials and all types of other stuff. I I couldn't really do my job. I was getting paid the last three or four months I was in to hang out on base as I worked on my business. 'Cause my energy was, I was no longer in the mindset of a soldier. I was what you would call undeployable because my mind, I wasn't in soldier mode. I was in entrepreneur mode. Like, you could send me, I'm gonna do enough to not go to jail. I know the rule books. I know the AFI. I'm no idiot. I can read. I'm gonna do what I gotta do, but you're not getting No extra out of me. You're not working me a second over 12. I've read the regs. I'm not doing it. I'm going home. You outrank me, you don't outrank the AFI. You don't outrank the rules. Get him out of here. Not a dishonorable discharge. Give him everything he's owed, but he's— that's not the mindset that we want here. Get him out of here before he wakes some of these other people up and get them building businesses and thinking. Step four is step four for a reason, guys. Appreciate the gifts, y'all. Appreciate you. Step four is step reason. Step four for a reason. Be, do, have. Before you can have that that soft life you desire, before you can have that relationship that you want, before you can have that money in the bank account, before you can have the body you want, there are some things that you have to do. But before you can Do those push-ups and not eat those carbs, before you can go out and meet this person who's gonna sweep you off your feet, before you can go out and make the money to buy that new car. There's a version of yourself that you gotta become. And I promise you, if you focus on this piece, this piece becomes what we call inspired action. It's not I gotta go to the gym, it's I get to go to the gym. It's not I gotta go live, it's I get to go live. It's not I can't eat carbs, it's I don't want to eat carbs. They make me feel heavy. I like foods that help me feel lighter. I like foods that energize my body. But when you try to force it without becoming— like, I'll tell you all the time, if you came to me and said, hey, Coach Jay, I want to lose 100 pounds, I'm not sending you to Planet Fitness tomorrow. I'm saying, you want to lose 100 pounds? Cool. Um, what size shirt you want to wear? Okay, cool. What size pants you want to wear? Awesome. What size dress you want to wear? I don't know. Okay, if you didn't know, what's your best guess? Okay. You got a scale in your bathroom? Okay, cool, cool, cool. Describe your scale to me. Okay, it's white, black in the middle, red digital letters on the front. Okay, stand on that scale. It's not here. Stand on that scale. Scale. Look down. What number do you see? 270. What number do you see? 175. Okay, good job. Sit in that feeling. And now that you standing on that scale and you see 175, how does that feel? Now imagine your husband just walked in. He looking at you. You weigh 175. What type of looks is he giving you? How do you feel as he gives you those looks? Okay. Now imagine being at a beach. But you're in that 2-piece, the one that you like, the one that 9 months ago was no chance you could get into it, but now at 175 you can fit it and you can fit it effortlessly and easily. How does that feel? Do you like that feeling? This is the calibration piece. You was asking, how do we calibrate? We calibrate by focusing on it. How do I calibrate to confidence? I ask myself questions like, if I was the most confident man in the world, how would I stand right here? How would I feel? Dope thing about the subconscious mind is it's gonna answer whatever question you ask it. A lot of people make the mistake asking their subconscious mind stupid questions. Why am I so stupid? Why am I so fat? What the hell are you gonna do with a list of reasons of why you stupid and fat? You gotta start asking better questions. Is what he going to say? Okay, Angela. And as he says that, how do you feel? As you hear your husband, I can't sing, but here goes nothing. There goes my baby. Sorry, I hope nobody had their headphones up too loud. But as you hear him saying that, every cell and every fiber of your being is going to get excited. You're going to feel amazing. Now notice how you feel amazing as you sitting in that same body. Ain't lost a pound yet, ain't changed your diet yet, ain't changed Nothing yet. Yet every cell and every fiber in your being feels different. Now, this is the dope thing about feeling different. This is the dope thing about feeling different. When you feel different, you don't got no choice but to think different. And when you're feeling different and thinking different, you will act different on accident. Look, nobody has ever come in my office— nobody has ever come in my office and said, I don't know what to do. They always know what to do. The problem is usually they don't feel like the type of person They can do it. They don't feel like the type of person that can do it. But if I can get you feeling sexy right now, if I can get you feeling energized right now, if I can get you feeling like a gym rat right now, I can get you feeling like the type of person that gravitates towards foods that hydrate you, gravitate towards foods that nourish you. If I can get you feeling like that right now, from that feeling— That's it. You're gonna think different, and from that different way of thinking, certain foods just not gonna seem that more that attractive to you right now. But when you feel heavy, you feel overweight, you feel low, and you feel