Most people can list what they hate about their job or life but can't say what they actually want. A coach asks: if you waved a magic wand, what would be different? You can do this work yourself by flipping each complaint into a desired outcome.
Wow. When I meet people, they all have clarity. But guess what? They have clarity in what they don't want. They don't have clarity in what they want. Read the bottom of that. Clear vision and understanding of one's goals and objectives. Most people, when I first meet them, they got a clear vision and understanding of what they don't want. They come to their first session with me and go, man, I hate my job. I hate my job. My boss is doing this. It ain't no room for growth. I've been at this company for 7 years. I haven't had one promotion. Who's at a company for 7 years without one promotion? My performance is good. I'm on time. And they talking, talking, talking, talking, talking, talking, talking about what they don't want. They got clarity about what they don't want. I said, okay, what would you rather have, man? If this was a magic wand and I can— what would be different? They just sit there and look at me because they've never asked theyself the question, what do I want? Or if they do give me an answer, my boss would start doing this, my boss would start— look, your boss not in this session. I'm finna coach you. I'm finna work with you. If you want me to change your boss, you gotta get your boss in here. Your boss is not on my couch. You are. What do you want? And we usually just take that whole first session getting clear about what they want. If you get clear about what you want now and then call me, you'll save yourself a lot of money. You could get clarity on your own. I will help you, but you don't need me to get clarity. It's as simple as looking at what you don't like. I don't like this. I don't like this. I don't like this.