de-energized, de-energizing food resonates with the current feeling. Does that make sense? So why would I try to get you acting different when you still feeling? the old self. That's what the Bible talking about when it say you can't put old wine in new bottles. You can't put new habits in a new mindset. I mean, you can't put new habits in the same mindset. But if you just get a new mindset, the new actions will build itself. Good morning. What should we be asking ourselves? The question I think you should be asking yourself every day is, what do I desire? What do I? You want to build muscle? Okay, you got to go there vibrationally because right now you might got a story that I'm skinny. I've been skinny my whole life. My mama skinny, my grandma skinny, all my aunties skinny. We just a skinny family. My body cannot retain muscle. If that's the story we telling, you can lift weights till you blue in the face. You could drink all the protein shakes in the world, but if that's what you telling yourselves, you got to realize yourself. Sales don't respond to reality. They respond to the story that you tell them about reality. I was working with this girl one time. She came in because she wanted to lose some weight. And boy, I'm really good at what I do. Like, I'm top 2 when I'm not 2. I'm really, really, really good at what I do. I've been working with this young lady for about 3 months, and every time I see— I saw her, I swear she was just a little bit bigger. I was like, come on. Are you listening to the recordings I'm giving you? Are you doing the stuff that I'm telling you? She said, Jay, I promise you I'm doing everything you telling me to do. I promise you I would not be spending this type of money and not doing what you're telling me to do. So we started doing what's called hypnoanalysis, and we started doing some digging. And in the process of doing that digging, we discovered what was going on. Her best friend that she happened to meet in elementary school These 2 women had been friends since the 4th grade, and her friend that she had been friends with since the 4th grade, she was heavier as well. And she had a subconscious belief that if she lost weight, her best friend would feel some type of way and wouldn't be her best friend no more. She had created the calorie deficit. She had hired a trainer. She was working with the trainer. She was doing everything she was supposed to be doing. She was working. She was drinking water. She was not eating carbs. She was doing everything that she was supposed to be doing, but she was telling herself and her body that if I lose this weight, my friend not gonna be my friend no more. That was what they had bonded over. That was what they had had in common. We weren't gonna be able to share clothes no more. She was probably gonna be jealous of me now that I'm in this new body. So what do we do? We got the friend in too. So I'll make you a deal. I work with— if you can get the friend to buy in, Y'all can just do joint sessions. I will work with your friend at no additional cost. Just bring her with you. 3 months later, both of these ladies was about 40 pounds lighter. It was a, but it was a belief inside of her that was keeping the weight on. She didn't change nothing else after we figured out what the problem was. We just say, bring her with you, bring her with you. Let's get both of y'all A mentor of mine, he was telling me a story about a guy he was working with named Big John. And Big John was an older guy. He was a— he was in a biker gang. But Big John needed to lose some weight because Big John's heart had been keeping Big John up for a long time. It was tired. Let's get to 20K taps. I like it. So he started working with, um, the guy's name he was working with is Freddie Jaquinn. He started working with Freddie Jaquinn. And Freddie J. Quinn is an amazing hypnotist. Big John wasn't losing any weight. Big John wasn't losing any weight. So Freddie did some hypnoanalysis with Big John, and he found out the problem. He said, so let me ask you something, Big John. If you lose 125 pounds, who will you be? And Big John said, I'll just be some old guy on a motorcycle, I guess. He said, how do you feel about being just an old guy on a motorcycle? Big John say, "I don't. I don't want to just be an old guy on a motorcycle." Freddie say, "Okay, we done until you can. You know, let me know who you gonna be when you done being Big John. It's nothing we can do here. Your subconscious mind is not gonna allow you to lose the weight because you don't want to be. You want to be Big John. You resonate with Big John. Hell, I'm your therapist and you making me call you Big John. Big." John is your identity. Your subconscious mind is not going to allow you to shed your identity. He said he heard from Big John about a year later, and Big John said, I know who I'm gonna be when I'm done being Big John. He said, who are you gonna be? He said, I'm gonna be a grandfather. My daughter's pregnant. I'm gonna be a grandfather. My daughter's pregnant. He said, I can work with that. He started back working with Big John, and the weight is literally melting off of Big John. It's not a doing problem, it's a being problem. If you take care of that being piece, the weight will start to fall off, the ideas will start to show up, the circumstances will start to build themselves. Appreciate you, Tiffy. Thank you. You can be, do, and have anything you desire, but notice the order that we say it in. I didn't say you can have, do, be. You can have, be, do. I said you can be. It's things that you, you gotta, you gotta start thinking different. You got to start feeling different right here, right now. And from that place of feeling different, from that place of thinking different, you can do things that need to be done. And if you do the things that need to be done, the having takes care of itself. Somebody messaged me the other day, because when you go into the classroom in the Dreams in Action community, we got 3 modules. We got— well, we got a lot of modules, but the 3 I'm talking about right now is the Be, Do, and Have modules. They said, hey, I did the Being. I loved it. I'm going through the doing and I love it. I open course 3 and there's nothing in there. I say because having takes care of itself. If you just do the being and the doing, you ain't got no choice but to have. If I show up every day and I be a great hypnotist and I be a great motivator and I do sessions with people and I do the coaching with people and I do the therapy with people, the money got to show up in the account. I don't got to beg for the money. I don't got to hope for the money. I don't got to pray for them for the money. Think about it. When you put an And when you put an acorn in the ground, it don't gotta beg, hope, and pray to become an oak tree. It, it be an acorn. That's what it be. That's what it does. That's what it's supposed to do. Does that make sense? If I can get you feeling like an entrepreneur, if I can get you thinking like an entrepreneur, you're gonna get— eventually you're gonna get an idea that's so good it ain't nothing you gotta do, it's something you wanna do. Hey, you ever just like, Got it. It was just something you wanted to do. And although it was physical, although it was going to take effort— like, I can remember one time I had got a new recliner that I was going to put in my room. I had thought about changing my room around several times before, but when I got this new recliner, changing my room was no longer something I wanted to do. It was something I— it was something inside of me. Like, boom, put that there, I'm gonna put that there, I'm gonna put the brackets over here, I'm gonna go ahead and put the projector I'm already moving things. You know what, do I want this bed? I think I want a new bed too. I think I want new nights. Like, moving, it was, it was still the same amount of work, but from this new feeling that I had, it wasn't something that I had to do, something that I really wanted to do. About 6 months ago, I redid all of my websites. I had been thinking like, ah, this is starting to look a little dated. I could, could rebuild these. One day I got a new idea for the new vision of what I wanted to do with it. Building a website became something that I had to Something I couldn't wait to do. I want you to stop trying to change what you do. I want you to just get in the habit of changing what you focus on, changing what you think about. And I need you to get clear about what it is that you desire. I need you to get clear about what it is that you desire. And I need you to start focusing on what you desire. When you start focusing Yes. When you start focusing on what you desire and you start calibrating to what you desire and you get confident in what you desire, the new feelings gonna show up on accident. Think about it. When you focus on what you don't want and you get calibrated to what you don't want, do you gotta try to get nervous or does it just happen? Do you gotta try to feel down and out or does it just happen? The feelings show up as a result of what you calibrate to. So I always say if it work in that direction, it'll work in that direction. So if you could just get clear about what you want, not how to do it, you gonna snap yourself out of it when you start trying to figure out the how. Don't worry about the how. I'm not saying the how not important. I'm saying if you get enough momentum going, the how is going to find you. Focus on what you want. All in. Love of what you want. And you got to realize, focusing on the absence of it is not focusing on it. Focusing on not enough money is not the same as focusing on abundance of money, okay? Stop focusing on the lack of it. And some stuff, you might got so much momentum going on in the negative direction that you just got to take your attention off of it altogether. You just gotta take your attention off of it altogether. Focus on something that feels good. Feeling good is like one of the best life hacks I can give you. Look, when you feel good, everybody around you benefit. When I feel good, I'm a better father. I'm a better boyfriend. I'm a better brother. I'm a better grandson. I'm a better son. I'm a better therapist. I'm a better coach when I feel good. When I don't feel good, my kids don't got access to the best father. When I feel good and my kids say, Daddy, can we go to the park? Yeah, bud, grab the football. I don't feel good, not right now, man. Go play your game. You owe it to yourself and the people around you to feel good. You do everything better when you feel good. You think better when you feel good. You age slower when you feel good. You even smell better when you feel good. Bet you didn't know that. Google it. Feeling good is important. Stop putting you on the back burner. You matter. Stop letting people use words like selfish to control you. Usually when people say stuff like selfish, what they really mean is you won't put what I want over what you want, and you selfish. But lucky for you, the only thing you got to do to stop being selfish is do what I want you to do and everything will be fine. Fuck you. Sorry, excuse me, pardon my French. Like, look, look at that. You selfish because you won't do what I want you to do, but the only thing you got to do to not be a selfish person is forget about what you want and put what I want front and center. I'm okay. Don't, don't fall for that. I'm a hypnotist. I know hypnosis when I see hypnosis. Don't fall for that. And that's mediocre hypnosis. It wasn't no pacing. It leading. It was no rapport building. Don't, don't fall for that foolishness. Now, don't take that as a cop-out to ignore your responsibilities. Like, if you have children and people depending on you, that's not saying you don't gotta provide for those people. But don't let other people— you know, you know what I'm talking about— don't let people outside of your 4 walls use words like selfish to make you do their bidding for All right, how y'all feeling, man? Any questions about anything we done talked about today? We done been all over the place. We done talked about a lot. We done talked about a lot. Was this good? Was this useful? Did we get some actionable stuff we can use right away? I don't ever want y'all to leave with just theory. I want you to leave with actionable steps that you can start implementing today. Can I start over? I can give you the link to the replays. So look, if you go to my Linktree, you're gonna see, um, I think it's the second button down. It's gonna point you to the podcast, and the podcast is just really the replays of all of the lives. So go, go there, then y'all can listen on, on the other platform, and I can make some money while y'all listening. But, uh, this is the crazy thing, y'all. I get on here and we have the same talk every day. Let's talk about how this is why the last C is consistency. This is why the last C is consistency. Let's, let's look at it like this. And some of y'all come and have the same conversation every day with me, but as we have the same conversation, it picks up momentum and you still learn more. Watch this, because every time we have this conversation, we get a little bit more clarity. And as we get the new clarity, we calibrate to the new clarity. Okay, now as we calibrate to the new clarity, the confidence goes up. And as the confidence goes up, we get the Competence even harder, and consistency. We're gonna do this consistently, so we're gonna keep showing up, and every time we show up, we're gonna get a little bit more clarity. Every time we get clarity, we're gonna calibrate to the new clarity, right? Every time we have this conversation, we're gonna calibrate to this clarity. Now, as we calibrate to it often enough, we're gonna become confident in it. To hear this stuff once, you go, "Ooh, that makes sense." Okay. Okay, okay. But you hear this stuff a thousand times. You ain't got to try to run the five C's. You find yourself in life. You go, "I don't like that. I need to get clarity about what I'd rather have." And it's like stopping at a red light for you. It's automatic. I don't like that. What would I rather have? Okay, I need to get clarity. Got my clarity. Boom. Okay, now let me calibrate to my clarity. You'll find yourself in your inner dialogue saying, "Okay, I need to calibrate today because right now I'm calibrated to what I don't want." Calibration is fun. Calibration is understanding that your nervous system and your endocrine system do not respond to reality. They respond to what you focus on and tell them about reality. So calibration is about saying, "I'm not gonna focus on the lack of money." So what you got to realize as you go through life, you are a creator, and you gonna create on accident. So when you see something you don't like, you don't. You got to try to create a desire. It's in your nature to create a desire. When you feel— when you look at your bank account and you see lack of money, you don't got to try to desire more money. You instantly create a desire for more money. Calibration is about getting in alignment with the desire instead of getting in alignment with what caused you to have the desire. Does that make sense? I'm not going to focus on the thing that created The desire. I'm gonna focus on the desire. Like, imagine if you had a new baby. You had this new baby and the doctors say, all right, here's your baby girl. And they take the new baby and they get— they say, we're gonna just stand right here beside the bed and we gonna clean the baby up. We're gonna clean the baby up and check his vitals. The baby right there, you can see your baby, you don't feel that much ease. But imagine they say, okay, we're gonna take the baby across the hall. To clean the baby. Now this thing that you just created, this thing that you just gave birth to, is not just right here in arm's reach; it's across the hall. You're gonna feel a little anxiousness. You're gonna feel a little tension in your body. Now imagine they say we're gonna take the baby to a building across the street. You go, why the hell the baby gotta go all the all the way across the street? Now imagine they try to take your baby to a building on the other side of the city. The further you get away from that baby, the more tension, the more anxiety, the more angst you gonna feel. It's the same way when you give birth to a desire. When you give birth to a desire and it's right here front and center, it feels good, it feels exciting, it feels— that's what we call inspiration. Inspiration is when I got a desire and it's a desire that I'm actually interacting with. But the further I get away from that desire, the more angst I feel, The more anxiety I feel, the more depleted I feel. Calibration is about bringing the desire front and center, focusing on it, visualizing about it, doing affirmations around it. Does that make sense? Yes. When you give birth to a desire and desire is all the way up here vibrationally, you all the way down here, and you're not even focusing on the desire, you arguing and defending the person or the circumstance that created the desire. If you say something to me and I feel disrespected, the instant I felt disrespected, I created the desire to be respected. Now I can sit here and argue with you about why you shouldn't have said that to me and how that's not right and I would never say that to you, or I could focus on my desire to feel respected and go, you couldn't have been talking to me because that don't even align. I can't even— not doing it, disengaging, because I like respect. I love respect. I like the way I feel when I feel respected. Hang up on you. I ain't got to argue with you. I ain't got to get you to agree. You grown. You know what you did wrong. I ain't got to explain nothing to your grown ass. I'm not focusing on that. I'm focusing on this desire I just gave birth to. If I look at my bank account and I see not enough money, I don't got to try to desire more money. But what I do got to do is I got to consciously go, I'm not going to sit here and focus on the not enough money. I'm going to say, man, I desire more money. An extra 2 grand a month will really, really, really put me— what, man, extra 200 grand, extra 200 grand, extra 2 grand a month would be nice. Extra 2 grand a month would be nice. Extra 2 grand a month would be really, really, really nice. Now that I think about it, extra 2 grand a month is only an additional $500 a week. An additional $500 a week. $500 a week. That sounds doable. Hey Siri. Hey Siri. Good morning. Good morning. What's 500 divided by 7? 500 divided by 7 is approximately 71.4285. Man, if I can make about $72 a day, I could have an additional $2,000 a month. Hmm. I'm open to ideas that will allow me to make an extra $75 a day. $75 a day ain't a lot. I spent that on food last night when I took the family out. Hmm, maybe I ain't even gotta make all of it. Maybe I can eat out half as much as I'm eating out right now, and I can only make an— But you see how when you start to get under the influence of what you want, you start to think in terms of what you want. But what most people do, they go, man, it is not enough money in this account. And you know what the fault is? This stupid-ass job I got. They overwork me and underpay me. If they would just give me a raise, I wouldn't be having this. Man, you spiraling on the wrong— you spiraling on stuff that you got no control over. Focus on what's in front of you. Focus on the desire. Focus on the desire. I'm looking at some stuff right now where I see where more money would take care of something that I want to make happen. Guess what I'm doing? Building a new course, building a new workshop. You know what? Instead of focusing on that problem, let me find some other people with a problem who don't got a solution for it. Let me build a solution for them. And I'm gonna put that solution where they can find it, and I'm gonna charge them $149 for the solution. I just sell that solution to 10 people for sure. And I want you to go deeper into the I deserve to be my own boss and we can drop the and not working for another factory because what that's going to do is that's going to put you in a tug of war. You'll pay the $149 for sure. Let's talk. You see what I'm saying? Because that's what That that's the that's called splitting your clarity. I don't want you to split your clarity. I want you to. I deserve to be my own boss. I'm smart. I'm intelligent. I'm creative. I am a creator. I create things on accident. I got dope ideas. I got dope ideas that I want to put in front of the world. You you see what I'm saying? And I want you to get so much momentum because if you're going, I want to be my own boss because my boss is. Stupid. I want to start my own company because this company I work at, man, they don't. You ain't never get no momentum because you—it's like playing tug of war and both sides equally strong. You just. Nah, we want to get completely wrapped up in. Well, I want to be my own boss. I want to be my own boss, and I want to teach mindset. I want to remind people who the hell they are. I want to remind people they could be doing have anything they desire. I want to remind people that their only limit in life is their own imagination, and I want to do it through books. I want to do it through podcasts. I want to do it through my TikTok. I want to do it through all my social medias, and I want to work with 10 people a month, help them take their life to a whole new level. And I'm gonna have communities for these other— I'm gonna get so much momentum going on what I want. So in hypnosis, we use this thing called the law of reverse action. Like, if I wanted to glue, yo, I am strong, I am my own boss, I am independent, I'm Confident, I'm successful. Now, as long as you feel good as you saying it, you're on the right track. But if as you saying it, it's some things in your vibration, they're like, "No, you're not. That's not true." Uh uh. Then we're gonna have to pull back a little bit. Sometimes we gotta start gentle. Like I'm capable of doing better than I'm doing. I can have more than I currently have. I could if I could just start thinking different, and I can. I'm gonna start picking up momentum. You know what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna challenge myself for the next year to get 1% better every day. Just 1%. Now on the surface, 1% don't even sound like a lot, but if I spend a year getting 1% better, that's a 365% increase. Now 365% increase is a lot for me to wrap my mind around at one time, but boy, if I just focus on 1% a day, I could do that. You know what my 1% today gonna look like? Passing on the carbs. That's my 1% for the day. I'm gonna pass on the carbs and we're gonna worry about tomorrow tomorrow. But you see how I'm massaging that thought and I'm gonna get more and more and more and more and more specific until it stops feeling good. I'm gonna stop feeling good, I'm gonna stop getting specific. Like if you put a seed in the ground, it's gonna take however long it takes for it to grow. That's how long it's gonna take for it to grow. If you overwater it, you're gonna kill it. You can't, like, you can't make it grow faster than it's gonna grow, okay? But your job is to plant the seed and leave it planted. It's gonna take as long as it's gonna take, but I'm not digging that seed up. That seed is going to stay there. I'm not digging it up, okay? But eventually, as you get that momentum going, the details gonna start filling theyself in. The ideal's gonna find you. Think about it. When you come up with your best ideas, you usually not looking for an idea. The best ideas you ever had, you rarely find a good idea while you, hmm, let me figure this out. You get your best ideas when you're in the shower. Yeah. You get your best ideas when you're on a long drive. You get your best ideas when you're sitting out there with a fishing pole and you just hanging out. You get your best ideas— I get a lot of good ideas when I'm just sitting. I'll be sitting down smoking a blunt. Oh man, where my laptop at? Hold on, hold on, let me check that. Wait, nobody ain't took that name yet? That's available? That's up for grabs? Oh man, you ever had an idea so good you're like, I know somebody already thought of that? Check it every time. I came up with ideas, I'm like, man, that's way too good. I know somebody that can't— nobody ain't— oh man, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. Like, I just knew how Coach Bosses was gonna be taken. Nobody ain't. I just knew I coach coaches was gonna be taken. Nobody ain't. Okay, but think about I didn't go out searching for the idea. I got myself feeling good. I got myself feeling good. I got myself from under the influence of what I wanted, and I start feeling what I wanted. You gotta realize, like we was talking about, the word manifest means recognizable by the senses. It didn't say recognized by the sense of sight. It said recognized by the senses. So if I can feel it, I'm manifesting. If I can hear it, I'm manifesting. We all got this voice inside of our head. Your voice probably just said, what voice? That one. That one right there. You, you can— can you Everybody here been to the ATM before, right? If you decide to, can you hear that little sound that the ATM make when it spit your money out? Because manifesting means obvious to the senses. If I can hear it, I'm manifesting it. If I can feel it, I'm manifesting it. If you close your eyes and you can't see me but you still can hear me, am I there? And you say all 5 senses had to be latched on to manifest. It's obvious to the senses. You got 5 of them. Which sense can you wrap around your desire right now? Appreciate you, April. Which sense can you wrap around your desire right here, right now? Can you feel it? Can you feel the having of it? Because if you can feel it, just keep feeling it and it'll spill over into the other senses. It'll spill over into the other senses. Start with the one you got. Feel it. Hear it. See it. Even if you got to go online to see it. Even if you got to go test drive it to see it. See it. What senses can I put on it from right here, right now? Oh, they just restricted my live. They ain't like that comment I made about the devil's lettuce. But we didn't hit a good stopping point for the day anyway. I'm gonna hang out for a little bit in case any of you guys got questions, and that's gonna be that. I'm putting these replays on the podcast. So if you guys want these replays, go into the link in the bio and it's the second button. And if you're not in the Dreams in Action community, come on now, what are you even doing? Get in the Dreams in Action community. And if you wondering like, do I have enough clarity? If you feel like you don't know if you have enough clarity to get started, the first link on my bio is a clarity quiz. Take that clarity quiz. Take that clarity quiz. Take that clarity quiz. Oh, when you feel it in your heart, you right on track. That heart, that solar plexus, that spine, there's some magical stuff that happened there. Magical, magical stuff. I'm gonna do it. All right, don't like we got any questions. I might be live later today. I got some sessions and stuff to knock out, but I might go back live later today. Love y'all. Ain't nothing y'all could do about it. I'll see y'all later, man. Thank y'all for the taps. Thank y'all for y'all attention.
